Pity Party - Just Need Some Well Wishes from DVC Community

[ArRzrbk]

Hopefully this is an OK use of this board. Still not sure what type of posts belong here

Our first trip home is in just about two weeks, and I am having a huge pity party. Honestly, the whole family (DH, DS - just turned 1 on Saturday, DS - will turn 3 on trip), has been sick since the end of January with colds, strep, stomach virus, sinus infections, now flu, and I've just been diagnosed with pneumonia and a partially collapsed lung. The cold, rain, illness, our stressful jobs, and us being so far from most of our family really has me down.

I had been so excited about the trip to Disney and the planning and the packing. Now I am not even sure I can pull it together. DS 1st birthday was Saturday, and I was barely able to bake him a cake - his Aunt had to help. No presents. No decorations. And Easter Sunday didn't even happen. No church. No eggs. No baskets

And if that wasn't enough, oldest DS has to have top two teeth pulled tomorrow morning. Fractured them when he was very little, and they just aren't making it. Two dentists said they need to go, and we already post-poned once due to illness. It is making me sick to think that little boy won't have his top two teeth for years. I understand the permanent ones won't come in until he is 7 or 8. He has had three surgeries already in his little life. Now this.

My mom is 16 hours away and can't come up to help. Gram is the one who helped us buy into DVC, when I got the shock that what I thought was OK wasn't possible financially. DH didn't want to tell me, and he waited until I already had the ball rolling with paperwork and all. Gram is going with us on our trip, which is a bright spot. Anyway...

DH's boss is not supportive of him taking me to the doctor for my appointments. She was mad about him having to take the children to the doctor too. She even makes him report in if he is up from his desk for more than 10 minutes! And we supposidly work for a very family friendly company. Our jobs are so stressful. They are killing us I think.

Just a big ole pity party for me, folks. Can you please help cheer me?

 

[CarolA]

Not sure what to say, but...
remember that your 1 year old will NEVER recall that he didn't get a big birthday party. He's one! They are easy to please at that age. The party was really for you so it's OK that he didn't get one!

Your son will be fine without his teeth. It will probably be better then what he is going through now.

I am sure things will get better. Just plan on this being a low key trip. Remember that you own DVC, you DO NOT have to do everything this trip.... you will be back MANY MANY times! Repeat that mantra every day!!!! Plan downtime by the pool for every day! Stop and smell the roses!

 

[kathyseb]

My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We took our first trip to WDW the year before we were married. Granted we have taken many many trips since then, but we had major problems on out second trip home.
My husband had had minor surgery and was not snapping back the way either of us had liked.
We went to DW the week after Thanksgiving 2004 even though he was not feeling up to it.
Not only did I drive the entire way there and back, but we went back to the room almost every day for him to take a nap.
When we got home, he FINALLY went to the dr. His iron level was at 5.5. They told him it should be between 14-16. A far way off.
As of 12-31-04, he went on 975 mgs of iron a day. He just got a call from the dr last Monday that his levels were back to normal.
Even with all that, we still had fun. It was nice to get away and be together. And as Carol said, you will be making many many more trips. So don't dwell on the negative, go down, take it easy and enjoy yourselves.

 

[tinkgrl]

Hi,

Just relax & have a great time!!!! Like others have said don't worry about what you can't do. Do you feel you can & have a good time doing it!!!

Allison

 

[carol1231]

I think you just need a good dose of Florida Sunshine. It cures everything!!!

Have a fabulous trip!

 

[disgirl]

I hope that you will physically be ready for this trip, because it really sounds like you could all use some relaxation and fun!! Take it easy and as the others here have said, do not push yourselves on this trip, but try to relax (as much as a mother of 2 little children can ) You will hopefully have many more trips to look forward to! Here's wishing all of you good health and a great trip!

 

[SueOKW]

Pack light - and relax when you get there. We've been sick too - and had about the same kind of Easter.

You'll be there soon!!!!

 

[GeorgiaTiggerGirl]

Hope you are feeling better soon and have a good vacation! Just don't push yourself and enjoy being there.

 

[SB in KY]

I agree with CarolA...the baby will never remember his first BD....it was for you not him....he is better off having a few extra hugs and cuddles from Mom than a party he wouldn't understand anyways....DS will just get to be extra cute with the "snaggle tooth smile" a little longer than most (I was always sad when those "big" teeth came in....they were so cute without them!!) and the extraction will probably be more traumatic for you than for him.

Take a deep breath and remind yourself that it will be OK....the kids will grow up and not be sick all winter....and as bad as you feel right now, there are lots of people out there that would trade places with you in a heartbeat (moms that would take pneumonia over cancer in a flash or a child with missing teeth over one with a life long disability in a heartbeat)....just make yourself realize the glass is really 1/2 full!!

Besides you have a wonderful week of sunshine and warmth and delight headed your way.... as awful as the past few months have been (and I do feel for you....I remember well the blues of being in with sick babies all winter) remember it DOES get better.

Hang in there!!

 

[MermaidsMom]

You poor baby!! Please take it easy with your pnenomia, you have to be healthy to care for everyone else! If you aren't ready to go maybe you need to postpone the trip until you can enjoy it. Get your rest, don't worry about the teeth (when he's 9 you won't even remember this). It probably bothers you more now because of you being sick. Take care!!

 

[Tooneric]

Wow, you need a vacation! Sending some magic your way so hang in there!

 

[O2BNWDW]

Go and have a great time, you need it! Even if you have to slow down more that you would like.

Don't worry about the teeth, just make sure you all have a safe trip. Disney is good for all ailments I hear!!

 

[Mellie2162]

Im so sorry that all these things are happening to you. Our family has been plagued with sickness this year as well. Hopefully things will start looking up and you all will get better. I always always always plan until I literally make myself sick and the first 2 days of our trip I can count on having a migraine or being ill. The good thing is I get better and we always have a great trip. I know what it feels like not to be able to get those things done. You feel so helpless. I actually drug myself out while I was sick (not as sick as you) to get basket stuff because I was just sure that I would be sicker by Easter. I know Im a paranoid freak. Anyway, I hope all of you get better soon. By the way I see you are from MD. Where abouts are you Im on the eastern shore.

 

[MiaSRN62]

Char,
Hope everyone is feeling better real soon. Sure sounds like you all are going through an awful lot. Stress can really wear you down. Hoping you find the time for rest and relaxation in WDW. Just take it easy down there and try and soak up some sun and warmth and a little dose of pixie dust .

 

[Cruelladeville]

My goodness, you have had a hard winter! The kids won't remember this winter, although you will, so don't stress! You're making yourself sick over everything! OK, this is to make you feel better:

One year ago, the day before our trip to WDW, I ended up in emergency. I couldn't walk, woke up that way. It was sciatic syndrome, BUT...my red blood cell count was 4.0, I was bleeding internally, and had a huge uterus. I still went to Florida, and spent it in a wheelchair.

Spent the rest of the spring testing for cancer--it was negative, my uterus was removed June 10. Two weeks later, I went to Florida in a wheelchair.

I had colonoscopy, and had my gall bladder out July 29, collapsed a lung, had to stay in the hospital 4 days...and went to Florida in a wheelchair Aug 8.

I fell on the ice Dec. 14, tore ACL, etc., and went to WDW on Dec 19....in a wheelchair...

I had surgery to repair the ACL on Feb. 9, went to Florida March 1...in a wheelchair...

Are you feeling better yet? I'm terrific! I got a whole ton of trips to Florida, and people pushed me around while I got a suntan You will someday look back on this winter, and find ways tothank God that you got past it all

 

[ArRzrbk]

You all are the absolute best! Thank you for all the well wishes, stories to help me put things in perspective, and the good humor - loved the little "Smiles" too. Some of them were hilarious!

I do feel better this morning, as does my husband. We are ready to face the oral surgeon with our son. I am going to keep my chin up, and remember how lucky we are in so many ways.

Sun is on the way - here in Maryland and for us in Florida Thanks for everything!

 

[bobbiwoz]

It's great to hear that you all are feeling better! Have a wonderful vacation.

Bobbi

 

[cristbaby]

Glad you're feeling better today. Enjoy your trip!

 

[vettechick99]

I was sick right before my October trip, but once I got there I was feeling much better!! No better place to be sick, I say!

Hope this will brighten your day.

 

[Cruelladeville]

I'm so glad that you are feeling better! I felt guilty last night that I may have overdone things, and made you feel worse rather than better! How did the oral surgeon thing go?