Petals & Pixie Dust Planning Journal 11/30/2009/2010

[MainStMandy]

YAY! You posted pics! I love the band!!

 

[ghoulish delight]

Yay!! Your wedding band is so very prettiful!!

 

[torsie24]

Wow! I love your wedding band. It really looks gorgeous with your e-ring too! A perfect pair!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

oh i LOVE your wedding band!!! Its so pretty!!! Good choice dear!

Thank you!

YAY! You posted pics! I love the band!!

Thanks!

Yay!! Your wedding band is so very prettiful!!

Thank you bunches!

Wow! I love your wedding band. It really looks gorgeous with your e-ring too! A perfect pair!

I love it!

 

[polynesianbride]

The band is just perfect I would have such a hard time not wearing it before the wedding!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

The band is just perfect I would have such a hard time not wearing it before the wedding!

Thanks! I do want to put it on and prance around in it!

I think it might be 1/2 a size too small...it fits perfectly...but therre is a little tugging going on to get it off. Which is good...but I'm not sure how this is going to work when we get married...heat + humidity=bloated my e-ring is a 1/2 size bigger than the band...I'm thinking about going up a size...but I'll cross that bridge when we get to it a few months before the wedding...

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

So, after finding my ring DF wasn't certain that the ring that he had picked out (posted on p. 22...I think) He had tried some on and didn't like them. He knew he wanted a diamond but that was it. So, he set out in search of a diamond-which didn't take long. Gotta love a man that loves diamonds!

We had found a couple rings online that he liked but nothing he was in love with. Then he started to customize stuff. That wasn't working. He was running into not being able to do things b/c of the different temperatures that different metals could be worked on at. He's want something else and that wouldn't work. I think he was getting a little ...not frustrated...but let down b/c the things that he wanted just were not going to work out. He spent a lot of time looking I'm afraid I wasn't too much help. I wanted HIM to pick his ring and I wanted HIM to be happy with it. I gave my input when asked. (No, that setting is too high up. Yes, I like that one better) So, last night we went to the mall. Now, my DF is a nerd. My father calls him the "Geek" -I may have mentioned this already. I'm convinced he will find the end of the internet someday.-Keep this in mind.

So, we are at the mall and we go to the first store. Sales woman couldn't be bothered and DF didn't find anything he liked. Moving on. The second store we went to remembered us from the week before (impressive) and allowed him to look at what ever he wanted, sized him and was very helpful. Still nothing he was in love with-but they were having one of those setting shows-they might have something...
Next store...Oh this poor girl my DF (remember Super Geek) talked the poor girl into circles! Apparently, unbeknownst to me he knows all the places where to have custom work done. She was very nice, offered for him to come to the setting show this weekend and speak with their jeweler. Her face was priceless when he obviously knew more than she did. Not so smart when you're trying to sell something...but funny. We left and all he could do was giggle! (Ok so, I shouldn't be laughing at someone's lack of knowledge-to others she may be incredibly well versed in her store-but DF had her!)
Third store...This gave DF the opportunity to yet again just run circles around the sales woman. He wants a tension set band in titanium. The sales woman says "Aren't you afraid of loosing the diamond." He replies-"No." Explains to me later something about titanium, tension settings, and the strength of the metal-I had a headache and didn't remember much. Again, he wasn't impressed with her-but they did have something similar to what he was looking for... He got all sorts of smiley and happy about it. It looked great on his finger! (No pics of the experience..Not sure if they would have let me take them and the lighting was bad anyway) He seemed very happy. Again, the dang headache was keeping me from being really super excited for him (sorry honey!) but I reassured him that I liked it and that it looked great a couple of times.

Here is the one he is looking at getting.. It's from Boone Rings. Imagine the center stone square instead of round.

So, we will see what happens, but it looks like we have a winner (for now All thing subject to change of course! )

On the job front...I interviewed for a job yesterday for a photography studio!!! It sounds cool and could go from seasonal to full time which is good. I'm having a hard time finding work in my field. This guy had 300 applications-and he only ran the ad one Sunday! That's the kind of competition that is out there! Keep the pixie dust coming! Even if it's only until the end of the year it's something!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

That ring is GORGEOUS, and I love the idea with a square diamond

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

That ring is GORGEOUS, and I love the idea with a square diamond

Thanks! I am sure DF will like to hear that! I really like it too and with the square diamond I think it will look great.

The only thing with a tension setting is that it can't be re-sized. So, what ever he gets is it. If he needs to have it resized he has to have a whole new ring made! He seemed cool with it and said something like "People change their rings all the time. So, if I need a new one I'll just get a new one." The woman at the last jewelry store we went to was shocked!

 

[figment fan21]

I can imagine the lady at the jewelry stores face!!!

I love that ring though! I'm also a sucked for square stones... DF made sure that he got me a princess cut for my engagement ring. I think it'd look awesome in that tension band too! I would love to get something like that for DF but he doesn't want any bling! He is such a plain jane... um joe... you can't call a man a plain jane can you?

Anyway I'm glad you're getting your wedding band situation all figured out! I can't wait to go shopping for mine I love jewelry i just dont have the $$$ to support the habit!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

I can imagine the lady at the jewelry stores face!!!

I love that ring though! I'm also a sucked for square stones... DF made sure that he got me a princess cut for my engagement ring. I think it'd look awesome in that tension band too! I would love to get something like that for DF but he doesn't want any bling! He is such a plain jane... um joe... you can't call a man a plain jane can you?

Anyway I'm glad you're getting your wedding band situation all figured out! I can't wait to go shopping for mine I love jewelry i just dont have the $$$ to support the habit!

The lady at the jewelry store was priceless...She looked at me like I was suppose to stop him or put my foot down or something Hey, if he knows the consequences then ya know what...the boy gets what he wants!

 

[figment fan21]

The lady at the jewelry store was priceless...She looked at me like I was suppose to stop him or put my foot down or something Hey, if he knows the consequences then ya know what...the boy gets what he wants!

Agreed! If he doesn't mind then hey, its his ring!

 

[ghoulish delight]

Your DF's potential ring is awesome!! I can imagine it with the square diamond instead, and that'd make it look very masculine and really nice!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Deleted b/c there are 2 sides to every story...and it will work out...I'm just frustrated.

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Your DF's potential ring is awesome!! I can imagine it with the square diamond instead, and that'd make it look very masculine and really nice!

Thanks.

 

[figment fan21]

I completely know where you're coming from. I'm going through the same situation just about different things. I can't tell you how many times i've gotten emotional over this whole experience and i can tell you're the same way. Just know that we're here to help you through and to let you vent!

As far as compromising goes... yes a marriage is about compromise but that doesn't mean you have to compromise the things you want and worked so hard to get. I completely agree that you should NOT have to pay for anyones airfare to attend. DF and I just went to a wedding that was 3 hours away and no only did DF have to go early drive hom to get me and then drive back (something like 12 hours of driving that weekend) but we also had to pay for our hotel room... nobody pays for other people to attend their wedding. Its also not like you didn't give them a sufficient amount of time.

I'd take a day away from planning to relax and calm down and then i'd talk to your DF about it and let him know how you're feeling and bring up that no matter what you've always had a great time on your disney trips and that this one will be no different.

 

[MainStMandy]

Awww I'm so sorry I think at some point we all have a breaking point about wedding related things, and it's different for all of us. I don't think you should feel like a bridezilla or feel bad for the things you want. You and df just need to communicate...even if you have in the past. One thing df and I keep learning is that we can always learn something new about communicating with each other.

Things will get better...and you always have us to vent too!!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

As far as compromising goes... yes a marriage is about compromise but that doesn't mean you have to compromise the things you want and worked so hard to get. I completely agree that you should NOT have to pay for anyones airfare to attend. DF and I just went to a wedding that was 3 hours away and no only did DF have to go early drive hom to get me and then drive back (something like 12 hours of driving that weekend) but we also had to pay for our hotel room... nobody pays for other people to attend their wedding. Its also not like you didn't give them a sufficient amount of time.

Thank you-at least one more person agrees with me. He has a family member that is having a wedding in I think NC in May 2010. When he told me that we will have to travel there for that I almost blurted out "Are they paying our airfare?" I bit my tongue...

Awww I'm so sorry I think at some point we all have a breaking point about wedding related things, and it's different for all of us. I don't think you should feel like a bridezilla or feel bad for the things you want. You and df just need to communicate...even if you have in the past. One thing df and I keep learning is that we can always learn something new about communicating with each other.

Things will get better...and you always have us to vent too!!

We do need to communicate. We obviously have distinctly DIFFERENT views on what the wedding money should be used for.

Thank you for letting me vent. I appreciate it. *sigh* It will work out-it always does.

 

[malibustacey]

Hun, heres a big

I COMPLETELY understand. Why the heck do you have to pay for other people to attend your wedding, whether its family or not- if they have had 2 years to save up then they should be paying for themselves- no matter how rich or poor. Unless you have both agreed to pay for the airfares which you havent! You spend the money on YOUR wedding.

The things we have to go through, with planning and everything, it just makes you laugh when they think like its nothing, but if it was the other way round, they wouldnt have a clue like you said.

You need to take a break from it for a little while, focus on YOU for a bit. you seem to have thought about everyone else, and the problems that everyone else has brought up so just forget it for a few days and concentrate on you and DF, and then when you feel like you will be able to keep calm for 'the chat', then go for it and be open, because its your wedding day.

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Thanks Stacey.
I agree. It's time to take a break...just a little from all of this. We never get anywhere with these conversations. If you look back in my PJ you'll see places where I do my best to NOT say anything and be politically correct-there are 2 sides to every story and I don't want to make my DF look like a terrible guy b/c he really isn't...We are just on 2 pages of 2 entirely separate books. (deep breath) it will work out...

Thank you all. It helps having girls to chat with.