Parents of the Class of 2019

[PollyannaMom]

They did go to the club fair together and apparently signed up for the curling club He said it sounded different, so they said they'd give it a shot.

My cousin did curling, and he loved it!

 

[mjkacmom]

First day of classes today for my son - nothing like starting off right away with an 8am class. Actually, his Mechanical Engineering Lab, which is Mon-Thurs. at 8am. He switched one class during the weekend - they assign each freshman a schedule and then after they meet with their advisor, they can change classes if they'd like. He didn't want back to back classes on a couple days a week (2pm and 3pm), so he switched out one of his core classes. Plus, it was something that sounded more interesting than the politics class they had assigned him.

Apparently, he didn't see his roommate a lot this week - they were in two different orientation groups and they're in different schools as well (Engineering vs. Science) so most of the activities for the week were separate from each other. Not sure if that was a good thing or bad - we'll see. On one hand, it should have made him meet other people other than his roommate, but it also sounds like his roommate made a bunch of other friends separate from our son, so it kind of sounds like he was feeling left out of stuff. They did go to the club fair together and apparently signed up for the curling club He said it sounded different, so they said they'd give it a shot. He also signed up for the climbing club, which is one club that I know he wanted to do all along - I think that's a club that he'll definitely take to and probably make some friends in. He loves rock climbing and they have a stand alone climbing barn on campus.

Hopefully now that he's starting classes, he'll meet a bunch of engineering students that he'll get to know as well.

At UD they put kids together in dorms, the honors program kids stay together, (plus other groups) and the floors do so many activities together. I’m curious how it plays out, it’s kind of like grade school, where kids end up being friends mostly with kids in their class. I guess it’s nice to start off with others you get to spend a lot of time with off the bat, but I assume they branch off at some point and make friends based on mutual interests and personalities. I’m glad Dd plans (so far) on staying on campus next year, apartment deposits are due early October, and I can’t imagine finding a bunch of roommates to commit to living with next year this soon.

 

[soccerdad72]

I think orientation groups were totally random, because he said there weren't any engineering majors in his group (and he said his orientation leader was a dud). I think they ate dinner with their groups most of the week. The good part was at least they made him get out and try a bunch of different restaurants on campus, so he knows there's a lot of choices. The bad part was that since he didn't like anyone in his group, it meant pretty much being forced into eating with people he wouldn't have chosen on his own.

And apparently, he told my wife last night that all of the kids on his floor (I'm sure this is an exaggeration) are 'd-bags'.

 

[tink1970]

That is so cute! I wish UNE had something similar, as I'm sure he'll be missing his cat a lot. (Well, technically, they're both family cats, but one definitely considers him "her" person.)

I wish DD had that too-she misses "her" (that she rarely walked, fed or let out) four dogs so I'm texting her a Dog of the Day text daily (with, not surprisingly, no reply) and occasionally one of her fish will be thrown in too. Hopefully that will help.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Just came across this old thread (while searching for a different one I couldn't find - but, hey, silver lining) and thought this would be a good time to revive it here:

Care Package Ideas

 

[TB'sWidow]

Is everyone's child who's living on campus moved in now, or are there still a few yet to go?

Talked to DS last night via Facetime and he seemed well... although he was only half paying attention to us. (I think he was reading something on his computer screen while he had our facetime in the corner!) They had a busy weekend with lots of planned activities. DS was all over campus attending required and optional events (I'm sure 'getting your bearings on campus' was part of the point of having the activities so spread out.) Yesterday ended with convocation and a class photo, followed by a picnic on the lawn of his dorm. Today is the first day of classes.

Wishing everyone well!

Edited to add: Not all sunshine and roses, though. I think 72 hours must be DS's limit on living with someone without them getting on his nerves. ;-) Nothing major... but he's not always a patient guy. The roommate is apparently slow and inefficient about getting ready. They did almost everything together over welcome weekend and DS felt like he spent a ton of time waiting on the roommate to be ready to go. And when there were choices, DS would ask the roommate what he wanted to do, and the roommate didn't know. So DS would make a suggestion and the roommate would kind of shrug. So DS felt like he ended up making all of the decisions for both of them -- often trying to guess what the roommate wanted, and it still didn't seem like the roommate was thrilled with the choices. DS said he was looking forward to classes so they wouldn't be QUITE so much on the same schedule.

We don’t leave till Thursday for move in which as I can tell by Dd peers seems to be late as they have all moved in , some have started classes too.
I am starting to feel anxious to be honest an keep going over the check list and if we have everything .

 

[design_mom]

We don’t leave till Thursday for move in which as I can tell by Dd peers seems to be late as they have all moved in , some have started classes too.
I am starting to feel anxious to be honest an keep going over the check list and if we have everything .

In my opinion, those days leading up to moving him were the worst days... especially after other friends started leaving and you could not ignore that it was imminent. Not that I don't miss him tons -- because I do -- but the anticipation was worse for me than the reality. I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious, but I can certainly empathize!

 

[bjscheel]

Just got a mini report from DD20 who visited DD18 at college yesterday/overnight for her birthday today. She is doing really great, making friends and loves her roommate. Seeing her sister made her remember home though (so I'm glad us parents stayed away and hope she is already back in her groove). Boyfriend had come the day after move-in but no talk of another visit yet so she misses him but it's understandable being in HS and in football he is not going to drive down real often.

She hopes to go to his game Friday night and then home for the long weekend but needs to confirm if there is play rehearsal on Sunday (which would stink- right in the middle of a holiday weekend).

 

[ColoradoDisneyFreaks]

We leave on Thursday to take DD to Boston. She's pretty much packed, at least the things that we're taking with us, we're going to buy a lot of stuff there. She still filled 4 suitcases. 2 of them are hers, and she'll keep them there, the other 2 are ours and we'll take them with us and come home with an empty one.

She's been group chatting with her suitemates for a couple of weeks so they're somewhat familiar with each other, and she's got a good list of things to get for the room so Friday will be a whirlwind, then move in appointment is 9:15am on Saturday. We'll stay and help unpack for a bit, then take DD to lunch and head for our anniversary getaway in Maine.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I did great on drop-off day, great yesterday...but today I'm a mess. I just keep over-reacting to dumb little day-to-day stuff, and I know underneath, it's really about DS leaving.

 

[tink1970]

I did great on drop-off day, great yesterday...but today I'm a mess. I just keep over-reacting to dumb little day-to-day stuff, and I know underneath, it's really about DS leaving.

It's okay, you're adjusting to your new normal and it might take some time. Hugs!

 

[mom2rtk]

I did great on drop-off day, great yesterday...but today I'm a mess. I just keep over-reacting to dumb little day-to-day stuff, and I know underneath, it's really about DS leaving.

I promise it will get better.

 

[Eureka]

I did great on drop-off day, great yesterday...but today I'm a mess. I just keep over-reacting to dumb little day-to-day stuff, and I know underneath, it's really about DS leaving.

I was the same way the day after we dropped him. It's been almost a week now and we've gotten texts from him every day (saying next to nothing, but I know he's alive, lol) but it's not the same as him being here. If he was talking to us in person he'd have told us about everything. We'll all get used to it...sigh.

 

[mom2rtk]

I was the same way the day after we dropped him. It's been almost a week now and we've gotten texts from him every day (saying next to nothing, but I know he's alive, lol) but it's not the same as him being here. If he was talking to us in person he'd have told us about everything. We'll all get used to it...sigh.

It's been several weeks here, and I still find myself looking at the clock wondering when she'll be home from school. Oops. Or I need something at the store and thinking I'll go when she's home and will come along. Oops again. Still getting used to the new normal. It helps a lot that she seems very happy and enthusiastic about all of it.

 

[soccerdad72]

I was the same way the day after we dropped him. It's been almost a week now and we've gotten texts from him every day (saying next to nothing, but I know he's alive, lol) but it's not the same as him being here. If he was talking to us in person he'd have told us about everything. We'll all get used to it...sigh.

The one thing I take solace in is that even if our son was living at home, commuting to school, we'd get about the same responses as we're getting now. In other words, next to nothing. Asked him the past couple days how classes have been - the response each time, "They're ok". Thanks for all the info!

 

[bjscheel]

DD has been very upbeat but we called Monday for her birthday and she was glum. It was a very hectic day and she just wanted to be home with us, her cats, her boyfriend, and no homework. She had to add theatre shop and rehearsals to her schedule starting that day. The big 1-8 was hitting her too, for some reason she has had in her head that she did not want to be 18 (too grown up?). So it bothered me that night that her schedule was getting even more crammed and that she seemed unhappy. DD20 had visited her over the weekend and reassured me that she was doing really great (at least before the new additions to her schedule).

I haven't talked to her but I think yesterday was a better day. Could tell by her Snapchat and Instagram that she had gone to the local lake which is great. Lake time is good for her soul . DH just asked how her first full day of 18 was and she said Good. Asked how the lake was and she said Good. She hasn't said if theatre rehearsal was fun or what the play is or her role. I'm sure if she doesn't call this week we will hear all about things this weekend when she is home. She is the type to tell me everything and we've had many late nights talking. Ready for another one!

 

[PollyannaMom]

I promise it will get better.

Thanks, I am feeling better today (though of course I'll likely go up and down several more times!)

 

[Eureka]

The one thing I take solace in is that even if our son was living at home, commuting to school, we'd get about the same responses as we're getting now. In other words, next to nothing. Asked him the past couple days how classes have been - the response each time, "They're ok". Thanks for all the info!

Yup, we've gotten a "good" and "yes the lectures are large" and "someone in my class is from [DH's hometown]" LOL.

 

[McKelly]

We dropped off DS yesterday, stayed longer than we probably should have, but after dinner I gave him a hug, said you'll do great, we'll miss you, and I'll text you when we get home so you know I made it home safe (joke because I always asked him to do that when he drove places). I knew he was crying, I couldn't look at him, and when I glanced up at his dorm room he was waving good bye and I lost it. My DH looked at me and said, "you're raining." I honestly don't cry that much and I didn't realize I had such big, fat tears! I had a light blue shirt on and it looked like raindrops were hitting me!
His roommate arrives on Saturday, so I know that it weighing on his mind yet and he started his campus job today. There is only about four boys on his floor yet. I don't know if that's a good or a bad thing?

 

[PollyannaMom]

@McKelly!