He doesn’t require it but his wife is also home too as they are both retired, the lessons are only 1/2 and hour so it’s not like you would be an to get a lot done dropping them off and coming back. I agree that I wouldn’t want to be alone with a kid either that aren’t my own.
I don't think anyone has said you can NEVER take away electronics, but phones and electronics ARE a key part of social life for most teenagers. You don't put someone in jail for jaywalking, and you shouldn't take away electronics for a minor issue. And yes, the situation described in the OP IS minor. If the situation was repeated time and time again, then it's a different story.
IDK hate is a strong word but it's not all that uncommon for it to be uttered at some point in someone's life towards a relative. Rarely are the words meant in true heat. But it is also why there are coaching on how to say how you feel in different words. I don't think people are saying they believe that to be appropriate to say I hate you, not sure you'd actually find people who would say it was. I believe the poster was just saying they appreciated that their children could vocalize how they felt because that doesn't happen with kid growing up. Def. people can handle being told to shut up or I hate you in different ways though.
Hahahaha. Jail for jaywalking! You act a fool then you lose a privilege. It's called parenting.
I really don’t see it as minor. As I mentioned in my first post, to me, this was quite disrespectful of the time and money they’d put into giving the child the privilege of being afforded music lessons. Not everyone is so fortunate and the kid acted like an entitled brat. (As did one of mine for blowing off his guitar lessons.)
This is very true ,I didn’t mention it in my first post because of that.
At that time lots of kids their age were into Guitar Hero which had just come out. So yes, it was a privilege to be afforded those lessons which cost us a great deal of money that we worked very hard for. We are not made of money. I can’t imagine being so disrespectful to that teacher, or to us. I also would’ve been mortified. The ability to play piano, especially within a family with a strong musical background, is a really amazing gift.
I don't know when you grew up but for a long long time kids have uttered phrases such as that. In the past it was much more acceptable (we didn't necessarily know the damage or it wasn't as widespread given attention) for an immediate physical reaction. I grew up in the belt across your butt was viewed in a different light for example. Unfortunately you also have hit (no pun intended) upon the note about disrespect because a lot of that comes down to parenting styles. Disrespect doesn't mean the same thing to others. For some their line is a lot further away in the sand than others.
I don’t think anyone jumped to that conclusion or believes that’s what happened. Or that’s what anyone automatically assumes in every situation.
I did it, and my mom, for the first and last time, slapped my face. I was being a horrible brat, my mom was the best mom in the world, my home life was ideal (my HS friends visited my mom in the hospital 5 years ago when she was dying of cancer and thanked her for everything, our house was their safe house). None of my 5 kids have said that to us, they never would, they’re very easy going and it would not be in their nature, even at their hormonal worst. I can’t imagine my husband telling anyone he hated them, I’ve known him since he was 12, and his parents and siblings are awesome and sweet.
IMO, and apparently others here, the "act" the child did doesn't rise to the OP's choice of privilege to lose, hence "jail for jaywalking".
Again, end the lesson and make the child pay for the lesson (reimburse the parents).
I think we should all pay attention to that sixth sense we have, for sure. But the notion that her response would be that type of reaction was what I found bizarre.
That’s one option. Ten parents might have ten different reactions.
I'm not following.I don't know when you grew up but for a long long time kids have uttered phrases such as that. In the past it was much more acceptable (we didn't necessarily know the damage or it wasn't as widespread given attention) for an immediate physical reaction. I grew up in the belt across your butt was viewed in a different light for example. Unfortunately you also have hit (no pun intended) upon the note about disrespect because a lot of that comes down to parenting styles. Disrespect doesn't mean the same thing to others. For some their line is a lot further away in the sand than others.
I'm not sure you should be glad because you lived under the threat of physical action should you have stepped out of line, maybe that worked for you, but it's far from a psychologically safe place as a base line for childhood development although again as I mentioned I must give attention that for certain cultures and ethnicities things are viewed differently.
I said you could imagine not that you were hit. "could never imagine saying that to someone that I loved" and I replied that while you couldn't imagine that, you could imagine being hit by your parent should you have said that ("if I had dared tell my mom to shut up or that I hated her, I probably would have been popped in the mouth."). My apologies but I'm not exactly finding the reason to be what you saw in movies. While I could be incorrect you may have grown up under the understanding should you have said something that to your parents was so severe, to them, that an equally severe reaction would have been likely to occur. I don't know what movies you are watching TBH. Regardless I just found the more nonchalant way physical was handled in comparison to the I hate you/shut up part to be lopsided but understand a YMMV applies here
Because different cultures find different things acceptable and I don't presume to assume the cultures and ethnicities of the DIS posters without them explicitly saying so (and some posters do share). It was my way of trying not to assume things about you (ETA: and it was in reference to my earlier comment to Alicefan about different ethnicities as well which you can look up a few pages back). Obviously you didn't appreciate me trying not to assume your race or ethnicity. Have a good day though.
Something like that probably depends on the kid. My daughter would eat it up and welcome the attention. She'd be the first to laugh along with everyone and add to the story by acting it out.
We're never too serious around here
