Over the Top Prom invites- Is this now a thing?

[sk!mom]

My was DD asked to Prom this weekend. The invitation came with a Harry Potter theme. Complete with an owl balloon delivering a book and a message and then clues to get her through the book to the Prom invite. It was very cute.

I got to work this morning and my boss showed me a DVD of her son's invite to his girlfriend. He utilized the scoreboard at the football stadium and even had fireworks on the screen after she said yes.

Is this something else that we can attribute to social media? Is it a "thing" every where?

I kind of feel sorry for the boys. It's not enough any more to get up the nerve to ask a girl, now you have to have some type of presentation.

 

[disney junky]

My was DD asked to Prom this weekend. The invitation came with a Harry Potter theme. Complete with an owl balloon delivering a book and a message and then clues to get her through the book to the Prom invite. It was very cute.

I got to work this morning and my boss showed me a DVD of her son's invite to his girlfriend. He utilized the scoreboard at the football stadium and even had fireworks on the screen after she said yes.

Is this something else that we can attribute to social media? Is it a "thing" every where?

I kind of feel sorry for the boys. It's not enough any more to get up the nerve to ask a girl, now you have to have some type of presentation.

I think it's not just social media. I think it's society.

 

[powellrj]

I was just talking to my DD this morning about how laid back she is about prom this year. Even last year when she was a jr and her date was the prom king, they were still really laid back. No limo, no fancy dinner... I am not sure she even has a date! Last year they went to Texas Roadhouse and went in one of their groups moms mini van. This year I think she is driving her brothers SUV and they are eating at Olive Garden. Last years king and queen are both in her group this year and its just really low key. I asked her how many kids had a limo and she said only one and they were a group of 18.

She is the last one of 3, so I am glad none of my kids went overboard on prom. Even homecoming was really low key. She only went to the dance because she was in the court and had to show up and the kids in the court were the only ones that were all dressed up.

I don't know if its because she goes to a really small county school or if its because we live in a poorer area.

 

[cepmom]

this is a thing here too....I don't get it? My daughter has a boyfriend (they've been together a few months) and have already planned on going to the Jr Prom together, she has her dress, he has a coordinating tux, but he still had to "ask" her in some public, creative way It wasn't super elaborate, like the football scoreboard idea, but he wrote on the back of her car window "PROM??" in big letters and brought her an iced coffee from her favorite coffee place around here.

 

[JanaDee]

No, it isn't here, thank god.

 

[mchllevns]

Seems to be the thing here...I agree the over the top prom invite needs to go away....what are they going to do when they get engaged???

 

[Kitzka]

The over-the-top prom invitation is a thing here for a few years. Dd is only a sophomore now. I know I've heard about it for at least the last five or six years here. I think it's kind of cute but you can get to be too much prom is expensive as it is.

 

[sk!mom]

I was just talking to my DD this morning about how laid back she is about prom this year. Even last year when she was a jr and her date was the prom king, they were still really laid back. No limo, no fancy dinner... I am not sure she even has a date! Last year they went to Texas Roadhouse and went in one of their groups moms mini van. This year I think she is driving her brothers SUV and they are eating at Olive Garden. Last years king and queen are both in her group this year and its just really low key. I asked her how many kids had a limo and she said only one and they were a group of 18.

She is the last one of 3, so I am glad none of my kids went overboard on prom. Even homecoming was really low key. She only went to the dance because she was in the court and had to show up and the kids in the court were the only ones that were all dressed up.

I don't know if its because she goes to a really small county school or if its because we live in a poorer area.

Prom itself doesn't seem to be especially elaborate- just the invites. We live in a small city so limos aren't really done. I think there are only 2 or 3 limos in town so that wouldn't get many people there. Some kids will drive a cool car if they have access to one.

DD and her girl friends already have hair and nail appointments for that day. Some are also having professional make up but DD doesn't like that. DD will most likely go out to dinner with just her boyfriend or maybe the group of friends. They'll go to Prom and then one of her friends is having a backyard pool party after.

Seriously though, they are being asked to prom with more thought and style than DH's marriage proposal 34 years ago.

 

[rszdtrvl]

My son asked a girl to prom with balloons and flowers a couple weeks ago.

She said yes.

Of course, she pretty much blew him off all last week when he tried to get together with her to hang out and by the weekend had a boyfriend.



Needless to say, he is now dateless, as he is NOT going with someone who lied to him (she said she was going to be out of town all last weekend, but wasn't) and now has a boyfriend.

There is plenty of time - 5 weeks - until prom, so still time to find a date if he decides he still wants to go.

The girl he was going to go with is the same one he went to homecoming with - she got a boyfriend 2 weeks before homecoming.

He just doesn't have any luck with this girl, and over the weekend her true colors showed up. He deserves better than that, even if he has to skip his junior prom, he is still better off than he would be going with her.

 

[njmom47]

Around here, they're not over the top, but they do something.
DS has a steady gf...not sure how or if he asked her; after doing her Sr Ball and his Jr Prom last year, maybe it's a given she's going with him.
I've heard of writing on the car, making a "dum dum" lollipop boquet ("you'd be a dumdum if you didn't go to prom with me) and a sports-inspired theme (girl asking boy).

 

[cassandrap83]

I graduated in 2001, and this was not a thing then.

I have seen it being a "thing" in the past several years. I first remember seeing it on Laguna Beach (haha)

Yes, I also feel sorry for the boys.

 

[kim929]

my ds graduated last year and it wasn't a thing at that time.
It is this year.

 

[FLSarah]

I graduated in 2001, and this was not a thing then.

I graduated the same year, and it wasn't a thing where I was either.

 

[Mrs.Malone]

this is a thing here too....I don't get it? My daughter has a boyfriend (they've been together a few months) and have already planned on going to the Jr Prom together, she has her dress, he has a coordinating tux, but he still had to "ask" her in some public, creative way It wasn't super elaborate, like the football scoreboard idea, but he wrote on the back of her car window "PROM??" in big letters and brought her an iced coffee from her favorite coffee place around here.

Well, that explains why I saw two cars driving near the high school yesterday with "PROM?" written on their back windows. I was baffled! Thanks for clearimg that up!

 

[denisem]

Seems to be the thing here...I agree the over the top prom invite needs to go away....what are they going to do when they get engaged???

I agree...there will be other "milestones" in life and there may be some disappointed people if each doesn't top the last...

 

[sj&k]

It is definitely a "thing" around here, even among established couples. On my daughter's Instagram and Facebook, I've seen photos of custom made t-shirts asking the question, letters spelling out "prom" attached to bracelets, in fish tanks complete with water and fish, in vinyl records on a wall, on a plowed piece of farm land in the dirt, in lit candles-you name it. My daughter's ex-boyfriend (for now-they're still talking every day and spending time together whenever possible so I don't expect him to be "ex" for long) made a custom video for her modeled after the Facebook movies everyone had on their newsfeed a couple of months ago. It had pictures of them over the past year and a half, his favorite moments with her, and was set to one of her favorite songs. Unfortunately, as I posted on another thread here, he informed her a little over a week later that he wouldn't be able to take her to prom because he's going to a science competition out of state the same weekend. Before he formally asked her, though, they'd already planned to go together, he knew she had a dress and hair appointment, and we'd talked to his mother about a group limo for them. Now she's going with her best friend and her father and I will be their limo. If they are still together next year (and I hope if they are he's more considerate of her feelings by then) she plans on asking him in some creative way-she already has ideas. Anything these kids are doing, though, is way more elaborate than how my husband proposed to me 24 years ago.

 

[clutter]

It was a 'thing' for homecoming here as well.

 

[traviesojmt]

Well, if it is, then my DS did not participate. The Jr. Class had a bonfire a few weekends ago and towards the end of the bonfire he asked a girl if she would like to go to the prom with him. He asked, she said yes and that was it. Both are happy and it didn't take a big giant gesture. I am pretty sure my DS would have said to forget the whole thing if he had to create some huge event just to ask a girl to prom.

 

[Tinkermommy]

Oh good grief.

Like there isn't enough pressure on the poor guys.

 

[kimblebee]

It's not a thing here. I've heard it called a Promposal