OT - Our Adoption Is Almost Final

[geniegirl]

I just wanted to tell someone and thought this would be a good place. Our adoption is almost final after 10 months and lots of legal battles.

We got placed with our son who was 6 months in September 07, the mother consented and the father was out of the picture, however before the deadline was up he filed for rights. Needless to say by this point we were well attached. The father has some history and issues and i could not see him raising my baby, if you know what I mean, so of course we went to court over this. 3 hearings and 7 months since we knew we had issues we finally got his rights terminated and he did not file an appeal. Now all we have to do is finalize in our home state and we will be a forever family, we are so happy.

These past few months have been rough for all of us and our families and only now can we breathe though it still does not seem real. We tried to keep things normal around here but it was hard especially planning the little mans first trip to the world, it broke my heart not knowing if he would be with us at that point but all is well and we are heading off to see MICKEY in October to celebrate!!!!!!!

 

[blackforest]

YEAH!!! for your adoption!

Welcome to the club! We have been fighting DD6's BF for 5 years. His rights were terminated once for tons of reasons, then the appellate court overturned the decision. We pray everyday that this gets resolved. DD has FORCED visitation. The last visit, mid-June, was the first time he had seen her in 10 months.

Stories like yours gives us hope that justice will prevail!

 

[dougsmom98]

Great News! Congratulations. That trip in October will be so special.

 

[mytwinklestar]

Our adoption was finalized this January, having fostered for 21 months! The process can be long and drawn-out. I so understand. However, the rewards are immeasurable. God bless your family and may everything go smoothly from this point forward. Congratulations!!!!!!

 

[Ninnygunk]

How wonderful - what a reflief for your family! My son was domestically adopted so I understand the crippling fear of birthparents contesting after-the-fact. God bless you & your family!!!!!!

 

[lovemy2boys]

That is wonderful news! Congratulations on your "new" family and what a fantastic way to celebrate.... at Disney!

 

[JESW]

Congratulations! My brother and his wife just finalized their first adoption of their son (3 this month) who they have had in their home for just over a year. His bm fought them to the end and she still has visitations. (sd is out of the picture) It was a very tough emotional year.

They are now waiting to procede with the adoption of the other 4 kids (family members age 2 - 16) in their house. They say those will go a lot smoother and should be finalized by November.

Nice to see some happy endings!

Jill

 

[snowman1035]

What wonderful news! I am so happy for all of you. What a wonderful celebration you will have at WDW. You will have to come back and let us know how it all went. God Bless!

 

[Mickeyorbust]

I am so happy for you. And from someone who was adopted as a child, thank you .

 

[treu95]

I am so happy for you, it brings me back about 5 years when my wife and I were in a nearly exact situation. We actually brought our son home from the hospital in 2002 when he was 8 days old. He was under our foster care for 13 months and in July of 2003 the parents decided to sign off rights. Our adoption was final on Sep 12, 2003. It was such a releif when the rollercoaster of emotions was done - there were a bunch of sleepless nights. Man am I happy for you - I remember the feeling like it was yesterday.

We were planning to take him to Disney when he was 3, but then my wife got pregnant and our daughter was born (10th anniversary when my wife got pregnant - BIG suprise). Now my daughter is almost three and he is 6, we are heading to Disney in October.

As a side note when we adopted him he came to us with 2 middle names (Paternal Grandfather's name "Dewey" and favorite character from Pet Cemetary's name "Guage") so we decided we wanted to change them. We wanted to let him keep two middle names so we made his 2 new middle names "Walter Elias" after Walt Disney. It was pretty funny explaining that one to the judge when he asked why we chose Walter Elias...

 

[Gabe's Mom]

Congrats to you and your family! Fellow adoptive momma here, though ours was domestic. We have one DS bio and our adopted DS. As someone who has done it both ways, anyone who tells you how "easy" you had it since you just adopted is crazy! It is well worth it though. Enjoy Disney with your finally forever family!
Michelle

 

[hoosiergirl7]

Another adoptive mom who plans on being in Disney with her DS 4 in October (and DH of course).

I have to commend you for getting into an adoptive situation where the birth father had not signed away his rights. I'm sure what you went through was not fun. When we adopted DS we made the decision that the birth father had to sign away his rights before the baby was born. We also made the decision to adopt a child from a state where upon the birth mother signing away her rights as a parent it was final - she couldn't change her mind.

Now we're working on adoption #2 and this time chose to do an international adoption. Not that it's necessarily easier but there's a lot less we have to worry about. Plus DH and I don't want to parent a newborn again. It's hard work and I commend everyone who can do.

Enjoy your trip in October!

 

[holden]

That's great news! We are hoping to adopt our foster daughter. She's been in care since she was 3 weeks old and came to us in Dec. We are heading to court soon for a goal change and then on to file for termination. The parents recently got into serious trouble, so the goal change will be no problem. We are just hoping and praying that she stays with us forever.

 

[Disney Brat]

Congratulations!!! We just put in our application for adoption yesterday afternoon, so we are just starting our journey!!

 

[ERMama]

congrats!!!! yeah yeah yeah for you ALL!!

 

[D&DDisney]

Congrats to you!!!

We went through something similar when adopting our oldest son. It was an international adoption and we still had issues w/ birth parents and their signatures. Stalled things for 1 year.

 

[geniegirl]

Thank you all for your support, just remembering all we went through and reading your experiences and support I almost cried.

It was difficult and we did not expect the process to be so hard and emotionally drenching. Our agency told us there were risks; it just did not sink in until it all happened. But I will tell you all that if you take one look at our baby I could never imagine not going through the process all over again if we had to. His smile makes it all worth the pain, the money, and the stress, and yes we will do it all over again but next time I am going to put more demands on the agency and make sure all terminations are signed before placement.

For now we are going to spend some time as a family and thank God for it all working out in the end. Now I have to really start planning this trip it is coming up fast.

For all those in the process don’t let this scare you, remember a judge wants what is best for the child and it will all work out, just keep up the hope and prayers.

 

[cerberus]

Congrats

Both my girls were adopted

 

[twinsplusone]

I'm so glad that it worked out for all of you. Congratulations. Enjoy your trip.

 

[astro784]

CONGRATULATIONS from another adoptive mom - we adopted our son almost 3 years ago from Ekaterinburg, Russia

I remember what an emotional roller coaster our adoption was - but SO worth it in the end!

Have a great trip in October!

Lee