Opposites attract but what do you have in common with your spouse/S.O.?

[Bianca and Bernard]

He only likes watching sports at the stadium; I like watching football and hockey whether there or on tv. Baseball I would rather see live too.

He listens to more alternative music, but we both like country/rock.

He likes to go do things, like hiking. I like it somewhat, but with my bad knee and hip and psorasitic arthritis, it's really hard.

I love Disney; he'd be ok with no Disney anywhere.

He is more into sci fi stuff. I like reading romances.

We majorly disagree on opinions about police. We tend to vote similarly and have close political views.

 

[mousefanmichelle]

Hard question that I have been asking myself and basically we don't have a ton in common at least I don't think.
We are both the babies of our families. We like country music, have the same values, we both like to camp, we like each other and our children lol! Basically we do have a lot of the same likes but he tends to become obsessed with things that annoy me. We bend and that's probably the thing that keeps the machine moving.

 

[wenrob]

I actually had to really think hard about this. On the surface we're different in just about every way imaginable. His dad was military and he was raised hunting, fishing and camping. Never locked a door in his life, chats up the neighbors, was never suspicious of anyone, leans left of right. My dad was a (working) hippie and never even looked at a gun. I was raised with Peace, Love and Rock & Roll and as a city girl. I'd rather stick a fork in my eye than camp, fish or "outdoor." I lock everything twice, keep to myself, very wary of other people's motives and lean slightly right of left.

But as soldiers*sweetie points out, at the core we are the same.
Both the oldest and spent our tween/teen years doing most of the raising of younger siblings. Parents with a string of divorces behind them. Our bio mothers leaving us at very young ages, stepmothers that were raging alcoholics. We both moved a lot making us always the new kid in school. Both commitment phobes when we met but when we decided to make that commitment that was it, no backsies, ever. No matter what, we are a team. We as a couple and our nuclear family comes before all else. Oh, and a deep love for classic rock & roll.

What's funny is, after 28 years together we have tended to switch to the other's view on things and end up having the same debates from the opposite side.

 

[ImDMous]

We got married at 20 and that was 25 years ago so by this point we have a lot in common. We like to do things together so for the most part we watch the same things on TV, although there are some I watch that he won't. We like all the same movies (comedy, action, sci-fi, Disney). We like mostly the same music (hard rock, alternative, musicals, 80's). We love to travel. We play video games a LOT and are tech junkies. We like to drink wine and go to wineries on the weekends. We also love craft beer and have a ton of breweries to hang out at.

 

[punkin]

Everything? DH and I met in high school. We developed our adult interests pretty much together. Sure there are some things I do for him that he likes more and some things he does for me that I like more, but over the years we have gravitated to the things we both like.

 

[Lyricallie]

Lots of things we met at archery so that (even though I'm a better shot )
Our weird fantasy books we both read
Tv shows are similar
Love cooking
Love traveling - currently planning our Japan trip
Neither of us are particularly political
He's more into music than I am.

 

[Magpie]

We have similar ethical viewpoints and life goals.

We share similar political perspectives.

We like to talk and debate ideas (arguing a lot around the points where our similarities diverge).

We get excited about similarly nerdy stuff (comics, science, sci-fi, etc).

We both enjoy spending time with each other.

And - oddly - we actually look enough like each other that we've been mistaken for siblings. It's impossible, though. We grew up in very different places and there's no overlap in our family trees. I think we just come from very similar ethnic roots.

We're different in a lot of ways, too, but our differences work well to complement each other. My weaknesses are his strengths, and vice versa. One thing that I've always noticed, is that we work extremely well as a team, whether we're building IKEA furniture, or keeping our cool while trapped in a traffic jam on the highway in 30 degree Celsius heat with no air conditioning and an infant and a toddler in the back seat.

 

[MIGrandma]

We enjoy things separately from each other, but do have quite a few things in common too like enjoying traveling (cruising mainly, also renting cabins in the Smoky Mts., a condo in Florida, etc.), camping, movies, going out to eat and trying new restaurants, walking/hiking, canoeing, bicycle riding, shooting (guns, although he enjoys target practice a lot more than I do), NASCAR racing, live plays, probably a few more things I can't even think of.

 

[Squirlz]

Here's more; we each have a 2005 MINI Cooper S, same color combo, bought new before we ever met. We met through MINI club events.




We both love performance cars and we enjoy attending open wheel and sports car races. We got married down by the North Carolina road called The Dragon and our wedding cake looked like a mountain road with our cars on top of it.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Lots of ways. We're not identical in any way, but have similar tastes in many things:

Food/restaurants
Music
Movies & tv
Recreation
Travel

But she has ZERO interest in football

 

[lilia78]

We have kids... lol

 

[aristocatz]

We have similar taste in music & hung out with a similar "crowd" when we first met. We both smoked cigarettes at the time & used to hang out & smoke & talk...we have both since quit smoking cigarettes. We have a similar sense of humor. We both love breakfast

 

[wenrob]

Lots of ways. We're not identical in any way, but have similar tastes in many things:

Food/restaurants
Music
Movies & tv
Recreation
Travel

But she has ZERO interest in football

I never had an interest in football because I didn't understand it. With my dad, brothers and most guys in general if I asked questions I got eye rolls or very short, clipped answers. My DH actually took the time to explain it to me even if I asked the same questions over and over. So while not someone who will go out of my way to watch a game at least now I can actually enjoy it when I do.

 

[lilia78]

Seriously though some days that is all that seems we have in common is our kids, but actually our political views are the same and our basic morals and values are the same. So it's enough. If you want the differences that would take many many posts. He is my best friend and the only person in the world I would tell everything too! Been together since I was 15 and he is 21, we are now 38 and 44, 2 out of 4 kids left at home. So I guess we work.

 

[disykat]

DH and I (26 years married) share similar morals and values but are VERY different. He is a morning person, I'm a night owl. We often cancel each other's votes and we even go to different churches now that the kids are gone! That said, we have the same priorities in life, agree on money issues, how to raise the kids, etc. DH didn't know he loves to travel because he never had, but discovered it with me. Same for attending plays, etc. With him I've learned to appreciate a quieter routine. We've sort of melded together and brought out each other's strengths.