One thing they don't tell you when your kids start dating....

[ckay87]

You hear all kinds of advice and warnings with respect to your teenagers dating. One thing they don't tell you? Do not get attached!

Your child will go on a date. Then they'll bring the "date" around more and more often. You like this lovely young person. You might invite her/him to dinner with the family. You might take them along on a family day trip or two. Before you know it, this person has become a regular sighting in your house, maybe for as much as a year. Then they're just GONE.

I remember when I broke up with my first boyfriend, my mom was mad at me and I thought "what the heck does she care???" Now I understand. . My son broke it off with his lovely little girlfriend of one year. While I know in my brain that 17 is too young to choose your partner for life, I also don't want to think about my son being one of those yucky boys who breaks a girls heart. Plus, I'm usually the only female in the house, so I miss my buddy.

I'll be ok.

 

[damren]

aawww, that's sweet. I had never thought about that before, something else to look forward to when DD get's older!

I bet that lovely girl will always remember you, there is a mom of a boy who I dated in HS who I think I missed more than the boy when we broke up!

 

[Shmily1]

ITA!! DD19 has a DS by her last BF and he is just the sweetest person. He's just young and not ready to grow up yet and she doesn't want anyone that's not responsible around. If they end up together in the end, I'd be very happy. If they don't, she's still end up with someone I love... hopefully!!

 

[Sgt Mickey]

aww poor Mom
I hope you can remain friends
No but really it isn't something I am looking forward too.

 

[bgirl29]

I have a daughter and now a son that both recently started dating. My sister in law warned me about this very thing. And of course my dd last bf I really really liked and so of course just as soon as I get used to having him around...bam he is gone. Now she is on to the next guy and I do not know how much to let myself like him because I dont want to miss another one when he is gone. So of course I do like him and the girl that my son is dating too. So I guess this is just another unexpected thing about having teenagers that I am going to have to get used to. I figure it could be alot worse, they could both be dating people that I do not like at all.

 

[Planogirl]

This happened with my younger brother!

He brought home a great girl that me and my mother both really loved. Suddenly she was gone and replaced by a not so great girl. My mother and I eventually got over it.

 

[blu3d3vil]

My first love remained friends with my entire family (my wife is even friendly with her) and even asked my mom to be the Godmother of one of her children.

 

[AshleyW]

My brother had a "girlfriend" in 8th grade, named Brea. She was so cute. She'd come over to the house and watch TV and play video games with him, and eat dinner with us every once in awhile. Well, they stayed close and dated all throughout high school. She was seriously the sweetest girl I ever met, and my mom LOVED her. Bought her birthday presents, took her on vacation with us, brought her dinner at her after-school job... you get the picture. Well, my jerk of a little brother broke up with her the week before prom. I think my mom stopped talking to my brother for like a week. Which isn't fair to him, but, it's funny. Anyway, my brother is 20 now and dates these bimbo-like girls (ugh, don't get me started on that..) and my mom refuses to like ANY of them because they aren't Brea. I'm sure she'll get over it eventually (hopefully, anyway...) but it sure can be rough getting attached to people like that.

 

[ckay87]

Oooh, and it gets SO hard to mind your own business sometimes. I saw DS starting to get interested in a new girl and I kept telling myself "I will not get involved, I will not get involved." But girl #1 has been eating my food for over a year so I'm feeling a little protective, ya know?? At one point I just gently said to DS that "it's not my business but I just want to remind you that we treat all people with respect, ok?" And then I walked away.

 

[disykat]

LOL. I feel the same way about my son and his exgirlfriend of almost two years. I don't have a daughter, so it was fun having a girl around. I know brreaking up was the best thing and I've been trying to help him navigate that, but I still miss her.

Years ago, when my sister broke up with a boyfriend we all loved I stayed friends with him for years. We all knew it was best for them not to be together, but it didn't stop us from loving him! They'd been broken up for about 5 years when he called me to tell me he was getting married and my first thought was "does this mean Christmas morning's off then?"

 

[AndreaDM]

Ah, we are dealing with this right now! My just turned 21 year old just broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years. We really liked him, he even went on vacation with us last year. They've taken breaks before but always got back together, so we assumed the same would happen this time, however she has found someone else pretty quickly. It doesn't make things easier that BF #1 had a college degree, a job, his own car, etc., and new BF has non of the above but lives with his parents mooching off of them. That among a few other choices she has made lately has made it really hard to back off and let go...they are always our children no matter how old they get, and it's instinct to want to protect them. So yes, we are all missing BF #1.

 

[Robmom]

Me too! Actually it is my DS that gets attached. I told my DD not to bring over her boyfriends anymore, because my DS would get so attached to them. He still asks about her first one. "Why doesn't Jeff come over anymore"? Poor little guy.

 

[ckay87]

Me too! Actually it is my DS that gets attached. I told my DD not to bring over her boyfriends anymore, because my DS would get so attached to them. He still asks about her first one. "Why doesn't Jeff come over anymore"? Poor little guy.

Awww, that's just sad. All of these stories have me chuckling sadly.

I'll give it a few weeks, then I guess I'll have to drop her as a Facebook friend too. Aaaah, it breaks my heart.

 

[klacey1]

Ha ha! My boyfriend of 2.5 years from high school broke up with me and his mom (who was also the choreographer for our high school musicals, so I knew her well that way, too) called me up on the phone SOBBING! She was crying harder than I was! She schemed for a year to get us back together. We were very close while I was dating her son-- went over their house all the time and spent tons of time with the family. We stayed close until her son and I decided to stop talking completely (the boy-- can't call him a man--is a jerk!). Now we send the occassional card. DBF is okay with it, but thinks it's a little bit strange that a mom still wants to talk to her son's ex when they haven't dated in years. I've tried to cut her out, but she's a lovely woman and I don't want to hurt her feelings. OP, you can't be as attached to the ex-girlfriend as she was (IS!) to me!!

 

[jme829]

LOL...I know what you mean. DD17 has been with her bf for almost 2 years. My kids and my dog adore him (and I think he's great too) ...I always tease him that if they ever break up that I think my son and my dog will take it the hardest...lol (he's like a big brother to ds)...

.When I broke up with my HS bf of 4 yrs, my mom was ticked too!!! But when I finally told her why I dumped him (he got into drugs, I wanted no part of it) she backed off, but boy was she not happy at first....

 

[Diznotyzed]

I dated a guy for a year and a half in high school, and to this day 37 years later I'm still very close to his parents. They became like 2nd parents to me and they love my husband and kids just as much. Thankfully the guy and I had parted amicably so it really wasn't awkward.

 

[babytrees]

I have the same problem....I was devastated when the boy de-friended me on facebook this last time. This boy spent his 18th birthday with us because his "parents" even acknowledge his day...he was calling me mom. He is not a good fit for my daughter and we all know it but I told him he can always count on me (with DD's permission) . He has a lot of growing up to do and eventually I hope he realizes the way he is behaving (think Charlie from Two and a Half Men) isn't healthy.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

shhhhhh, don't tell my DD.......that I told you guys.........


My DD has the sweetest, cutest boyfriend. He is just the nicest to her and just a good guy.

OF COURSE, we are a disney crazy family. At her highschool, they had "disney Day" during spririt week. She asked him if had something disney to wear and he said :you'd think I must as DISNEY CRAZY as my folks are!

YES!!!! THIS IS THE ONE! STICK WITH HIM!!!!! OK.........I'll settle down now......

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

shhhhhh, don't tell my DD.......that I told you guys.........


My DD has the sweetest, cutest boyfriend. He is just the nicest to her and just a good guy.

OF COURSE, we are a disney crazy family. At her highschool, they had "disney Day" during spririt week. She asked him if had something disney to wear and he said :you'd think I must as DISNEY CRAZY as my folks are!

YES!!!! THIS IS THE ONE! STICK WITH HIM!!!!! OK.........I'll settle down now......

 

[mebbradley]

I went to prom with my junior year with a guy who was a year younger than me(he and I were and still are best friends) and his mom Loves me to this day! We saw each other quite frequently since he races sprints and I attended almost every race back in high school. His mom paid for our tickets and our pictures for prom (even though we were going just as best friends since we had a science competition that day) and the following year, she would not pay for anything as he was not going with me!

I know that my mom loves him as well!