OMG!!!Parents are blind to their snowflake children!!! Long

[momx2]

We live in a very nice neighborhood right around the corner from the elementary school that everyone wants to attend. So there are many children that live around us. My oldest DD12 is in 6th grade at the school. She has probably 15 friends that live around us and they walk around the neighborhood in the afternoon and hang out until dark. There are a couple of kids that like to "ding dong ditch." My DD is forbidden from it because DH and I don't like it. It is harmless, but so aggravating and so I don't allow her to do it. There is one particular girl who loves to do it and most of the kids just stand back and watch her. Also we have known this girl and her family since kindergarten and she is a very straight, goody goody girl at school, never in trouble. She just likes to DDD.

Today, my DH was in our upper hallway that looks out over our foyer through a big upper window and out to the front yard and street. He heard the herd of kids (my DD was out there too) laughing so he went down stairs and then he heard one of the kids yell "ooohh it's dog poop." DH looks outside and sees this. My daughter was with some other girls in the distance and didn't really see what was going on and one of the boys yelled the dog poop comment. Well, DH sees the girl walk up on our porch tracking the poop. DH is thinking why is she coming up here if DD is outside??? Maybe she wants help with the dog poop on her shoe??? The she walks up to our front porch and wipes the bottom of her shoe on our porch to get it off. She then ding dong ditches us all the while DH is watching.

DH runs to the door she runs, as do the observers. DD has walked off because she didn't see it. He yells to the girl not to do that again. He then walks to our garage, which is open and faces the area they ran to and gets a mop bucket to clean it up, yelling at the girl "yeah, I'm cleaning up your poop!" DH cleans it up.

Then DH is mad, he calls the girl's mom and leaves a message. She doesn't call back. He waits about an hour and calls again and speaks to the mom and tells. Mom says "we'll take care of it." DH leaves to take younger DD to swim practice. Right after he leaves Mom and girl show up on our door step with paper towels, cleaner, etc. I told them DH had already cleaned it up. The girl is crying, sniffling. Mom says do you have something to say, girl says "sorry." Mom says "she didn't mean to do it." I told Mom that we know she didn't step in the poop on purpose, but she did intentionally wipe it off on our porch and then DDD us. Mom starts to say something, but doesn't and asks girls if she had something else to say, girl shook her head in the negative. I told them it was okay and thanks for coming.

DH comes home, I tell him, we feel good girl apologized and all is well....for about 5 minutes. DH's phone rings. It is girl's father yelling at DH that his daughter would never do this, my DD was out there too and they wouldn't be around us any longer. DH started to respond and father hangs up on him.

About 2 minutes later he calls DH back and apologizes for hanging up on him. DH begins to tell him what he saw her do. The father says his daugher was upset, that there was no poop on her shoe, he checked it out. DH remained calm and told him he could ask the many 6th grade witnesses that saw her do this. Father is still saying she didn't do it. DH finally says that father could come look at the dog turd that he had in a bag in our garbage that his daughter stepped in. Father declined Father then said "well, it wasn't malicious." DH said he didn't think it was but to wipe dog poop on our porch and then DDD was just a bit much. The father disagreed and thought DDD was fine and she didn't mean to get poop on our porch so we shouldn't have upset her by calling.

Girl is now on FB posting how mad she is. I'm sure my DD will pay for this at school somehow. I can not believe this father believes his obvioulsy lying DD over my DH. That is crazy! Vent over....I feel better after typing this all out. Thanks for reading.

 

[bballmom56]

ummmm, what is ding, dong, ditch?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

What kind of people is your dd hanging out with that they think it is okay to do this to anyone's house let alone someone in their own group?
I am sorry you had a mess to clean up but I don't think kids need to be roaming any neighborhood all day with nothing to do. That is just looking for truouble. Sure, this girl was wrong but what if someone called and told you that your kid did it? Would you say that since you forbid your child to do such a thing they didn't do it?
I get your frustration but I really think you need to re-evaluate why your child is hanging out all day with the DDD crowd. YMMV.

 

[abdmom]

Sounds like my former neighborhood.

 

[Bluestars]

That would have made me very angry. I don't think it's ok to DDD. Maybe somebody should go ring their doorbell at 3 am and see how they like it. And the poop stuff is disgusting. The parents did not do their daughter any favors by making excuses for her. No wonder the girl thinks nothing of doing something like that. Look at the parents.

 

[a1tinkfans]

I never heard of DDD.
Sounds like your daughter will somehow pay for this at school. Lets hope she can shrug it off with some comment like, "UGH, parents" and the girl will think she is being supportive of her...otherwise, who knows what she'll say to others about the situation.....

Meanwhile, it sounds like it all got a bit out of hand.. but again, I do not know what that DDD thing is.....
Well good luck with this.............I think that if I saw someone do something and it is a child, yelling out a comment like, Pls don't do that again, would have been enough for me...kids will be kids...........I am sure it was not malicious, just another stupid thing a kid did...........and YES, I totally agree poop is nasty, especially when you are cleaning it from someone else!

 

[momx2]

What kind of people is your dd hanging out with that they think it is okay to do this to anyone's house let alone someone in their own group?
I am sorry you had a mess to clean up but I don't think kids need to be roaming any neighborhood all day with nothing to do. That is just looking for truouble. Sure, this girl was wrong but what if someone called and told you that your kid did it? Would you say that since you forbid your child to do such a thing they didn't do it?
I get your frustration but I really think you need to re-evaluate why your child is hanging out all day with the DDD crowd. YMMV.

Oh, I agree. That's why DD has soccer, basketball, tutoring and babysitting to keep her busy. She only normally gets to walk around about once a week, if that. It wasn't all day, it was for about 1hr. after school and after she babysat an hour.

To answer why she would do it to someone in her own group?? See that's the thing the parents think that it is only okay to do it to members of her own group. She can't do it to the older folks or people who don't know her. I guess they think we will think it's cute.

To answer your question, yes I would believe my DD did this if this parent called me and told me that he witnessed her doing it. There would not be any reason for him to lie. We all have very good relationships or so I thought. Kids make mistakes and I expect mine will make them, she already has made some. I still like this girl, but now that she has called my DH a liar, not so much.

The kids she hangs around with are all the "good kids." The kids that make straight As or close to it, play all the sports and are in all the clubs. The girl who did the ditching is actually on the Leadership team at school. She is the teachers pet and never has been in trouble in her life. Many parents in this neighborhood thinks there is nothing wrong with DDD. I hate it and forbid DD from doing it.

 

[momx2]

ummmm, what is ding, dong, ditch?

That's where you run up to a door and ring the bell and run and hide. Great fun???!!!???? Fun for 12 year olds at least.

 

[minkydog]

I hate when parents won't let their kids take the consequences of their actions. You see it on the news every night, some 17yo punk does a drive-by and pops a cap in some poor kid who then dies on the operating table. Then cut to the grandmother and aunties of the shooter and their all crying "I know he didn't do it, he's a good boy. He said he didn't do it and I BELIEVE HIM." Maybe if these idiots would have let their little hooligan face the music when he was 8 or 9 their special snowflake wouldn't be standing trial for homicide.

Rant over

 

[agnes!]

It's when you ring someone's door-bell and run away before they get to the door and is REALLY fun (not) to do to someone at 1am.

I think I might disconnect the doorbell, put up a security camera.
And think about getting my kid a little busy with chores, like cleaning off the front porch and washing the family cars.


agnes!

 

[minkydog]

The kids she hangs around with are all the "good kids." The kids that make straight As or close to it, play all the sports and are in all the clubs. The girl who did the ditching is actually on the Leadership team at school. She is the teachers pet and never has been in trouble in her life. Many parents in this neighborhood thinks there is nothing wrong with DDD. I hate it and forbid DD from doing it.

Perhaps it's time for your DD to stop hanging out with the "good kids" who think it's okay to ding dong ditch. One bad apple really *can* spoil the whole barrel.

 

[lillygator]

We live in a very nice neighborhood right around the corner from the elementary school that everyone wants to attend. So there are many children that live around us. My oldest DD12 is in 6th grade at the school. She has probably 15 friends that live around us and they walk around the neighborhood in the afternoon and hang out until dark. There are a couple of kids that like to "ding dong ditch." My DD is forbidden from it because DH and I don't like it. It is harmless, but so aggravating and so I don't allow her to do it. There is one particular girl who loves to do it and most of the kids just stand back and watch her. Also we have known this girl and her family since kindergarten and she is a very straight, goody goody girl at school, never in trouble. She just likes to DDD.

Today, my DH was in our upper hallway that looks out over our foyer through a big upper window and out to the front yard and street. He heard the herd of kids (my DD was out there too) laughing so he went down stairs and then he heard one of the kids yell "ooohh it's dog poop." DH looks outside and sees this. My daughter was with some other girls in the distance and didn't really see what was going on and one of the boys yelled the dog poop comment. Well, DH sees the girl walk up on our porch tracking the poop. DH is thinking why is she coming up here if DD is outside??? Maybe she wants help with the dog poop on her shoe??? The she walks up to our front porch and wipes the bottom of her shoe on our porch to get it off. She then ding dong ditches us all the while DH is watching.

DH runs to the door she runs, as do the observers. DD has walked off because she didn't see it. He yells to the girl not to do that again. He then walks to our garage, which is open and faces the area they ran to and gets a mop bucket to clean it up, yelling at the girl "yeah, I'm cleaning up your poop!" DH cleans it up.

Then DH is mad, he calls the girl's mom and leaves a message. She doesn't call back. He waits about an hour and calls again and speaks to the mom and tells. Mom says "we'll take care of it." DH leaves to take younger DD to swim practice. Right after he leaves Mom and girl show up on our door step with paper towels, cleaner, etc. I told them DH had already cleaned it up. The girl is crying, sniffling. Mom says do you have something to say, girl says "sorry." Mom says "she didn't mean to do it." I told Mom that we know she didn't step in the poop on purpose, but she did intentionally wipe it off on our porch and then DDD us. Mom starts to say something, but doesn't and asks girls if she had something else to say, girl shook her head in the negative. I told them it was okay and thanks for coming.

DH comes home, I tell him, we feel good girl apologized and all is well....for about 5 minutes. DH's phone rings. It is girl's father yelling at DH that his daughter would never do this, my DD was out there too and they wouldn't be around us any longer. DH started to respond and father hangs up on him.

About 2 minutes later he calls DH back and apologizes for hanging up on him. DH begins to tell him what he saw her do. The father says his daugher was upset, that there was no poop on her shoe, he checked it out. DH remained calm and told him he could ask the many 6th grade witnesses that saw her do this. Father is still saying she didn't do it. DH finally says that father could come look at the dog turd that he had in a bag in our garbage that his daughter stepped in. Father declined Father then said "well, it wasn't malicious." DH said he didn't think it was but to wipe dog poop on our porch and then DDD was just a bit much. The father disagreed and thought DDD was fine and she didn't mean to get poop on our porch so we shouldn't have upset her by calling.

Girl is now on FB posting how mad she is. I'm sure my DD will pay for this at school somehow. I can not believe this father believes his obvioulsy lying DD over my DH. That is crazy! Vent over....I feel better after typing this all out. Thanks for reading.

was your dd with the herd or not?

 

[momx2]

was your dd with the herd or not?

Yes, she was part of the herd. There was about 10 of them. She and her best friend and a few others had walked off. DH saw her walking off with others down the street a bit. I yelled at her at first when I got home because I figured she knew about the whole deal, but DH said he saw her walking in the other direction right as it was occuring. When the ditcher and the observers caught up with them they told her that what ditcher did, but not about the poop on our stoop She knew that she had poop on her shoes, but didn't know where it came from. Trust me if DH or I could have pinned some blame on DD I was ready to do so. When DH said he saw her walking off, I believe him because otherwise he would have went after her and made her clean it up.

 

[Jason@dvcstore]

They would have no fun doing "ding, dong, ditch" at our house.

We simply don't answer the door. I don't think anyone has ever knocked on our door with anything important. Typically, the UPS or FEDEX delivery person will ring the doorbell when they have left a package. We then pick it up some time later.

I had to do a Google search for Ding Dong Ditch.

I like what it says next to New York:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Knock,_Knock,_Ginger

Jason

 

[momx2]

They would have no fun doing "ding, dong, ditch" at our house.

We simply don't answer the door. I don't think anyone has ever knocked on our door with anything important. Typically, the UPS or FEDEX delivery person will ring the doorbell when they have left a package. We then pick it up some time later.

I had to do a Google search for Ding Dong Ditch.

I like what it says next to New York:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Knock,_Knock,_Ginger

Jason

That New York name is hilarious! Since it's so widespread, globally it appears, maybe I'm really just mean for not liking it.

 

[MEK]

Mother's response was appropriate. Father should have just dropped it. And now you guys should, too. It's over. The little girl apologized, but you are right for being upset. It is your property. You called her mom. I would just let it rest. It will blow over before you know it.

 

[momx2]

Oh we are dropping it. The little girl did apologize, but then told her father that she didn't do it and then father called us, etc. We had accepted her apology and dropped it until then. We are dropping it again. I just hope girl doesn't cause issues at school or in neighborhood with DD.

 

[surfergirl602]

A group of girls did this in our neighborhood while my DH was in the field. I was home alone with the kids, it was around 9 at night, and they did it about 3 times to many houses up the street. My neighbor across the street from me (also in the military, but we all live off post in a quiet neighborhood) called the cops. They came out and made a big deal out of it, hopefully to scare the girls into not doing it again.
It hasn't happened since.

It really freaked me out at first, and the kids, as we thought maybe someone was trying to see if anyone was home in order to stake out our house or break in. Scary, since my DH wasn't home at night all week.

ETA: I don't answer the door if I don't see someone I know standing there in front of it. It's just really annoying to have our doorbell rung late at night, multiple times, and have nobody there when you go to check out who it is.

 

[Bluestars]

Someone rang our doorbell at about 11 pm one night. By the time we looked out the window, the person was gone. I am so glad my husband was home at the time. There have been several robberies in our neighborhood and there was no way we were opening our door. I didn't find it funny at all and would never approve of my kids doing it.

 

[momx2]

Someone rang our doorbell at about 11 pm one night. By the time we looked out the window, the person was gone. I am so glad my husband was home at the time. There have been several robberies in our neighborhood and there was no way we were opening our door. I didn't find it funny at all and would never approve of my kids doing it.

I agree with you and the others that don't like it. I hate it. It scares me. Now, these kids aren't allowed out after dark, but that day will come. There were some other kids down the street that would do it after dark and I hated it. Finally, I would just go to the door and yell their name and to stop and they finally did. They out grow it in about a year or so, but it is like a right of passage in this neighborhood.

I guess I'm lucky we go to county school because the thing to do in the city school here is to T.P. your buddies' houses. Parents will even drive them to do it. Crazy!!! The parents are like "they only do it to you if they like you."