HI Kelly,
I'm so disappointed to hear of your similar experiences with the office there. I had hoped that I had just caught her on a bad day. The other J was wonderful when I would call. I wish I had caught her on that day when I was passing on the info about the Dis. Such a lost opportunity.
So Gabe doesn't want to go now????? Did he tell you why? IDK, guess I'm just being nosey. I'm surprised.
As long as the arrangements are made through MAW I don't think you need to be the least bit concerned about flight changes/cancellations. But I guess I must have missed something.................why would you have to cancel????? I'll go back and reread.
Pamela

Matty's Wish Trip PTR
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2325607
Matty's Wish Trip TR "Mom, Dad, 3 Kids, and a Gingerbread Boy"
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2356739
You know, it's really fine. I hate not talking to people in person because I otherwise don't know how to read them. She has been helpful enough, I just can't help but feel like I'm always putting her out when I call. That's why we have email, right?!
As for Gabe, I'm not sure what brought about the change. We had a huge blow-up a couple of weeks ago over some really stupid stuff he pulled, so we have started this whole communication book thing where he writes in it every day and we respond. Over the weekend, he had written that he was reconsidering going to Disney because he's feeling like he needs a break from our family, and he's too nervous about turning 18 to have fun.
And then last night, he said that he definitely doesn't want to go, that he wants to go spend the week with his younger bio brother instead. So we told him that would be fine, but that if he thinks he doesn't want to go, then he needs to decide and can't base it on alternative plans in case those plans fall through. We told him it was too much of a financial commitment for him to waver back and forth, and he told us to cancel his ticket. And as far as we know, that's the end of the story.
And we don't all have to cancel, but MAW did make his flight arrangements using our credit card so that we'd all be on the same flight. Therefore, I'm assuming it's our responsibility to cancel his flight since he's not an official wish trip participant.
Oh, I'm sad he doesn't want to go! I guess I'm nosy too, but I can't help but wonder why? Is it just normal teenage angst? Or does he know that MAW isn't paying for him? ARGHHHH!! That would make me mad if that was the reason. Dang it!
Anyway, I wonder if they don't want people to research too much because they would have certain expectations? I would think one chapter does things the same for each family but who knows?
I also, don't want to ask about our expense check (haven't even been told we'll get one, so that would be awkward!

). It's not going to affect my planning because one way or another we'll pay for everything we do. If we don't have the money going in we'll use credit and pay it off later. I'm not normally an advocate of credit cards, but it IS a WISH trip.
I'm sad, too! In all fairness to him, I guess we never really asked him if he
wanted to go and instead just assumed that he did. I mean, who wouldn't?!
I suppose you're right that there are people who would have certain expectations. I admit that I am guilty of that after reading of other foster children being included as part of the wish family.
I don't think the expense check will hugely affect our planning, either. Especially not now that we won't have another adult mouth to feed. I know everything will work out!
Really? Gabe does not want to go? I am shocked too...but than again at 17, maybe being with his friends is more fun....I hope he does change his mind though, cause he would have a trip of a lifetime as well. However I just wish our oldest was honest with us when we paid OOP to take him on Jake's MAW trip, cause during the trip and after the trip he said he wished he never went, as his cell phone and his girlfriend was the most important thing to him than...and he just told my MIL he was kinda shocked we did not ask him to go back with us next month....

...hmmmm, maybe it was because you already told us you wish you did not go, than why on earth would we take you again...

...Ok getting off my teen soapbox here...
Hope tomorrow goes well by the way...I will be waiting to see how she does with the testing...
It's funny, because we were JUST talking about this! You know, I'd be lying if I said there isn't a tiny part of me that is relieved.

It will definitely be more relaxed not having to worry about a teenager in the mix, but I know Garth is really disappointed because his roller coaster buddy bowed out! And, it will certainly make it easier financially.
Thanks for the wishes on tomorrow. I'm nervous! How is Jake doing with the TPN? I hope that it's been an easy transition for you all...
I think the general feeling...from the folks I have talked to with MAW...is that they really don't like so much the idea of all of us getting together on here and comparing notes.
I am sure there are several reasons for this...but not the least of which is that each chapter...and even each trip specifically...is so different. Each chapter gives different things to the family and I am sure if someone was being snarky they could straight up ask why this family got that or that family got this.
And they don't want the families to really plan. At least that has been the impression I have been given...that they don't like for the family to "worry" about anything. And I can see that. But those of us that are planners...it makes me worry to not plan something as special as a wish trip.
As far as Southwest...
They will let you cancel and get a "credit" for future travel for ANYONE within a year.
I personally use Southwest all the time. If I had a credit, for example, I could use it for me, give it as a gift to someone or even sell it to someone for cash - all they need is the confirmation number and name on the ticket and they can use the "funds" leftover once you cancel.
PS: As hard as I am sure this is...don't be too worried about Gabe not wanting to go. I am sure there could be a bunch of reasons...but he obviously really loves you guys and what you are doing for him is going to change his life forever. Even if he doesn't fully get that now (and I hope he already does) - he will certainly get it later in his life. Hang in there.
Thanks, Maroo! It does make sense.

I guess it's just hard for me to understand not planning something like this! So even though the ticket is in Gabe's name, I could use it for myself? If this is the case, I think I may need to plan a trip to Florida to visit some old friends!
And thanks for the encouragement about Gabe. In the past couple of weeks, we've all had to shift our goals a bit. It's taking some getting used to, but it will all be fine!
Ali has some pretty important allergy testing tomorrow, so if you all wouldn't mind keeping her (and us) in your thoughts, that would be great. I updated her CaringBridge page (in my siggie), but in a nutshell, she's being tested for allergies to penicillin, sulfa drugs, and cephalosporins. This is a HUGE deal, because right now, she is literally allergic to every class of antibiotics and has tentatively been diagnosed with something called multiple drug allergy syndrome. Because of the mito, we are supposed to treat all potential infections aggressively to prevent major regressions, but we can't because of the antibiotic issue. So hopefully tomorrow, we will find that she can tolerate something! I will update after we get home.