Moeluv4u7
Luv2CUSmile
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- Jul 14, 2008
I had to post to this- As I too, Looooove Christmas- but not for the gifts received rather than the ones we give- to each other and our 5 children but also any we give to others- family, friends and otherwise... That being said, I don'- t feel "obligated" to give gifts to anyone! I love to see my kids faces when they open a particular item- It is "magic"! & my kids now range from 17 to 7 - We get for my mom usually and my youngest brother (who lives with her and working very hard to start his career as he has just graduated from engineering school, btw, he is 13 yrs younger than I am) If we don't buy for certain family members it is usually because we will not see them and don't usually KIT throughout the year- Others whom we do KIT with, it is just, they are having Christmas at their house and we, at ours- or at mom's, etc- If my other brother comes in w/ his girlfriend I may or may not have picked up something for them (usually a home type item) Our Christmas is always really nice but I know my mom even has had her financial bouts since her & my Dad split about 5 years ago (and Yes, he still shows up for Christmas at her house 400 miles away from his ) But, she doesn't ever tell him he isn't welcome and she also always gets him a few gifts... We have told my mom not to get us gifts as well as our kids (she will always get the kids and us gifts) We got gifts for my sis and bil one year and I will never again! My sis is "different" in that if it isn't name brand and $100- it is "less than" and she could care less- so be it... My lil' sis, all grown up, and snooty as heXX- No worries,- It doesn't phase us a bit! Oh! & she doesn't give gifts to "our" side either- just to mom and that's it- (not even our little brothers) she does give gifts to all of her in-laws though...So, we are cool w/ that- we also hardly ever spend Christmas with her & her fam & I usually will not make a point of seeing mom when I know my sis will be there- I send whatever it is for my mom & brother and we get together before or after Christmas if we can get together at all-
All in all if you feel obligated to give or are concerned w/ not giving... too much to stress about IMO but if so... do jar mix gifts that you make up yourself, attach a ribbon and print off a computer made label w/ Christmassy motif, have calendars made up for everyone w/ pics of family members such as grandparents, grandkids, etc- depending on who recipient is or the same for everyone- Those can be done by yourselves as well by computer, you don't have to go to photo store and spend $30- each on them-
The family recipe book is another one that is great! Dishes that you always had as a kid that grandma made or mom... your own that your kids nowlove, etc- If someone is not appreciative to the love, thought and time that goes into those type of gifts- Don't do anything and why do you feel th eneed to "announce" that you won't be doing gift exchange?- Just don't! & if you want to relieve them of "obligation" of buying for you as well then just let them know- This year we will be doing something different for Christmas, please don't get us anything- If they ask what you are doing instead or why? (which you do not have to respond to- but if you do, tell them you are celebrating Christmas old fashioned style- If you are not religious and don't celebrate Him during the season (no judgements from me on that here, this is strictly speaking budget minded) Let them know...
**You are going to enjoy each other this Christmas since throughout the year it seems w/ day to day lifestyles and goings ons that you take each other for granted
** You are having a great time coming up with homemade ideas to decorate and bake, make, just like when your grandmother was young
**You would like to start your own family traditions w/ your own kids (or if a childless couple, yourselves) rather than carry your DH's family tradition and your family tradition from when you were young into your traditions now- You want your kids to carry different values than what has been taught to them throughout the last few years
**You will be giving gifts that are homemade goods
** Or suggest a home made Christmas from everyone- If they want to do store bought gifts themselves that's fine but you won't be going that route this year
-many more ideas, and for crafted items- check out the ever so many free craft boards around the internet as well as this one- many great ideas and so many free directions to make- T-shirts w/ kids pics on them, photo album scrapped up yourself, recipe books w/ family tradition recipes, old jeans outgrown turned into a tote bag, a quilt made from all of your kids old T-shirts or JEANS-, pillows from jeans w/ the pocket side still on it- (some of these will still need various items bought to fully complete (pillow forms, thread, craft/fabric glue, scrap items that can't be obtained from free stuff on internet, But they are all so fun to do and so inexpensive w/ so much thought and love- BUT, my biggest thing, I will not spend time, money and energy on something that will not be appreciated! I have never been materialistic and if my family members are... they just miss out! My DH's fam is oh so a whole long different story- but same end result- We don't feel obligated- I do what I do out of my own feelings and if we don't exchange gifts- so be it- I don't feel the need to explain anything-
Done w/ my rant- LOL
Hope everyone has a beautiful Christmas season & attains the goal you have attempted to acheive- Ours this year is savings for our Disney trip next year- Gifts for our kids will be one very nice item they have asked for and possibly a few "filler" gifts since we do have the younger ones- BUT- filler gifts will be items to take w/ us to Disney along with things that they need or have asked for that are everyday use items- like a new carry all for my DD- she can use for whatever but great for carrying pool items and park items- My oldest son will need another thumb drive and will get a prepaid gift card to get itunes music for his ipod, guiter strings, music, maybe a game caddy for his game system and such to be put on so it is neater in his room, my 2nd oldest - game caddy as well for his room, cologne gift set, some "gear" as he calls it- LOL (new clothes) Our younger ones will get a new bank (looking to get the huge bubble gum one or the traffic light that the lights actually work on, a couple toys/games and that's it all of them w/ their large item will also get a gift card to use at Disney along w/ any money they have saved theirselves- I am still contemplating the smaller, less expensive type gifts but all in all it won't be another $5K Christmas! Yeah w/ 5 kids and all the age ranges it starts to add up pretty darn quick! Also, throughout the year this past I have not been buying "things" as we go places- They have to add it to their items wanted for Christmas- so this has helped to break down spending and actually looking forward to Christmas- Plus 2 of mine have B-days right before Christmas- one in October and the other in November- That will be one gift and having their friends over or a get together away from home w/ friends (skate rink, bowling, movies, whatever)
Wow, this was intended to just give some ideas and suggestions- Very long post - apologies for the novella!-
All in all if you feel obligated to give or are concerned w/ not giving... too much to stress about IMO but if so... do jar mix gifts that you make up yourself, attach a ribbon and print off a computer made label w/ Christmassy motif, have calendars made up for everyone w/ pics of family members such as grandparents, grandkids, etc- depending on who recipient is or the same for everyone- Those can be done by yourselves as well by computer, you don't have to go to photo store and spend $30- each on them-
The family recipe book is another one that is great! Dishes that you always had as a kid that grandma made or mom... your own that your kids nowlove, etc- If someone is not appreciative to the love, thought and time that goes into those type of gifts- Don't do anything and why do you feel th eneed to "announce" that you won't be doing gift exchange?- Just don't! & if you want to relieve them of "obligation" of buying for you as well then just let them know- This year we will be doing something different for Christmas, please don't get us anything- If they ask what you are doing instead or why? (which you do not have to respond to- but if you do, tell them you are celebrating Christmas old fashioned style- If you are not religious and don't celebrate Him during the season (no judgements from me on that here, this is strictly speaking budget minded) Let them know...
**You are going to enjoy each other this Christmas since throughout the year it seems w/ day to day lifestyles and goings ons that you take each other for granted
** You are having a great time coming up with homemade ideas to decorate and bake, make, just like when your grandmother was young
**You would like to start your own family traditions w/ your own kids (or if a childless couple, yourselves) rather than carry your DH's family tradition and your family tradition from when you were young into your traditions now- You want your kids to carry different values than what has been taught to them throughout the last few years
**You will be giving gifts that are homemade goods
** Or suggest a home made Christmas from everyone- If they want to do store bought gifts themselves that's fine but you won't be going that route this year
-many more ideas, and for crafted items- check out the ever so many free craft boards around the internet as well as this one- many great ideas and so many free directions to make- T-shirts w/ kids pics on them, photo album scrapped up yourself, recipe books w/ family tradition recipes, old jeans outgrown turned into a tote bag, a quilt made from all of your kids old T-shirts or JEANS-, pillows from jeans w/ the pocket side still on it- (some of these will still need various items bought to fully complete (pillow forms, thread, craft/fabric glue, scrap items that can't be obtained from free stuff on internet, But they are all so fun to do and so inexpensive w/ so much thought and love- BUT, my biggest thing, I will not spend time, money and energy on something that will not be appreciated! I have never been materialistic and if my family members are... they just miss out! My DH's fam is oh so a whole long different story- but same end result- We don't feel obligated- I do what I do out of my own feelings and if we don't exchange gifts- so be it- I don't feel the need to explain anything-
Done w/ my rant- LOL
Hope everyone has a beautiful Christmas season & attains the goal you have attempted to acheive- Ours this year is savings for our Disney trip next year- Gifts for our kids will be one very nice item they have asked for and possibly a few "filler" gifts since we do have the younger ones- BUT- filler gifts will be items to take w/ us to Disney along with things that they need or have asked for that are everyday use items- like a new carry all for my DD- she can use for whatever but great for carrying pool items and park items- My oldest son will need another thumb drive and will get a prepaid gift card to get itunes music for his ipod, guiter strings, music, maybe a game caddy for his game system and such to be put on so it is neater in his room, my 2nd oldest - game caddy as well for his room, cologne gift set, some "gear" as he calls it- LOL (new clothes) Our younger ones will get a new bank (looking to get the huge bubble gum one or the traffic light that the lights actually work on, a couple toys/games and that's it all of them w/ their large item will also get a gift card to use at Disney along w/ any money they have saved theirselves- I am still contemplating the smaller, less expensive type gifts but all in all it won't be another $5K Christmas! Yeah w/ 5 kids and all the age ranges it starts to add up pretty darn quick! Also, throughout the year this past I have not been buying "things" as we go places- They have to add it to their items wanted for Christmas- so this has helped to break down spending and actually looking forward to Christmas- Plus 2 of mine have B-days right before Christmas- one in October and the other in November- That will be one gift and having their friends over or a get together away from home w/ friends (skate rink, bowling, movies, whatever)
Wow, this was intended to just give some ideas and suggestions- Very long post - apologies for the novella!-