New TTC Thread

[KiKi Mouse]

OK... so I did get a BFP this morning but I am SCARED. Last time I had few symptoms I miscarried, and I was devastated. I called DH and he's really guarded about it, too. ::sigh:: I thought I'd be so happy.

I think when a person has been through so much it is normal to be guarded. I've been there...bought the t-shirt and still wearing it.
You work so hard to get pregnant and then the terror sets in.

I know it may be hard but celebrate this christmas miracle Congratulations. It's great to hear good news. Puts a smile on my face

Oh yeah...and YAY for barf!

 

[Kronk's girl]

Kronk's girl: I hope it works out anyway!

We haven't had anything done, really for that reason. I know we can get pregnant so I am on the fence about having tests done, doing chlomid, etc. when I know it is possible for us (happened after about 8-9 months of trying last time, but since I only cycle every 6-7 weeks, if that, this was during the fifth cycle). My bggest worry is staying that way, as I know now that I had a chem pregnancy in Feb 09, but I started only 2 days later than expected so I would have never even seen that BFP if I wasn't TTC, since I can be off 2-4 days either way; I would have never thought about it...My Dr. mentioned Chlomid to help regulate my cycles, but I just don't know if I'm up for all of the $$$ it will take to do everything with it. Even the inital testing will be alot, and my insurance will not cover AFIK. If I knew it would work, we would do it in a second, but we don't know so we are just seeing how it goes, and we don't really know if it is necessary.

Since we have been trying, I have actually only had 7 cycles (I am on my 8th). The first two after getting off BCPs were short and showed no ovulation, but since then I do ovulate every time. I also had two wierd long ones (one of which I got pregnant on; I ovulated on day 53 of that cycle based on my pregnancy dates), and the one after the MC, so IDK what to think... Right now, the plan is if it doesn't work this cycle (o day was Dec 24th so there is hope still, LOL), then we decided we would do one more, which would give us four cycles since I MCed (including the one immediately after that), and a little under 6 months since then.

I have the same problem, my cycles are very long. I know my insurance will cover these initial little blood tests since from what it looks like he is just testing my thyroid, hormones etc. But we don't have very good insurance so I doubt I would be covered for clomid or anything else. I am still not sure if we want to try clomid either, we'll have to think about it. My husband and I already agreed before this all started that clomid was going to be our limit. I already know I am ovulating, so I think it would only give me a few more chances a year.

Still no AF here, but I am not going to waste another test today, I am going to hold out...I think my body is just trying to torture me! But you guys are enablers I still have hope

 

[Jen_in_NH]

I have the same problem, my cycles are very long. I know my insurance will cover these initial little blood tests since from what it looks like he is just testing my thyroid, hormones etc. But we don't have very good insurance so I doubt I would be covered for clomid or anything else. I am still not sure if we want to try clomid either, we'll have to think about it. My husband and I already agreed before this all started that clomid was going to be our limit. I already know I am ovulating, so I think it would only give me a few more chances a year.

Still no AF here, but I am not going to waste another test today, I am going to hold out...I think my body is just trying to torture me! But you guys are enablers I still have hope

My insurance said they would cover testing to diagnose infertility, but not to treat it. They did cover all of the initial bloodwork, many rounds of Clomid, and a lot of the ultrasounds. When I tried a mini-stim cycle with IUI, they did cover the meds and ultrasound (but I think that was a mistake on their part), but not the IUI itself.

If you do have to take cloimd, and they don't pay, it's pretty cheap. Around here, it's on WalMart's $4 list

I did test today - suprise, suprise, a BFN. I know better than to get my hopes up, but somehow, always do.

Jen

 

[vettechick99]

Well I am back from my 2nd prenatal visit and all is well. Only ONE child, thank God. Here is the new vettechicklet...

If you turn your head to the side, it kinda looks like a rubber duckie.

 

[Pollito916]

Okay I have to confess....when I see someone getting their BFP my first reaction is YOU SUCK!! But I truly am happy for you too Especially those of us who have had such a struggle - I might be insanely jealous but my happiness definitely is sincere.

Well put!

Jen - sorry about the BFN, it's hard not to get your hopes up.

Well I am back from my 2nd prenatal visit and all is well. Only ONE child, thank God. Here is the new vettechicklet...

If you turn your head to the side, it kinda looks like a rubber duckie.

Adorable! I totally see the rubber duckie! If it's a boy it can be Donald, and a girl can be Daisy!

 

[Soccer Princess]

Congrats Mrs. Charming and Vettechick!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Vettechick--- AWWWW!! I can't wait, I hope I get to have a little Charminglet (I guess technically it'd be a prince or princess... but Charminglet sounds better!)

 

[D&DDisney]

Feels like I'm going to be here all alone this year.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Feels like I'm going to be here all alone this year.

Hopefully you aren't here for long. But as of now I'm here with you!

 

[D&DDisney]

Hopefully you aren't here for long. But as of now I'm here with you!

Problem is I HAVE BEEN here - over a year now.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Problem is I HAVE BEEN here - over a year now.

I haven't been a participant on this thread for that long....but we have been TTC #2 since September 2008 so I can totally understand your frustration.

 

[D&DDisney]

Just feeling kinda down today.

 

[vettechick99]

Just feeling kinda down today.

Seeing my U/S probably doesn't make you feel better. I'm sorry....

 

[WDWorBUST]

Does anyone else have the problem that after TTC for so long it seems to take over all aspects of your life? I hate that part of it.....but I don't know how to stop it. We were originally going to call it quits after this year, but I ultimately wasn't ready to do that. But as of now 2010 is it. I really don't know how long I can continue like this.....I mean everything is overshadowed by TTC.

Quick question for anyone who has had IUI's done....how much did it cost you? (I'm pretty sure that our insurance doesn't cover it - I changed to DH's so I need to confirm though) I'm trying to figure out how much I want to put in flex. I need to go ahead and make an appt with my doctor now though to see what direction she recommends going - possible to an RE next.

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

WDW I sometimes feel the same way - like it affects everything I do. We have been trying since we miscarried in Sept 2008. It seems like I am constantly trying to plan things with a plan B if we are "blessed". It does get hard for me too. I totally feel ya!

 

[Kronk's girl]

Does anyone else have the problem that after TTC for so long it seems to take over all aspects of your life?

YES! We have been trying for only 15 months, but we were supposed to start trying before that so I feel like we have been waiting on this baby for over 2 years. I have held onto a job that I hate because "if" we have a child it is a flexible job for me to be at home. We also didn't get a second dog, because we thought we'd be busy with a baby. I don't know how much longer I can stick out being at my boring job though, if we don't get pregnant this year I have to find something else before I go crazy. Is it acceptable to be a stay at home mom if you only have a dog?

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Feels like I'm going to be here all alone this year.

Nah, I'm here with you.

 

[soontobewed07]

Problem is I HAVE BEEN here - over a year now.

I haven't been here that long, but have been trying since DS was 9 months old so that is 2 years now and I know how you feel. It is taking over my life. Even if we are not trying we are trying

Big hugs to you today we all have those days we just want to lock ourselves in the bathroom and cry. I usually do it in the shower.

 

[WDWAurora]

WOOHOO for the 2 BFPs! We needed to see some more of those around here! Sometimes the BFPs of others can really help us get through our own BFNs.

I definitely experienced the "taking over everything" feeling. It took us 2 years and 4 months to get pregnant (but who's counting?) and really, after the first few months, it was all I could think about. I considered changing careers in the future because I work for the public school system and some days it was just too hard, especially when teachers are ALWAYS pregnant!

As for IUI, I believe mine was around 1100, plus meds & monitoring, both of which insurance helped with. Hope that helps!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I totally felt that way, for the past 2 years. I'm still not counting 2010 out either-- I don't know if this baby's sticking yet.

I know how you all feel... I guess a big part of me still feels this way, in "infertile" mode.