New TTC Thread

[Minnesota!]

Courtney - what FABULOUS news!!!! I bet you did a happy dance

Allison - sorry I hope your doctor has some answers for you today.

Yeah, I went to an RE for my sons and I just feel like I know WAY too much about everything to not put that knowledge to use! Now with my BFF seeing an RE, I am honing up again so I can help her, etc.

Have a great Tuesday, all!

 

[esbrick]

Congratulations Courtney! I am just so happy for you!

Allison ~ That sucks! Lot's of I told my BFF this am that my ****s hurt and she told me she was sorry to hear that for more then the usual reasons.

Well we have a new guy that has come to work with us and I met his family a week ago Sunday. They have 3 kids, 2 natural and one they just adopted. Anyway I of course apologized for being so bold but I asked her what helped them to deside to adopt and we talked about that for a while. She asked me if we were thinking of adopting or trying and I told her my story. Turns out she has one of those ClearPlan easy machines that she used to get pregnant with her son. She told me that she wasn't going to use it again so if I wanted it I was welcome to it. So in walks the husband yesterday and I have a (almost) new fancy machine and not a minute to soon either! I'm going to bring it with me on Friday as I am assuming that AF is going to start shortly, it's time afterall .

Off to NYC this weekend to see my parents and my new God child Declan! He's a cutie!

Take care and baby dust to all!

 

[skuttle]

Dr had me go in today for a blood test to confirm that I'm not pregnant before she has me stop the progesterone. *sigh*

 

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[D&DDisney]

Dr had me go in today for a blood test to confirm that I'm not pregnant before she has me stop the progesterone. *sigh*

Keep us updated.

 

[skuttle]

Nurse just called to say that my blood test came back negative. Big surprise there. They want me to keep taking the progesterone for a few more days, until CD35 or 36 (which is Saturday and Sunday). If AF still hasn't arrived, then I have to go back to the lab for another blood test. If that is still negative, then I will stop the progesterone to see if AF starts on its own. Ugh! I know I'm not pregnant. I was hoping to get the next IUI started. Guess that will have to wait until next week.

 

[si-am]

I'm sorry, Allison.

How many IUIs are you going to try?

 

[skuttle]

My Dr will do 3 IUIs. After that, I'll get referred to an RE. I have no idea what an RE's plan of attack for us would be. My past two IUIs, I did 50mg Clomid. I know I could up the clomid, or try other meds with IUI. I'm not sure if DH should have the surgery the urologist said may or may not help. Based on the past two SA for IUI, our biggest issue is motility. I don't know. My plan is to do the 3rd IUI, and then see an RE to reevaluate our options.

 

[si-am]

Your doctor is doing your IUIs? That's great! Mine sent me to an RE after the meds didn't work, but I am STILL procrastinating about going. Like you, I'm kind of wondering what the RE can really do since all my tests at the doctor came back normal. I don't think I want to spend so much money on IUI when it's failed so many people. And I can't afford IVF.

One of my best friends just got pregnant, though, after three years of trying. Her husband had the surgery that your husband "needs," and the RE also caught a thyroid problem in her that the doctor didn't catch. So who knows what really helped with the pregnancy the most? But apparently the tests at the RE are much more comprehensive so maybe that could shed some more light on things.

Just too much to think about!

 

[skuttle]

Si-am...My Dr does just plain clomid and IUI. She said after 3, if that doesn't work, she sends me to an RE because the different meds start to get too complicated for her. I was hoping I would not have to go to the RE, but I bet I will. I don't think I'll have DH do the surgery until we see an RE to determine if it's even worth. DH is willing to do it, but I just hate for him to go through that if it won't work. His count and morph has always been okay. It's the motility that's the worse. Damn lazy sperm! At least at the RE, hopefully I won't get stuck in a waiting room with a ton of pregnant girls!!

It really is a lot to think about. So much money and never a 100% guarantee.

 

[soontobewed07]

Allison I think the money is worth it in the end. I know it's tough, but living your life not doing it could be worse. It's the only thing that keeps me going after being poked proded etc....


Today has pushed me back even further. I am so tired and just want to cry every single day. I had a thyroid U/S to find out I do indeed have a parathyroid adenoma. This could mean another surgery. I just feel like giving up and stopping everything just let aunt flo come every 5 days and live with it. I am anyway. Sorry I am being such a downer I just can't stand it. Also my blood work came back normal which is not helping solve the problem is it all in my head?

 

[skuttle]

soontobewed.... I'm so sorry. Sometimes, a "normal" test result is worse than finding out something is wrong. Something must be in the water on this thread because I've been super aggravated and down about the whole TTC thing, too!

 

[D&DDisney]

soontobewed.... I'm so sorry. Sometimes, a "normal" test result is worse than finding out something is wrong. Something must be in the water on this thread because I've been super aggravated and down about the whole TTC thing, too!

See... there inlies the problem. We're not drinking the right beverage.
I've just about had it with water and cranberry juice today. Somehow got a UTI and boy or boy does that put a damper on things. OUCH!!!!And this is week 2. Never fails that something else has to get in the way.

 

[esbrick]

I got AF Tuesday afternoon, shocker . So I started my new fancy machine so that's a plus, but I was supposed to go to the dr tomorrow. Well, good thing I called to reschedule because I found out they never SCHEDULED ME! I've rescheduled for October 27th which is fine I guess. (I schedule my appointments for when my boss is out of town)

So here I sit at work, reading Dis; eating my starbursts; drinking my diet coke; & trying to figure out when did my body deside that it was fair to have cramps in the front and in my back. . .

OK, sorry, I'm done, drinking hat is on and I'm in!

 

[skuttle]

Have any of you gone to any type of infertility peer support group? I've been trying to do more about coping with my emotions. I started the blog (which helps a lot!), and I also started looking for some sort of support group or IF therapist.

I stumbled upon the resolve website (Nat'l Infertility Assoc) and found an email address for a local peer support group. They meet the first Monday of each month. I emailed them and their next meeting is Sept 14th due to labor day. She said that they have had a few new people interested in the group, so I wouldn't be the only newbie. I'm not sure if I'm up for it or not. I just don't know. Part of me really wants to do it. But then I don't want to upset people since I'm dealing with secondary IF. Maybe I'll mention that and see what she says. I don't know. Attending a support group would be a huge step for me, but I think it may be something that would really help me.

 

[mickeyboat]

Allison, I think a support group would be a terrific idea for you. You can get actual hugs there instead of cyber ones!

 

[D&DDisney]

Have any of you gone to any type of infertility peer support group? I've been trying to do more about coping with my emotions. I started the blog (which helps a lot!), and I also started looking for some sort of support group or IF therapist.

I stumbled upon the resolve website (Nat'l Infertility Assoc) and found an email address for a local peer support group. They meet the first Monday of each month. I emailed them and their next meeting is Sept 14th due to labor day. She said that they have had a few new people interested in the group, so I wouldn't be the only newbie. I'm not sure if I'm up for it or not. I just don't know. Part of me really wants to do it. But then I don't want to upset people since I'm dealing with secondary IF. Maybe I'll mention that and see what she says. I don't know. Attending a support group would be a huge step for me, but I think it may be something that would really help me.

I say go for it!!!!
My first time around, I joined an on-line group called "Hannah's Prayer". We just emailed back and forth. There were different groups you could belong to - secondary, primary, miscarriage, etc. It was a big help to me. Met some very nice people. The only problem was when I finally DID get pregnant, (after 8 years mind you) the woman who was talking w/ me the most, was so hurt that I did and she didn't that she never spoke to me again.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

I think a support group is a good idea. It may be a good idea to find others dealing with secondary infertility too. I know my friend who hasn't been able to get pregnant (didn't try any fertility treatments of any sort, just left everything to chance) wasn't all that supportive of me whenever I was down over getting AF every month and the miscarriages. She was one of those people that thought I should count my blessings with the kids I have (and I do, trust me) and that I didn't have too much to be upset about. I chose not to bring anything up because I knew I wouldn't get the support I expected.

Secondary infertility is very painful and I think it is one of those things where people don't fully understand unless they are affected by it. It sucks month after month, may drain you emotionally and financially. All the while you have to put on your happy face for your kid(s) and cry at night when they are sleeping etc. I can go on and on but we all know how it feels.

I'll tell you what DH always tells me. 'Do what you need to do'

 

[skuttle]

Kiki, that's my concern as well. I will definitely email the contact person again to let her know I'm dealing with secondary infertility to make sure it's okay for me to attend. The last thing I want is to make others uncomfortable.

AF officially arrived today, despite the progesterone. I'll be doing 50mg of clomid again because I've been getting good follicles and my Dr doesn't want me to overstimulate. She's hoping this month she can actually do the IUI since the past two have been with on-call Drs! Maybe the third time is the charm!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Skuttle,
Sounds like you are feeling a bit better and thinking good thoughts about this coming month

Aurora,
How are you doing?

One of the girls at work announced on Facebook that she is expecting #3 in April. She's one of those types that decides to try and gets pregnant on the first month. *rolls eyes* and then thinks she's better than everybody else.
I've only told a couple of people at work about us only because they asked how things were going as they knew what I've been through. The rest can figure it out on their own...a few of them were jerks when I was pregnant with my 2 y/o in 2006. Lots of age related snide remarks. A couple of times I cried driving home.