Need some delicate parental advice!!

[MzDiz]

IF DH and I ever have a baby together, we are not doing the Easter Bunny, Santa, Tooth fairy thing...I don't want to have to worry about hurting my child over such things.

I felt the same way when I realized there wasn't a god.

Ah ha! It's all perspective, right? One person's reality is another's make-believe. You just never know how your actions will shape your children.

I choose to keep believing in Santa. The tooth fairy doesn't apply to me anymore (and hopefully not again for many years!) and the Easter Bunny just makes me fat, so I'll un-believe in that guy. I'm going to believe that Walt Disney is frozen somewhere too, so perhaps one day he'll thaw and set a few things straight in his parks!

 

[FreshTressa]

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How sad to not have some of the make believe magic of child hood, instead to give them knowledge that they will then share with their classmates who may tease and ridicule them.

We all need a little bit of magic, even if as we get older Mom and Dad take a more active role in that Magic.

I don't think it is sad...my kids don't seem deprived!

A big part of it is the fact that DH is jewish and doesn't celebrate easter or christmas.

Not everyone is comfortable with magic/fantasy, and that is okay.

 

[Free4Life11]

I don't get this whole "magic" stuff. I never cared about the magic, I just cared about the PRESENTS and CANDY.

 

[dwheatl]

My sixteen year old daughter rolled her eyes at me yesterday because the price tag was on her marshmallow Peeps. I told her the EB shops at Long's Drugs! When my 17 year old son was in fifth grade, he started telling his little sister there was no Santa. I sent her to clean her room, and told him that it was our secret and he had to look out for the little kids. He started crying and said that he really believed in Santa but was just being a pest to his sister. He tells me his therapist says there's no permanent damage (JK)!
I teach third grade in a public school, so my students have a wide variety of beliefs/traditions. One boy was going around thinking he was so smart, telling everyone there was no Santa. We had just studied legends, so I told my class that Santa is like George Washington, a real person about whom the stories have become exaggerated. I told them that they must have figured out by now that not everything that everyone has told them about Santa could be true. This leaves it open for them to believe as much or as little as they want (and I'm not lying).

 

[kristen821]

IF DH and I ever have a baby together, we are not doing the Easter Bunny, Santa, Tooth fairy thing...I don't want to have to worry about hurting my child over such things. DS and DD (from DH's first marriage) asked their mom and were told the truth when they were around 10 years old, they both handled it fine (I am pretty sure they all ready knew by things they said to us). I remember finding out the truth and being so upset, but I was a very sensitive child.

I guess I would wait until DS starts asking questions unless he gets to be too old, then you'll have to tell him for his own good.

I never told my kids there was an easter bunny, santa, etc. I told them it is just pretend, but they can't tell other kids because it will hurt thier feelings.