lisaviolet
DIS Veteran
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- Jul 9, 2002
DH is starting to throw a fit because he just can’t understand how a family of four has almost 8 loads of laundry a week.
Lots of wasted energy there. Maybe pass the baton for finding the solution.
DH is starting to throw a fit because he just can’t understand how a family of four has almost 8 loads of laundry a week.
Only 8 loads a week? When our kids were home there were some weeks we did 20+ loads a week, 3 loads a day. Family of 4. Kids had school uniforms, their clothing for baseball/soccer and then what they changed into when they got home. DW and I had work clothing, gym clothing and what we changed into after the gym. And the doesn't include PJs and sheets.DH is starting to throw a fit because he just can’t understand how a family of four has almost 8 loads of laundry a week. That is a lot.
I totally get why. She doesn't want the washer and dryer broken! I'm 64 and I'm only allowed to touch the washer and dryer with written instructions.why are you doing their laundry???? When I was that age I was doing my own laundry. You should only be doing your and your husbands.
I like this idea in theory and it's working for your family but I've been doing my own laundry for many many years and honestly how much dirty clothes I have varies and changes all the time. In the summer yuck I'm washing things more frequently because you're stepping outside and you're a sweaty mess but then when it's cooler less so. Sometimes we've got a ton of activities especially on the weekend and then other times we're mostly homebodies.
I know for your children there's a different component but with both my parents (which somehow they both were like this rare) they just taught me to do laundry and that was it, there was no controlling when I did and didn't do laundry, no "you must do it on this day" because that wasn't how our lives were or how many loads I could do in a week. Laundry just didn't pile up on a schedule. But I think the tools were there to make it work. No one just controlled the washer and dryer all the time, you worked with everyone not against everyone.
I totally get why. She doesn't want the washer and dryer broken! I'm 64 and I'm only allowed to touch the washer and dryer with written instructions.
So I have a 15-year-old DD and DS 16. I am attaching a picture of what our typical bathroom/laundry situation is. DH is starting to throw a fit because he just can’t understand how a family of four has almost 8 loads of laundry a week. That is a lot. Especially, see below, how the kids treat their clothes. There’s no way to tell what his actual laundry and what can be worn again. There’s really no overview on what’s really dirty and what is not. Yes we are a family that does try to wear outside pieces of clothing more than once. Attached is our downstairs bathroom and the one upstairs is the same. The kids will take off a piece of clothing and just throw it in the bathtub or on the floor and as you can see the laundry basket is right there. Or when they actually do use the laundry basket they’ll throw in something that doesn’t need to be washed yet. So I’m trying to think of some strategy here. Get them to realize how much stress their mess is causing me. I’ve done enough yelling and threatening. So what would you do?
My one thought this morning is that I no longer do laundry for them. I will give them each two laundry tabs - that’s the contingent for how many loads they can do. I have a feeling if I don’t do that they’ll just make piles in their bedrooms and not sort them out and just throw everything in the machines and in the end have actually more loads of laundry per week. They just need to learn how much additional workload this is causing all of us with their disorganization, laziness and how they handle their clothes. My DD is a complete other challenge because she’s the type that likes to change her tops three times a day and just throws the ones she already had on before wherever she happens to be. I could also go the route of collecting whatever is lying about the house and charging money to get pieces back. I don’t know any ideas?
If my DH was a DISer he would have soooo "liked" your post!I totally get why. She doesn't want the washer and dryer broken! I'm 64 and I'm only allowed to touch the washer and dryer with written instructions.
Fabric softener in the soap tray, or vis versa, you are looking at a repair call. And wrong setting, ruined clothing.Hogwash. Machines these days are impossible to purposely break. They are full of sensors and whatnot and will simply shut down if they are overloaded or unbalanced or have too much soap or whatever.
Do you know how to read instructions? I would assume so. Ours also had it written on the tray Fabric Softener.Fabric softener in the soap tray, or vis versa, you are looking at a repair call. And wrong setting, ruined clothing.
This reminds of when I was traveling out of state a lot for a year helping an older relative. Inevitably, I would get the phone call from DH that started with “I’m standing in front of the washer with a load of (sheets, lights, darks). What do I do?” My answer always started with “from left to right, select…” Eventually, he put notes on his phone that he could refer to so he didn’t need to call any more for instructions.I totally get why. She doesn't want the washer and dryer broken! I'm 64 and I'm only allowed to touch the washer and dryer with written instructions.
I do. And fortunately, I never made that mistake. Kids, well, it took several cycles of the washer empty to ungunk it.Do you know how to read instructions? I would assume so. Ours also had it written on the tray Fabric Softener.
I totally get why. She doesn't want the washer and dryer broken! I'm 64 and I'm only allowed to touch the washer and dryer with written instructions.
Fabric softener in the soap tray, or vis versa, you are looking at a repair call. And wrong setting, ruined clothing.
You seem like a pretty clever guy. Is there any reason to be worried that you'd put softener in the soap tray or use the wrong settings?Fabric softener in the soap tray, or vis versa, you are looking at a repair call. And wrong setting, ruined clothing.