My sister's mad at me.....

[Freyja]

Technically the photos belong to the bride and groom.. They can do whatever they want with them.. Your sister was requesting something that does not belong to you - nor does it belong to her.. Have her call your DD (the bride and co-owner of the photos) and they can resolve it between themselves..

ITA

 

[kaytieeldr]

OP, it's NOT your problem. You did nothing wrong and can't reasonably be expected to be responsible for your daughter's decisions/choices.

IMO, it sounds like the aunt is mad that her easy gift option is gone.

It's not even gone - the OP's sister just doesn't have her choice of what picture to request/give.

 

[clgwli]

I think you are right about the copyright issue. She could have ordered directly from the photographer. I honestly was trying to be helpful by telling her if she waited she could basically get the same item for free.

And I am not trying to pick on you but I hope you can see why I think the sister has a right to be upset. You were trying to help but in the end the sister was screwed with the gift idea.

I also think it is a better gift for the bride and groom to give a photo of themselves, not the one of mom and friend.

I don't believe in the whole bride and groom owning the whole day mentality as many here do. My family had just as much right to the photos as I did.

 

[Kae]

I also agree the pictures are the brides & she should have first"rights" in our family when a couple gets married their first Christmas they give photos from the wedding as gifts.

But you should have told your sister that DD might being doing pictures for her Christmas gifts this year.

Kae

 

[sbell111]

OH GEEZ!
As one of three sisters...heres my take for what its worth...
Did you happen to mention to your daughter that her aunt had picked out that pix as a gift for grandma already? If not, IO think you should have, you did know she asked you and you you did make it appear that you were well aware it was agift from her to give your mom....sorry, but I think you owe her an apology for a) either NOT mentioning it to daughter (who YES< should have her choice of pix to get and give, BUT, I am sure she would be kind enough to step aside for that ONE pix since it was already offered up to your sister (otherwise how did your sister get the photos to review anyway) OR B) apologize for FORGETTING to say something to the bride that sis already wanted that pix as a gift...but honestly, Its a HAPPY occasion, a WEDDING, so HOPEFULLY no real angst and hurt is left and instead happy thoughts and just a forgive/forget can take place. Good Luck!

 

[TheZue]

Weird spin on this...If I recieved a picture from a wedding that was taken by a professional from somebody other than the bride and groom I'd find that weird. If I found out that they got a cheap print made from the brides CD I'd find even stranger. It's basically getting a gift from somebody that they didn't pay for, while somebody else did pay a lot of money for it. It would be like if a relative did a bunch of baking and worked hard on it, and other just grabbed some to give out with their name on it and then told the baker they couldn't give out the cookies since they called dibs. Just seems cheesy and cheap imo.

 

[suzannen]

I'm glad you were able to come up with a solution, but I also think it's very wierd the sister wants to give a photo to another family member from her niece's wedding. That's totally the bride and groom's gift to give. She should have called them directly and discussed it with them at the time.

 

[Lucky4me]

Unless Auntie was paying the photographer, she shouldn't have first choice over what prints to give other family members.
The mistake that was made was the OP should have said, sure you can have that print, but I don't know what prints DD is going to want or give, so why don't we wait and see? I'd apologize for that, but the dd gets first dibs on the prints and the gift to Grandma.