My sister just called me and is freaking out - **small update**

[D L and K's Mom]

This is so scary. I would be so scared for my child. I hope everything works out for the OP and her family. I hope they stay safe and well....

 

[Carys]

I can understand the calls for people to take a step back with the conjecture about hitmen and the suchlike, it is at the unlikely end of the scale. However, if there's a child involved, you can't be too careful, and to boot here it sounds like a messy divorce. Now, to me that still doesn't read hitmen, but advice about simple security such as key logging software (which is easy to install and fairly widespread in use) seems sound. Perhaps the husband thought she might be having an affair before the divorce was final, and was trying to get evidence for leverage in the settlement.

I keep checking back to this thread every day to read updates because I'm rooting for a simple explanation for why someone was in the house and dropped a cellphone upstairs. Hope OP and her sister are coping okay with the uncertainty

 

[JimmyPicker]

First of all, this is freaky!

Now onto the phone thing. Let's examine this.

If you were doing something bad, like breaking into a house or installing bugs in phones or hidden cameras in the vents, and you thought there was the slightest possibility that you lost your phone in the house you weren't supposed to be in, why would you call the number to see if you could hear it ring?

So I'm going to assume that whoever called the number was not the person that was in the house.

Why haven't the police tracked any information on that incoming call yet? Why aren't the police repeatedly calling that number until someone answers?

For this to be a brand new phone that has never been used before is extremely alarming. As if whoever was in the house bought the phone just for this purpose. Or maybe they bought a set of phones just for this purpose and that's why the police can't get any info from the incoming number either?

Was the phone left there on purpose to freak her out? Doubtful, because how many people would want to freak her out? If the STBX had any brains, he would know this would incriminate him, which wouldn't be good during all this divorce stuff.

So, the phone was probably dropped accidentally. The OP has stated there wouldn't be much reason for the STBX to be upstairs, and that the dogs ran to and looked out the front door after the sister entered through the garage door, making them think whoever this was left through the front door.

Was the front door locked when the sister returned home? If there's any good lock on the door, like a deadbolt, it would have to be relocked from the outside, indicating someone had a key (STBX) or that the person didn't exit from the front door after all.

Someone questioned upstairs windows. If someone exited from an upstairs window, they wouldn't be able to lock it from the outside, so find out from your sister if all her windows were locked before this happened, and were they locked after this happened.

If it was the STBX, what are the chances he would be upstairs (unless that's how he entered or exited, which is why the window question is crucial)? Slim, according to the OP. If the upstairs windows were all still locked after the incident, he wouldn't have had to go upstairs at all.

So maybe we're looking at a random B&E. One person (with an untracable phone) to break in and one person (with an untracable phone) to look out.

That may or may not make sense. If someone was looking out, they would have seen the sister come home and called to warn the one on the inside, which would have shown on the call history, but that was empty except for the one mysterious call the sister heard.

Maybe the outside buddy knew the inside buddy had gotten out and was trying to figure out where the inside buddy had gotten to so they could make their escape and called to set up a spot to pick him up?

I don't know. But that one incoming number is a clue, and the police really need to be figuring out who that number belongs to.

I just keep thinking that the STBX wouldn't need an untracable phone just for this occassion and that he wouldn't plant it there to scare her.

I guess for all my rambling, all I can say is good luck, and I hope the police find out something soon!

 

[Disney Doll]

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I won't take it the wrong way, but the women who have suffered at the hands of their STBX's who have done just this sort of thing would. It happens. Believe it or not, there are websites out there that instruct men on how to do just this sort of thing, no matter how "movie plot", or nutty it sounds, it is very much a sick reality. Until you have been the victim to such a sick, twisted mind, don't go around passing judgement or looking down your bubble wrapped nose at others. This snarky little statement leads me to think you took it the wrong way .
As for telling the OP to stop using their computer, I was referring to the SIL. I'm not sure how the SIL posting from her own computer not at the house of the estranged couple is going to enable her STBex-BIL to tap into her computer. As for the rest of your advice, it has osme merit but at a certain point I think one can only be so paranoid. Yes, I'd probably have a computer geek look at my computer to make sure there's nothing on there, yes, I'd probably take a pretty close look at my house to make sure there is nothing like video or recording equipment, but I would not be living in a state of paranoia...that may be exacl;ty what the STBex-H wants, so I wouldn't give him the satisfaction.

 

[Rora]

OP- I hope your sister and nephew are okay! Keep us updated.. You are all in our thoughts!

 

[Maggimus]

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Thank you! I also think he took what I said in the wrong way.

 

[AuntPatti]

Anything new to report?

 

[Chicago526]

any updates?

 

[MRNsMommy]

Was wondering the same...any updates?

 

[kangareaux]

bumping...

 

[N&B'smom]

OP - anything new?

 

[SnowWhite607]

Whew, I just read all 21 pages and I would also like to know - anything new??

 

[Jenvenza]

Hi everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful Easter!!

I havent been able to read all your replies or post for the past few days since we went out of town for the hoilday. And writing on my Ipod is not too easy, so I try not to do that!

There has been no new updates and I highly doubt there will be. The cops act like they have done all that they are going to do. I also mentioned security tapes and fingerprinting - but my husband said - "This isn't a murder case and I don't think they do that." - maybe so, but you never know what the intention was of whoever was in her house.

The main reason I do believe it was the ex now is because he hasn't called her to ask about it - or if she and their son are okay - wouldn't that be the first rational thing a person would do when they found out someone had broken into his ex's house? Unless of course, it was HIM who broke in and he didnt have to worry.

My sister did say that the officer told her ex when he went to his work to pay him a visit that he would give his phone back to him, if it was indeed his phone - which I thought was srange - but of course her ex said it wasn't. The officer said he could tell when people lie and that her ex was definitely lying.

I don't know - this whole thing is just so strange. I have been trying to convince by sister to move. I just don't think it is safe there anymore.

 

[Jenvenza]

Am I the only one who's wondering if the ex is on the DIS, reading all of this and staying one step ahead because he knows every single move that his ex-wife and the OP are making? I mean ... I suppose it's incredibly amazingly remarkably unlikely ... but the OP has all this info about the house ... the dogs ... the police ... pictures of her daughter (who the ex would surely recognize) ... etc.

Call it paranoia run wild if you will, but there's a lot of personal stuff divulged in these posts. There's no possible way he'd stumble upon this, is there?

Absolutely - no way he is on here.

Another reason to dislike him - he LOATHES Disney.

Actually when we had our trip planned last year, my sister and her son were supposed to come with us. It was paid for and everything, but one week before we left, he threw a huge fit and told her he didnt want her to go. And she didnt. She was so sad, because she loves Disney. He left her a week after the rest of us got back from Disney - which leads me to believe he just didnt want her to go because he didnt want her to spend the money, because he was planning on leaving.

 

[AnnaS]

Thank you for the update and Happy Belated Easter to you and your family too.

Will keep good thoughts and prayers for your sister. Hope she has a smooth divorice (I can't even remember right now if they are divorced or going through one -I am sorry she might not have that from what has transpired and have said).

If i'ts her ex, hopefully won't do anything for a while or will stop all together and just wanted to scare her. It's sad, but there are a lot of sick people out there or will do sick things under any circumstances. We can't be too careful or take anything for granted.

 

[HLAuburn]

Another reason to dislike him - he LOATHES Disney.

Yeah, I knew I didn't like this guy!

Thanks for the update!

 

[beattyfamily]

Thank you for the updates. We really appreciate it.

For some reason, though, it feels incomplete. Unresoved. I guess I was hoping they'd know who did it beyond a reasonable doubt. Maybe he'd confess or something like that. I know, it's too much to ask.

I feel so badly for your sister. She must be scared. It's such an invasion of privacy. Can I ask? How could have gotten in? Is it that she never changed the locks and he still had a key?

You haven't said, is your sister scared to be alone in the house? Duh, I'm sure she still is but I'm wondering has she done anything to help her feel more at ease at home? I forgot, did she change the locks? Anything else?

Has she seen him since or talked to him since the incident?

If there are any new developments, please let us know. She is in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Maggimus]

I agree with your husband, having dealt with law inforcement before on serious matters... unless someone has actually been harmed or theres a serious extent to the crime, they don't go through fingerprinting, getting tapes, etc...

Your sis can still hire a PI.

 

[DizBelle]

I say, post the phone number of the incoming call and we'll all call it non-stop.

 

[SharkyGoddess]

I say, post the phone number of the incoming call and we'll all call it non-stop.

We can all call the number and in our best creepy voice say "What's your favorite scary movie?"

For those non-scary movie people, it's a movie quote from the movie Scream.