My Sister called my DH a Liar!!!

[daleswife]

So I posted here a while back about my Family Disney vacation and how my sister and her husband brought Pot and put it in their suitcase in the back of my DH truck and he drove down I-95. They told him they had it but when he got pissed about it they said dont worry it was on the plane......GRRRR....anyhoo, now she is denying that she even had it at all. She and her husband told my DH they had it and almost got caught with it at the pool one night.....funny thing is my DH called the front desk to complain about all the noise coming from the pool.....HAHAHHA....anyhoo, she is now saying she didnt have it and that DH is just saying that to cause trouble with them and hes nothing but a liar......She also said that when she's around me she feels useless, worthless, that I think I am better than her, and a bunch of other BS that she pulled out of her hindquarters. I just dont know what to do, do I keep replying to the emails or do I just ignore it??? Its getting old and I just want it to stop.......

Sorry, just needed to vent a little!!!

 

[disykat]

Stop replying. Your sister is trying to make herself feel better by shifting the blame for her circumstances (feeling worthless, etc.) onto you and your husband. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to play the game!

 

[a1tinkfans]

OUCH!
Seems there is more going on here than POT sounds like a jealousy thing on her part. But its your sister, so I'd just send a reply saying something like, "look, lets agree to disagree and move on" and hope for the best. But I would not keep going back and forth. What is the point?
And by the way, it was rotten of her to put your dh in that position anyway, she clearly gave no thought to the consequences for your family and thats just wrong.

Either way to you, hang in there and best of luck.
FAMILY..... can't live with em and can't live without them!

 

[bumbershoot]

Just stop the conversation. There's no point to it, right?

 

[krise]

EWE. I wouldn't give her that wanted attention

 

[daleswife]

It just keeps getting better and better....I didnt reply but she sent another saying that I was mean to her kids...I just dont know why she is starting this now. I havent talked to her since August of 2008......

 

[Scurvy]

Stop reading the emails. In fact, maybe you should just block all emails from her. It sounds like she's just trying to get a reaction out of you - don't give it to her.

 

[Cindy F]

......I havent talked to her since August of 2008......

Since August? That's so sad, I'm sorry.

 

[Leajess99]

So I posted here a while back about my Family Disney vacation and how my sister and her husband brought Pot and put it in their suitcase in the back of my DH truck and he drove down I-95. They told him they had it but when he got pissed about it they said dont worry it was on the plane......GRRRR....anyhoo, now she is denying that she even had it at all. She and her husband told my DH they had it and almost got caught with it at the pool one night.....funny thing is my DH called the front desk to complain about all the noise coming from the pool.....HAHAHHA....anyhoo, she is now saying she didnt have it and that DH is just saying that to cause trouble with them and hes nothing but a liar......She also said that when she's around me she feels useless, worthless, that I think I am better than her, and a bunch of other BS that she pulled out of her hindquarters. I just dont know what to do, do I keep replying to the emails or do I just ignore it??? Its getting old and I just want it to stop.......

Sorry, just needed to vent a little!!!

Stop replying and I would even block her email address for now so she can't email you.

 

[Stacerita]

Stop replying to her. And I probably wouldn't even open more mail from her.

 

[Krissy Marissy]

She is trying to get a rise out of you. Just stop reading the emails....stop replying, and she will eventually stop. I have a crazy sister too and sometimes you just have to let them be for a while. Good luck to you!

 

[bellebud]

seriously, the pot in your dh's truck is SO way over the line. I personally would cut major ties over that. Your dh could have gone to jail. does your sister give a cr@p? definitely not. they're smoking pot, and they have children? I really feel sorry for those kids! The judgement your sister has shown is horrible. I'd not reply to her emails - or any phone calls. Wait till the next major holiday, and be civil, but that's it. WOW, I'm honestly blown away at her childish behavior.

 

[TnTWalter]

So sorry....I'd try to keep it cordial for their kids sake. No reason to re-hash [no pun intended] the problems.

They need a positive influence it sounds like and you're the Aunt and Uncle.

My SIL went through problems with her sis and it was really hard but thankfully she was able to keep somewhat in the kids' lives.

Good luck and big

 

[Worfiedoodles]

Either way to you, hang in there and best of luck.
FAMILY..... can't live with em and can't live without them!

We say "Family...can't live with 'em and can't shoot 'em"....

Seriously, you need to block her e-mail for awhile and give everyone time to cool down. It doesn't matter how you reply to her right now, because this isn't about you, it's about her and you can't fix it.

Just do your best to have a magical day, and let it rest!

 

[fireflymedic]

I'm with the dont read dont reply grp.

you can not deal with "pot heads"

and if they needed to smoke it at Disney they are realy bad, who needs drugs at disney you should get a natural high

 

[daleswife]

Ok, so heres the latest. DH got home from work last night and saw the emails. (I was away from the computer helping the kiddos and he sat down and read all of them...) anyhoo, He replied to her and told her that it was childish to blame me for all her problems and even worse that they feel they need to bring weed with them everywhere they go. She replied that it was none of his business and it was MY account and he had no business reading emails between her and ME....HES MY HUSBAND!!!! So he just told her that we love her kids and would never hurt them but that as of right now do not contact us again for a long time. and that when she can stop blaming all her problems on me that maybe then we can talk again. My fear is she will run and spread her usual lies to Mom and Mom will get mad at me just like she always does when it comes to my sister. I have already decided to spare mom this whole ordeal and keep her feelings intact. Im not so sure my sister will.....AND worse...Im on my way down to moms this afternoon.....I just pray my sister dont say anything.....

 

[daleswife]

Oh I forgot to mention that she said "Im sorry I dont have the money to take my kids to Disney or on any other vacation for that matter...." To which I thought but did not say......GET OFF WEED and you'll have money to do things....I just dont feel one bit sorry for her.