Liz
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- Aug 18, 1999
My 70 yr. old mother lives in Florida alone. I'm an only child and live in Utah. We talk every week and usually visit her once a year. But she's getting older and even though she's always said she can't understand why anyone (me) would ever leave Florida, she doesn't want to be alone so she wants to move here.
Pros: I could take care of her as she gets older and she wouldn't be alone.
Cons: Just about everything else!!! We are so different! She can't stand cold weather and has never been to Utah in the winter. She keeps her furnace in FL on 78 during the winter. We keep ours on 68 during a Utah winter. She visited us once in October and it was a little cool. We thought we'd die when she kept turning the heat up to 80. DH and mom had thermostat wars that weren't pretty.
Also she has problems with her nerves. She has lived alone for years. I don't think she realizes what it would be like to live with 4 other people (2 of which are teenagers not to mention their friends) and 4 animals (she's not an animal in the house person and we are).
She wants us to "pool our money", sell both our houses and buy a bigger one with a MIL apartment. I think an ideal situation would be for her to live here in town but have her own place. But I'm not sure financially she could do that plus she doesn't want to. She said she won't live in an apt. or anywhere else someone else has a key to her door. Neither of us are well off financially so that limits our choices. We have an unfinished basement here that we could finish and move into and she could live upstairs I guess (too cold for her in the basement).
I just can't imagine going back to living with my mom again and being made to feel like a child. During my DD's recent illness and hospital stay my mom said she wished she was here and although she wouldn't really be able to help she'd be able to tell me what to do.
Any ideas or suggestions? We've got to do something but I'm afraid we'd all be miserable living together. My BIL/SIL and MIL/FIL all moved in together. It lasted about 18 months before MIL/FIL moved out. A great relationship was almost ruined by living together. I told my mom that and she said she's easy to get along with and they aren't (not true).
Sorry so long!
Pros: I could take care of her as she gets older and she wouldn't be alone.
Cons: Just about everything else!!! We are so different! She can't stand cold weather and has never been to Utah in the winter. She keeps her furnace in FL on 78 during the winter. We keep ours on 68 during a Utah winter. She visited us once in October and it was a little cool. We thought we'd die when she kept turning the heat up to 80. DH and mom had thermostat wars that weren't pretty.
Also she has problems with her nerves. She has lived alone for years. I don't think she realizes what it would be like to live with 4 other people (2 of which are teenagers not to mention their friends) and 4 animals (she's not an animal in the house person and we are).
She wants us to "pool our money", sell both our houses and buy a bigger one with a MIL apartment. I think an ideal situation would be for her to live here in town but have her own place. But I'm not sure financially she could do that plus she doesn't want to. She said she won't live in an apt. or anywhere else someone else has a key to her door. Neither of us are well off financially so that limits our choices. We have an unfinished basement here that we could finish and move into and she could live upstairs I guess (too cold for her in the basement).
I just can't imagine going back to living with my mom again and being made to feel like a child. During my DD's recent illness and hospital stay my mom said she wished she was here and although she wouldn't really be able to help she'd be able to tell me what to do.
Any ideas or suggestions? We've got to do something but I'm afraid we'd all be miserable living together. My BIL/SIL and MIL/FIL all moved in together. It lasted about 18 months before MIL/FIL moved out. A great relationship was almost ruined by living together. I told my mom that and she said she's easy to get along with and they aren't (not true).
Sorry so long!