My girlfriend... not a vent

[Shelton123]

OK so my girlfriend just called me and she said that the got diagnosed with Osteosarcoma a week ago, and she just called me a couple seconds ago. She said that her legs are paralyzed for some reason just Yesterday and that's why she wasn't in school. I really am worried about her, and I just don't know what to do. I'm going to bring her flowers, and I've been comforting her a lot. What else should I do?

 

[pigletgirl]

Aww that has to be so hard!
Maybe bring her some chicken noodle soup? Or bring a movie and you and her can watch it together. I know if I were in your shoes I would be spending as much time as possible with my SO. The activity wouldnt really matter as much. Just be with her. Does she have a favorite thing to do?

 

[imabrat]

Oh.
My.
God.

I had Osteosarcoma.

Oh.
My.
God.

 

[imabrat]

Okay, sorry for that last part. It just when I hear someone diagnosed with Osteo my heart plummets a little.
PLEASE JUST BE THERE FOR HER! That was the most important thing for me. I don't care if you call me on the phone to talk for 5 minutes, or if you spend the whole day with me in the hospital - just be there.

If she's paralyzed that means it's VERY bad. That, or she's on some strong pain killers from the biopsy.
Is she going for chemo?

 

[cjordan08]

she's probably really depressed so you should try your best to cheer her up and keep her company as much as possible.
She will thank you for it in the long run.

-whatever her favorite things are like candy, movie, game.. get it and take it to her or something.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Comfort her the best you can, and be supportive.
I agree with Emily, maybe bring her some soup and her favorite movie and watch it with her. Or write her a sweet poem/letter.

 

[imabrat]

If she does get chemo, best bring her food now. She's gonna need to fatten up before she loses 1/4 of her body weight like I did.
Plus, we get a little sick from foods day to day. One day all I did was gorge on Chinese food. The next day it came back the front door and couldn't touch Chinese food for months.


Please let her know I am here for her. If she ever needs to talk to someone who's gone through it, I'm more than willing to help.

 

[BabyPiglet]

The best thing to do is to just be there. I'm sure even the little things would mean the world to her. Cuddle and watch a movie together, chat about trivial things just like you used to. I bet she would like a little 'escape' from this.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Ohmigosh. I'm so sorry, Sheldon!

Give her lots of those (hugs). Rent a cute movie and cuddle up together. Let her vent to you, let her cry on your shoulder. Just give her lots of love and support.

 

[Ppufi]

I'd get her a big stuffed animal. I always had soft squishy friends around me to squeeze whenI felt scared when I was sick. Also, spend a lot of time with her while she feels okay. Being sick is so scary, and she'll want to have a comforting person around her.

Prayers and thoughts to your girlfriend.

 

[Huit]

Like other people are saying, just be there for her. Maybe like, every Thursday or something could be the mandatory, no escaping date night. Even if it's just going over to her house to play Monopoly. What's better than stability, right? Nobody knows exactly what will happen, but it's always great to have something normal. Of course, it's better if you can see her once a week, but life's a ***** sometimes.
Best of luck.

 

[chisnpeke]

I'm so sorry. I really don't know what to say other than be there for her. Talk to her as much as you can and listen when she wants to vent. I'm really sorry she's going through this.

 

[tylerdavis88]

Its so sweet of you to ask what to do. The most important thing to do is be understanding to what she is going through. To be there for her regardless and let her know you care. You don't always have to "do" something....sometimes its about just being there!

 

[Shelton123]

Aww thanks all of you guys. I go visit her every day for like three hours after school now (that's why I haven't been on as much) and practically all day on Weekends. I think Sonya was right when she said cancer really puts things into perspective. It really makes you think about how much you treasure things, even if you're not the one that has it. I already bought us tickets so we can go see Avenue Q together. I told Doc the dates of the show and he said that it was OK if she took a night away and went with me. It made me realize how much I actually love (and that's a hard word for me) her. Once something isn't in your control with someone you love, you just naturally love them even more.

Is she going for chemo?

Yes, and I am so happy because I know the success rate of it.

If she's paralyzed that means it's VERY bad. That, or she's on some strong pain killers from the biopsy.

Surprisingly, they said it might not have to do with the cancer. They said the cancer is just in her shoulder.

 

[tinkerbell12]

I am very sorry. you seem optimistic about it, which is good. share some optimism with her. bring her food. not chicken soup. fatty food. that always makes me feel better anyway haha. just spend time with her. talk to her. but don't make her feel like she is a charity case. call her. go to her house. watch movies. and like soemone said. do something routine. so she always has something to look forward to.

best of luck. I'll pray for you two; and everyone else who may be involved.

 

[imabrat]

Yes, and I am so happy because I know the success rate of it.



Surprisingly, they said it might not have to do with the cancer. They said the cancer is just in her shoulder.

Ow. The shoulder is a weird place to get it, but it's still common. Do you know the names of the drugs she's taking? I was on a Cisplatin/Adriyamicin mix and followed up with Methotrexate. Most of the people I know with Osteo were on that too.
If she EVER gets down and thinks she won't make it out alive, which there's a big chance she might, let her know I'm here. I, and millions of other people out there, are living proof that cancer doesn't have us, we have cancer.

 

[Shelton123]

Ow. The shoulder is a weird place to get it, but it's still common. Do you know the names of the drugs she's taking? I was on a Cisplatin/Adriyamicin mix and followed up with Methotrexate. Most of the people I know with Osteo were on that too.
If she EVER gets down and thinks she won't make it out alive, which there's a big chance she might, let her know I'm here. I, and millions of other people out there, are living proof that cancer doesn't have us, we have cancer.

Yeah I've actually told her about you. She is on the Cisplatin and Adriyamicin. I'm not sure what they're going to do next, but they will probably do what they did with you, since it's the common treatment.

 

[imabrat]

Yeah I've actually told her about you. She is on the Cisplatin and Adriyamicin. I'm not sure what they're going to do next, but they will probably do what they did with you, since it's the common treatment.

Oh my gawd. The CisAdria was the WORST for me. I actually got to skip the very last CisAdria because it put me on deaths doorstep almost. My blood counts would be nothing, and I had no potassium or magnesium at all. I was depleted of fluids once, it was bad!
The first one I handled pretty good, just some nausea for the first couple days. After that I went shopping, had sleep overs, and cut my hair. The hair didn't really start falling out until a week or so after chemo, but it fell out fast. I went from a full head of hair to balder than an egg in about 4 days. It HURT falling out too.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Omigosh...I am so sorry to hear the Sheldon!!
She'll stay in my prayers, along with you and her family.

 

[petey's sweetie]

Omg, I am so sorry for you. I hope everything gets better