my friend just doesnt think

[Dznypal]

with the job my DD does she doesnt want anything to do with facebook or any of those type of sites

well we had a baby shower for my DD my friend made her a beautiful afghan for the baby

we guess what shows up on facebook (my DH likes to keep up with old co-workers but doenst like to post pics)

thats right a pic of DD holding up the afghan at the shower

I texted her right away and said she should have asked first if DD minded the pic on facebook

thankfully my friend was able to edit the pic and it just shows the afghan

she can drive a person nuts with FB--she once took a pic of me with a plate full of crab legs!!!! she said that will look good on FB--I said no no its not--at least she didnt post it


I thought use your head--she once wanted to put a pic of DGD I told her my son would have a fit to have his DD on FB

oh well jsut had to vent--thanks for listening

 

[PrincessShmoo]

with the job my DD does she doesnt want anything to do with facebook or any of those type of sites

well we had a baby shower for my DD my friend made her a beautiful afghan for the baby

we guess what shows up on facebook (my DH likes to keep up with old co-workers but doenst like to post pics)

thats right a pic of DD holding up the afghan at the shower

I texted her right away and said she should have asked first if DD minded the pic on facebook

thankfully my friend was able to edit the pic and it just shows the afghan

she can drive a person nuts with FB--she once took a pic of me with a plate full of crab legs!!!! she said that will look good on FB--I said no no its not--at least she didnt post it


I thought use your head--she once wanted to put a pic of DGD I told her my son would have a fit to have his DD on FB

oh well jsut had to vent--thanks for listening

I think a number of people on that site think it's just a big neighborhood party and don't think about the fact that they're posting pictures on a public forum.

Personally, I wouldn't like it if some posts photos of me (or my family) on the internet (especially without asking me if they could). Yes, I did post some when I first started out on DISboards, but I haven't done so in years.

 

[mousehockey37]

What's the old sayin'...

You can only control what you do.

How many of us are possibly in other people's vacation photos? As much as some people try to avoid social media, it's just about all but inevitable that you'll wind up on it somewhere at some point. If you do anything that has you in the public eye, guess what? You're on social media... and legally, at that.

I do stuff with the drum corps activity. Guess what? There's photographers at those shows and they have social media that they post the photos on. So... my image is out there whether I like it or not.

 

[jevs]

At least she knows your views now, so that’s a good thing.

FWIW FB isn’t the big thing it once was, teenagers inform me it’s a platform for old people

ETA: I forgot how to English

 

[CarolAnn856]

Unless your friend knew that your daughter is so opposed to having her picture on FB, then I think you're overreacting. She took it down once she knew, and I assume that she won't make that mistake again. Most people don't have a problem with it, but I agree, it would have been preferable for your friend to ask first.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

I agree it's good she now knows your family doesn't want their pictures posted on FB. I happen to be right there with you & don't want my pictures posted on there either. My nephew's wife put my picture on there & tagged me. I explained why I didn't want it posted on FB & she took it down. No harm no foul. I've told all my family, if they put a picture of me on FB, I'll stop allowing them to take pics of me. Now that everyone knows how I feel, it's not an issue. For those who mention strangers getting a picture of you in the background & putting it on FB, that's not the same for me as my family putting my picture there.

 

[okeydokey]

I am sure it was an innocent mistake and she didn’t know your daughter objected to Facebook. I don’t ask every person in every pic if I can post to Facebook, and I have never had anyone ask me not to. I guess I don’t see the harm in having a picture,on Facebook.

 

[ols386]

At least she knows your views now, so that’s a good thing.

FWIW FB isn’t the big thing it once, teenagers inform m it’s a platform for old people

That’s exactly what I’ve hesrd too. I’ve also heard Instagram is for younger people.

 

[jdb in AZ]

Well, some of us old people enjoy Facebook. We love to post pics of our great-grandson, but there's a rift between the momma and her dad, so we have to censor the pics to make sure her dad doesn't see them. Oh well. At least she doesn't mind if the rest of our family and friends see them.

 

[mummabear]

Unless your friend knew that your daughter is so opposed to having her picture on FB, then I think you're overreacting. She took it down once she knew, and I assume that she won't make that mistake again. Most people don't have a problem with it, but I agree, it would have been preferable for your friend to ask first.

In this day and age, of people so t want photos posts they need to proactive and let people know.
In saying that I would never post photos of a new baby, wedding, baby shower etc until they have been shared by the person of honour.

 

[Poohforyou]

I really think you're making a big deal out of this. You asked her to edit the picture and she did. Saying she doesn't think is a bit extreme.

Having a random picture of yourself posted by someone else isn't the same as having a social media presence. Was your daughter even identified in the picture?

 

[NinaBella]

That’s exactly what I’ve hesrd too. I’ve also heard Instagram is for younger people.

Instagram has died down as well. I have a 14 year old daughter and she has maybe posted two pictures in the past year. It's pretty much 100% snapchat.

Oh, beware there is also a teen tinder website called "spot a friend" that people are targeting teens. Some one made a fake account of my daughter in her high school cheer uniform (a picture they stole from Instagram). She came to me pretty upset about that. A guy friend as school found her pick, did a screen shot and sent to her asking if that was really her account. I emailed, sent a twitter, and facebook message to this company with no response.

Put me in the category of OP over reacting to a FB picture. FB = Familybook. My teens say once your grandmother sends you a friend request, it's no longer cool. LOL. Just like my high school teacher use to say when JcPenny makes the latest trends in plus size, time to get a new trend.

I am not sure what "job" would have an issue of a photo from a baby shower.

 

[DisneyOma]

I agree it's good she now knows your family doesn't want their pictures posted on FB. I happen to be right there with you & don't want my pictures posted on there either. My nephew's wife put my picture on there & tagged me. I explained why I didn't want it posted on FB & she took it down. No harm no foul. I've told all my family, if they put a picture of me on FB, I'll stop allowing them to take pics of me. Now that everyone knows how I feel, it's not an issue. For those who mention strangers getting a picture of you in the background & putting it on FB, that's not the same for me as my family putting my picture there.

If you don't want to be tagged, change your Facebook settings. I work in a high school, and have my FB so locked down so if I haven't friended you, you can't see anything but my profile photo, background photo (or whatever the bigger picture is called) and my name.

 

[Mizzoufan]

I think you are and family should just tell your friend no pics when she has her camera out. Then there no chance she can put them on FB. I don't know what the big deal is you ask her to remove them she does. It sounds like she a good friend I'm not sure why you wanna fight this small trivial battle with her.

 

[NJlauren]

I’m so torn on this.... I am on Facebook, and Instagram and Snapchat, I don’t post that often but always ask when I posted of other people or other people’s kids. I used to get annoyed when people didn’t ask about posting pictures of DD but I’ve kinda given up on it. My one friend posted a picture and tagged Sesame Place (it was taken there) and they have used the picture a few times to promote the park.

If I asked someone to take a picture down and they did I would move on. But I hear you some people feel the need to put their whole life on Facebook or other social media I just don’t have the time or energy for that.

 

[Allison]

This is not a big deal to me and not something that would make me say a friend just doesn't think. It was taken down. Problem handled.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

1. When people take pictures, they become that person's property. They can do with them whatever they want, including posting them to social media sites.
2. If you have an objection to your picture being posted on social media sites (or hung in someone else's house, or printed onto posters around town, or etc.) it is incumbent upon you to say something in advance. Or just refuse to take pictures in the first place.


I do have one friend who has requested that no one put pictures of her DD on the internet. She also refers to her daughter by a different, made-up name when talking about her on the internet. We've all abided by her wishes, but in all honesty, most of us now call her daughter by the made-up name. Takes a force of will for me to actually remember what the little girl's name actually is.

 

[Hikergirl]

In today's world the onus is on you (general) to inform people not to post a picture of you.

 

[mjkacmom]

I get tagged in pictures on Facebook a lot, so do my kids, honestly it’s the only reason I have pictures of my family. Facebook is just for old people anyway.

 

[Kellykins1218]

I don't see anything wrong with it & think you totally overreacted. I do think that you coming here and criticizing her for it is rude especially when your own description of the picture makes it pretty clear she was using it to show off something she made.