My ex had my daughter's hair cut, and then LIED about it!!!

[tiggersmom2]

to you! I hope things get better!

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Originally posted by momof3disneyholics
Steph, who has primary custody of her right now? You or him?

He does at the moment, since he has the "authority". I've attempted to take her for longer periods or have full custody (or even really shared) but he flat out refuses. He wants 100% full custody with me seeing her every other weekend, and he wants me to pay child support and insurance. He hasn't called to check on her once since yesterday. What a loving parent.

My lawyer is trying to get me full custody, but unfortunetly at the moment, I have to play my ex's little games. He's threatened to have me arrested if I take her longer, so I have to be careful at the moment. All of the really fun court stuff starts Tuesday. I want there to be some closure for Madison. She really needs a stable enviroment.

 

[Pete's Mom]

Originally posted by Stepharoonie!
He does at the moment, since he has the "authority". I've attempted to take her for longer periods or have full custody (or even really shared) but he flat out refuses. He wants 100% full custody with me seeing her every other weekend, and he wants me to pay child support and insurance. He hasn't called to check on her once since yesterday. What a loving parent.

My lawyer is trying to get me full custody, but unfortunetly at the moment, I have to play my ex's little games. He's threatened to have me arrested if I take her longer, so I have to be careful at the moment. All of the really fun court stuff starts Tuesday. I want there to be some closure for Madison. She really needs a stable enviroment.

How did he get "authority" in the first place? Once custody has be established, it is very hard to get reversed unless there are mitigating circumstances that endanger the well being of the child (i.e. physical, drug, or alcohol abuse, etc.)

Pete's dad and I have joint custody with Pete going to his dad's every other weekend. "Joint custody" means that I have to "consult" with him regarding any major decisions but since I am the "primary custodian", if we cannot come to an agreement then I have the final say. That's what was written in our divorce paperwork. If you are looking for her spending half her time with each of you, you need to apply for "joint physical custody.

As for the haircut, why don't you ask Madison what happened? She could tell you whether her father was there at the time and if he knew about it. Speculating is only going to cause problems.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

I did ask Maddy about it. She said that Dawn did it. When I talked to my ex, he said that *I* did it, and sent her home like that.

Because the divorce isn't final yet, neither one of us has been named the primary parent. He won't let me have her longer than 2 days a week. He's a very controlling person, and my lawyer advises that right now until the courts decide, to just play his little game and to keep all records of everything.

He has the "authority" because when I originally moved out, we discussed leaving her there with him for 2 weeks while I got set up in an apartment (had a hard time, no money, etc.). I did see her almost every day during that 2 week period. When it came time to take her with me full time, he refused and said that I had abandoned her with him.

He plays nasty games, and I've attempted to keep her longer, but he's threatened to charge me with kidnapping since he doesn't approve of more than 2 days a week.

 

[Pete's Mom]

Your attorney should request a temporary hearing to decide custody NOW and not wait until the divorce because believe me it can be drug out. Mine took 3 years in a state where a divorce can be granted in as little as 45 days! The longer she lives with the current visitation schedule the less likely the courts are going to be to "change her established and stable environment" (that will be his attorney's argument). Most importantly, remember to keep your cool through this and watch yours "p's & q's" because I can guarantee his attorney has told him to document any little thing he sees as well. They will be looking for anything so think carefully about what you do and what you say. Pick your battles and don't sweat the small stuff (just document it!) Take the high road and be patient, if you give him enough rope, he'll hang himself.

 

[olena]

to you, Steph!

 

[Otto's Doll]

You have the most beautiful little girl, I love to see her pictures. No advice, just a and know that you are being thought of. God bless you and Maddy.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Thanks, Otto's Doll and to everyone else I appreciate it