My ex had my daughter's hair cut, and then LIED about it!!!

[Stepharoonie!]

What in the WORLD is wrong with this man?!?! GRRR!! My daughter finally started getting long hair again after she cut it off in November. I trimmed her bangs Sunday morning before I sent her back to him, as they were falling in her eyes and needed a barrette to hold it out of the way.

Tonight, I noticed her hair looked...odd. It was pulled back into a messy ponytail, and yet it looked uneven and bizarre. She pulled it out, and it was REALLY REALLY short again! It barely goes back into the ponytail.

I wasn't really upset about it...I mean, it IS her hair, and maybe she wanted it shorter like Mommy's But when I asked her who cut it, she said Dawn did (his gf). I called him to ask who did the messy job on her hair (it's really uneven in a lot of places) and he stalled for a moment on the phone before he said that he thought *I* did it!

Why on EARTH would I cut her hair messy like that?! Why would I cut it?

GGRRRRR.......it's another game that he's playing with me. He won't admit that his gf cut her hair (which is obvious) and I can tell from the tone of his voice and the way that he acted on the phone that he was lying. He said that I sent her home Sunday looking like that. Please.

Sigh. I have a bad feeling about all of this, like he may try to run or something. The big court stuff is coming up, starting this Tuesday. Maddy was begging him to come see me early this week, so he dropped her off early, only to tell her in the car that he was leaving her and not coming back.

This man does not deserve to have this wonderful little girl for a daughter.

Sorry for the long post. I needed to vent. I just want to cry because she doesn't understand what's going on.

 

[Mimi Q]

Sorry about your DD's hair. My sister had the same experience with my ex-brother-in-law. I think he did it to merely irritate my sister.

 

[hentob]

Document. Document. Document.

Hugs to you..........

Hentob

 

[4greatboys]

for you and for your sweet baby girl. I hope you know you have a lot of friends on the Dis rooting for and praying for you and Maddy.

 

[Cruisin]

sorry Steph

I hope it all works out for you in the end.

 

[antbritt]

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This man does not deserve to have this wonderful little girl for a daughter.

Stepharoonie!
I believe the same for my Ex and Unforunately in his case he does not even have aclue what he is missing
Anyway sorry that you are dealing with this. I am not sure of your situation but I have a friend who recntly was trying to get custody of his 2 kids and I suggested that he write down every incident that occured. He did this for the past year and he kept his focus on the Best Interest of the kids and WOO HOO yesterday he got FULL custody of his 2 Kids!!! Best thing for them ever!!!
Keep the faith and the best interst of that (BTW very cute) little girl as your focus and it will be ok.
Hang in there Her hair will grow back.

 

[Serena]

I just don't understand some people. Not at all.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

I've been writing EVERYTHING (and I mean *everything*...conversations, take pics, etc.) down. I've gone as far as taking pictures of her appearance when she comes over here. You'd be amazed how many times she is black with dirt and has too small clothing or shoes on. I just don't understand why he's doing this to her....I guess trying to get to me, I don't know.

Thanks for all of your support...you have no idea how much better it makes me feel

 

[Jolie C]

I'm glad she has a good mom at least, Stepharoonie. Good luck.

 

[Dan Murphy]

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

boy, can I relate. my girls were 4 and 2 when my ex and I divorced. they're 13 and almost 12 now. when they were maybe 5 and 3 he cut their hair, butchered it really, claiming that there were so many knots in their hair he couldn't get the comb through.

my girls do not have a very good relationship with their father.

 

[Disneycrazymom]

It may depend on the laws in your state but my sister's lawyer told her to tape phone conversations with her ex. She also gets any change in writing and he must sign it. I do not think they can use the tapes in court but they can use them somehow. It is a very ugly divorce and her ex is very difficult to work with. Keep documenting everything and I hope it all work out quickly for you.

 

[Nette]

Augh! I'd kill him... and his GF for cutting her hair so badly. But I bet she still is beautiful.

If anyone cut my DD hair w/o my permission (including DH) the would NEVER hear the end of it.

Take her to a professional and get it evened out.

Also, good for you for documenting EVERYTHING. I really feel for you, I have no idea how I would manage DD w/o DH. Best of luck!

 

[snoopy]

I do NOT like that Dawn person, from the stories I've read of her. I think if I were you I'd make it VERY clear to her who this child's mother is, and as soon as possible. As for the ex, you're stuck with him, unfortunately, so I'd choose my battles wisely there.

In any case, your daughter is such a cutie, I like reading your posts so I can see her picture. She could be bald and still cute, but I don't blame you for beng upset.

 

[Big V]

{{{HUGS}}} to you.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

If the GF had any time alone with your DD there is a chance (albiet a small one) that the GF cut your DDs hair WITHOUT your Ex knowing. And then put it back in a ponytail, and men being men, he didn't notice the difference. I am not defending him, just giving you another view of things.

I am sorry you are having to deal with this. It is not any fun, and really it is in the best interest of the kids for everyone to get along, including the stupid GF. I wish you luck!

 

[Roemama1]

I have a few choice words to describe how mad at him you must feel right now but this is a family board!!!

Here's some smilies to help cheer you up....these are your EX...

Hope everything goes well with you and your little sweetie!!! We all think you're a great mom!!!

 

[momof3disneyholics]

Steph, who has primary custody of her right now? You or him? You seem like a very loving mother. I have a daughter around the same age as yours and I would be just as upset as you are. It seems like his girlfriend just tries to do things that will upset you and since she knows that your daughter is an easy target, she takes it out on her. I hope this all works out in your favor. to you!

 

[kimber79]

Steph, I am so sorry to hear the latest round of troubles. Hang in there sweetie!

 

[FINFAN]

Hang in there Steph....I am glad you are able to keep things civil for your DD sake. She will inherit her MOMMY'S strengths! Perhaps the GF could not handle that your adorable little girl wanted her hair to be like yours? and decided to do something about it? My brother lives in Fl and has gone thru some wicked custody/legal battles....no matter how many clothes, toys things we send to my niece, they always end up MIA after she has gone back to her mom's. We don't say too much as they are her (niece) things and we wnat her to feel free to have them wherever she is, but aggrivating all the same.
Pam