My daughter was beaten up at school Another UPDATE PAGE 15

[JennyMominRI]

If this girl has issues, she might be "classified". Under Federal Law, classified students can not be suspecnded for more than eight ot ten (sorry, I'm rusty on this these days) in a school year, and not for more than a certain number of days at a time. which I want to think is five. That could actually be the case, and as such it would be a violation of the girls privacy for them to tell this to Jenny.

My guess is taht she will be sent to an out of district placement for ED kids, because it sounds like it's quite possible she's got some psyc issues.

As far as the name calling sister, completely unacceptable and depending on the tone, and I'd make the administration aware that if it keeps up you'll be reporting it to the police as harrassment. I don't know RI law (except they're really messed up when it comes to fires that kill 100 people--but that's another thread ) but most states all it takes is for someone to feel for their personal safety when being harrassed and it can be considering an assualt.

Anne

The AP didnt tell us any sort of details about the girls other troubles. All he said is that she has been in trouble at school before..DD says she herself said she has been suspended 11 times.
As to the fire...That was very close to here and everybody knows somebody involved.

 

[kmp1191]

Definately let the school AND police know about the sister harassing your DD!! If it continues, I'd file a restraining order as well!! Maybe then the parents of these "thugs" will realize that you aren't going to take their crap!! That's just ridiculous!!

 

[JennyMominRI]

Definately let the school AND police know about the sister harassing your DD!! If it continues, I'd file a restraining order as well!! Maybe then the parents of these "thugs" will realize that you aren't going to take their crap!! That's just ridiculous!!

I was advised that a restraining order may be a good idea

 

[ducklite]

As to the fire...That was very close to here and everybody knows somebody involved.

I know. I know people who were touched by it. My DH and I have donated to the Station Family Fund to try to help the survivors, although we are acutely aware that the physical and emotional scares from that night will never fully heal.

Sorry to get off topic.

Anne

 

[HorsePrincess]

This is just awful! I have no idea what your daughter is going through right now; I was homeschooled until last year, when I was put in a private Christian school that has a zero-tolerance policy on any violence like that. But good for her for going back and walking with her head held high! Give her a big hug for me . Your family is in my prayers.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

I'm so sorry this happened to your dd. I wish I had some good advice for you, but it seems you've already got some in this thread. Hang in there, and don't give 'em an inch or they'll take a mile.

 

[karebear1]

I was advised that a restraining order may be a good idea

I'm proud that you are not sitting by letting these kids get away with this. Sometimes it can be confusing to know what to do, but you seem to have a good handle on all of this. You're daughter is very lucky to have a mom like you.

I may have missed it, but did you ever get to speak to your brother about this. Isn't he the police officer?

 

[JennyMominRI]

I'm proud that you are not sitting by letting these kids get away with this. Sometimes it can be confusing to know what to do, but you seem to have a good handle on all of this. You're daughter is very lucky to have a mom like you.

I may have missed it, but did you ever get to speak to your brother about this. Isn't he the police officer?

He's really really sick..He has a horrible disease called sarcoidosis,and he has almost died several times. He has bacterial and viral pnuemonia ,ad I wanted to give him another day or so before I lay this on him. He doesn't even go back to work until Monday..He's not just any policeman either..He's one step down from the Chief of Police in the city.

 

[CarolG]

He's really really sick..He has a horrible disease called sarcoidosis,and he has almost died several times...

A friend's husband had sarcoidosis several years ago. He was quite ill for a while, but recovered completely. He finished his degree in education and is teaching now. I hope your brother gets better soon.

 

[MrsKreamer]

Suspended 11 Times!!! How and Why does this happen!! I went to private school, so maybe I just don't understand how the public school system really works...BUT COME ON 11 TIMES! What does a kid need to do to get expelled...kill someone!

 

[JennyMominRI]

Suspended 11 Times!!! How and Why does this happen!! I went to private school, so maybe I just don't understand how the public school system really works...BUT COME ON 11 TIMES! What does a kid need to do to get expelled...kill someone!

The 11,is what my DD says that the girl has claimed,like it's a badge or something KWIM. She also wears rings on all of her fingers so that when she hits someone it does more damage.I cant confirm that 11 is right,I just know that it's happened quite a few times

 

[JennyMominRI]

A friend's husband had sarcoidosis several years ago. He was quite ill for a while, but recovered completely. He finished his degree in education and is teaching now. I hope your brother gets better soon.

My borther has been sick off and on now for 8 years or so.He had to have his spleen removed a few years and we had a scare last year where they thought his kidneys might be failing..And I'm supposed to be the *sick* one.

 

[RitaZ.]

She also wears rings on all of her fingers so that when she hits someone it does more damage.

Wow! If that's not premeditated, I don't know what is... What the heck would cause a kid to be so full of anger and hate?

 

[Tuffcookie]

After school,Kayla(this girls sister) called Brit a vile name that I can't post here but starts with a W

What is their problem? I would give Kayla a good reason to call me that hame!


TC

 

[DisneyPhD]

He's really really sick..He has a horrible disease called sarcoidosis,and he has almost died several times. He has bacterial and viral pnuemonia ,ad I wanted to give him another day or so before I lay this on him. He doesn't even go back to work until Monday..He's not just any policeman either..He's one step down from the Chief of Police in the city.

How dumb is this girl messing with the niece of the almost cheif of police? Really of all the people! Duh!

So sorry to hear his health has been poor latley. That is hard. I hope he is feeling much better soon.

So sorry to hear about your DD and all the drama. I hope it is over soon and DD will come out stronger with some real friends. I am so glad to hear that she is telling you everything too (like what the sister said) and not keeping it to herself.

I am ok having babies, but teenagers that scares the pants of me. Not because of what they will become so much, but because of the way things are now and situations like this. It is so hard to know we can't protect them all the time.

I hope it is all a faint memory soon.

 

[Regina]

If she is expelled, don't assume that the problem ends. My DS was being bullied in 8th grade and the kid doing it got expelled. The following year, within one hour of the first day of high school, this same kid stabbed and almost killed a kid. He didn't even know this kid other than a friend of his didn't like him. He ended up in prison.

We never anticipated that this felon would be back in school the following year. Maybe it was naive, but there he was.

As for us, we transferred our DS to a private Catholic high school so fast it would make your head spin. He simply didn't feel safe anymore.

I'm sincerely sorry that you're dealing with this, and I certainly don't want to scare you, but you need to know that there's a chance that this girl will be allowed back in the future.

 

[JennyMominRI]

How dumb is this girl messing with the niece of the almost cheif of police? Really of all the people! Duh!

So sorry to hear his health has been poor latley. That is hard. I hope he is feeling much better soon.

So sorry to hear about your DD and all the drama. I hope it is over soon and DD will come out stronger with some real friends. I am so glad to hear that she is telling you everything too (like what the sister said) and not keeping it to herself.

I am ok having babies, but teenagers that scares the pants of me. Not because of what they will become so much, but because of the way things are now and situations like this. It is so hard to know we can't protect them all the time.

I hope it is all a faint memory soon.

Snort..I don't think the girl realized that my brother is a police Captain,lol.. My DD luckily has some good friends so it's not like she is miserable in school..She has ,what I think are some really nice friends..My DD stands out..She was Homeschooled for 5 years and is new to school She's a bit small for her age.That's her in my sig.. She just seems an easy target for the resident bully and she is so easy going that I have a feeling stuff was going on before the irst incident last month..Last month the girl threw pizza and milk at her and got suspended for 2 days..I think that's what fueled this incident

 

[JennyMominRI]

If she is expelled, don't assume that the problem ends. My DS was being bullied in 8th grade and the kid doing it got expelled. The following year, within one hour of the first day of high school, this same kid stabbed and almost killed a kid. He didn't even know this kid other than a friend of his didn't like him. He ended up in prison.

We never anticipated that this felon would be back in school the following year. Maybe it was naive, but there he was.

As for us, we transferred our DS to a private Catholic high school so fast it would make your head spin. He simply didn't feel safe anymore.

I'm sincerely sorry that you're dealing with this, and I certainly don't want to scare you, but you need to know that there's a chance that this girl will be allowed back in the future.

My worry is that she will be automatically sent into the same high school with DD when she starts next year.

 

[minnieandmickey]

Our school district when a child is expelled goes to a alternative education school for a year, and if they do not cause any problems then after a year they are let back into their home school or to the home high school if that is the case. Needless to say it takes the child to be suspended for 10 days total for the year to be expelled. It all depends on if you administrator does their job and if the district backs them up. Stick to your guns.

 

[ducklite]

My worry is that she will be automatically sent into the same high school with DD when she starts next year.

Which is why a restraining order (order of protection) is so important. Once this girl has been arraigned you have reasonable cause to request this without jumping through hoops. Glad to hear she is actually being arraigned, that means the DA is involved. Have you asked them to consider trying ehr as an adult due to the premeditated nature of the incident?

Anne