Sorry, I didn't want to make it sound like its frowned upon. I just meant that all my friends who have multiple kids only had 1 shower for the 1st, regardless of the sex of the 2nd child, etc. I wish 2nd showers were the norm around here, I could use one. It's amazing how much things change in 7 yrs. I'm just lucky that my cousin's boys are little and she has a ton of baby stuff she is letting me use. If I didn't have her, I would be in trouble if we end up with a boy b/c everything is pink of ours too. Car seats are expired, etc. In fact, I don't even have nice high chair. I used a hand-me down from my sister and her daughter is 17!

I'd consider yourself lucky if you get another shower!
I would hold onto that stuff for as long as you can. You never know, your DH might change his mind. Once you are for sure, garage sale, craigslist, or ebay!
We went through our attic to find my maternity clothes this weekend and I couldn't believe how much clothes we have from my DD. I can't wait to get rid of it once we are done. ANd, I had hand me downs which I gave back to my SIL. So, this was all clothes that was ours. I must have had about 8 tubs full of clothes.