Moms to be Part 4

[ZPT1022]

all caught up I think- that will teach me to disappear for a week or two!

As for your unwanted visitors, DH needs to step up and call them. Tell them that it's not a good time for a visit (I just can't believe they would come over for dinner and stay!). Don't feel badly. When I was in the hospital I finally had DH kick people out. We had visitors from sun-up to sun-down and by 4pm I was so over it. I don't care if you drove 3 hours! I just had major surgery and I'm tired!

When I was in the hospital still after having my twins, I freaked out. My mom had come up during the day to visit and had brought my Grandma and my brother at one point too. The daytime was pretty nice and calm and quiet and then once night hit they descended like a swarm and I just couldn't deal with it. My mom called to check up (she had run home and wanted to see if I needed anything) and I wound up crying and loudly telling her that all these people were there and annoying me and stressing me out and everyone was ignoring me and passing the babies around, etc, etc..... guess I was kind of loud because everyone cleared out pretty soon after I think it's probably the one time in life when you get a pass on saying exactly how you feel

I wish I could just stay with my RE!! I loved them.

Maybe your RE's office could give you a referral. I find that the nurses tend to know which practices are good to work with- that's how we found our peds- through a referral from a nurse and we couldn't be happier

My c-section is scheduled for Monday 3/22 and my mom is coming on Sunday night. She will be here as long as I need her but I am thinking about 8 days .. through the following weekend. Her primary job is taking care of DS#1 while I am in the hospital and the first few days home. Then she'll go home and we will be alone for the second week with my MIL coming by sometime for the day or two and again, focusing on DS and the house. Then my Mom comes back the day after Easter because my DH is leaving two weeks after DS#2 is born for work and I don't want to be alone with both boys soo soon.

Luckily,this time around, my mom is 2 hours away and my MIL is one hour away. Last time we lived in Florida and it was more difficult. My MIL came sometime around week 2 and that was tough because it was more of a "either I cooked dinner or ordered out" she didn't really take it upon herself to do that like my mom does. I ended up kicking my MIL out of the guest room/DS's nursery about four days in because I couldn't sleep with the baby in our room because of DH's snoring and the couch just wasn't cutting it for me ... once I did that, it was MUCH better!! ;-)

I can't wait .... I am excited. We just got some AWESOME news too which lifts the financial concerns A LOT sooner than we expected so I am just trying to relax and enjoy this time. I need to pack DS's bag and my bag but otherwise we are close to ready.

My DH is sick right now and we are waiting some blood results but things are ok. Some might remember the case of Myocarditis he had back in May 2009 which had him in the Cardiac Care Unit in Florida for a few days ... it started as a viral infection and traveled to his heart. He started having the same viral infection symptoms earlier this week and freaked out. We went to the dr. today and things are looking fine so we are just waiting to get through the weekend and kick the infection so we can be confident it doesn't go to his heart again. Nerve racking ....

Sara - I will keep my fingers crossed that this time you get your little princess!!

Vette - My PG this time was different than my PG with DS. I had A LOT more nausea and early symptoms than I did before. Yet I am having baby boy #2!!

Good luck to your DH! I hope all the tests come back normal and he is feeling better soon

Went for our 38 week fetal assessment appt. this week and baby is growing at the 50th percentile which is perfect. She is approx. 7 lbs now.

Had my last GD appt. yesterday. I see the diabetes doctor again in June for testing. I have to lose 15lbs before then. That's from where I am now not pre-pregnant weight.

Waiting for the midwife to drop off some oil of verbena so I can make an "induction-aid" drink tomorrow morning. Plan B might be to break my water. I've never had that done. Does it hurt? What happens after? That caught be by surprise. It was just something she was discussing with the other midwives on how to get me going.

DH and I are going to a movie tonight. I feel like I have cabin fever.

I had my water broken during my labor both times and it was uncomfortable, as were any of the exams, but didn't necessarily hurt. It felt really weird to have the fluid gush, I felt like I was peeing myself or something.

Congrats on your baby girl!! I hope you feel better soon.

I started getting contractions stronger than my normal BH yesterday while at the movies with DH. The continued throughout the night but nothing too normal or regular. Some of them hurt though!! This morning I noticed a little bit of my mucus plug ... at least something is happening.

I realized yesterday though, I am not ready for this baby. I mean physically in the sense that his room is ready (minus some window shades) and his bag is packed I am ready. But mentally or emotionally I don't think I am. I am scared. I am scared of how life is going to change, I scared of dealing with Alexander's sleep patterns and newborn. I am scared of having a newborn again ... i was never scared of the little baby with DS but I am now. Argh ...

I felt like that with my twins and I feel a bit like that now. I think in a way it's harder with second and subsequent babies because on the one hand you're an experienced mom and know what to expect, but then again you know EXACTLY what you are getting yourself into. No delusions about sleeping through the night or any of that- you know what the real deal is plus it is stressful to think of juggling that and fitting it in with everything you already have to do. That's kind of where I'm at now- I know that the little routine that we are settled into now is going to change big time and it's scary because I'm not sure how it's going to work out. I just have to tell myself that it will work out, and it will for you too

 

[DMickey28]

Nice to see you Becky - Thanks for telling me that I am not alone. I am so excited to met this little guy but when I think about the reality of bringing him home I get so scared!! I *know* that in a few months things will settle down and be back to a new "normal" But until then ....

DH is fine. He got his blood results back and no infection or anything to do with his heart. He is feeling pretty much fine now so that's great. I think he was just run down and stressed. Back to normal.

Bad news .... Have to take my ca back in for service. We have a 2004 Chrysler Pacifica and just had work done on it for $1300 four weeks ago and my check engine light just came back on again. ARGH ... seriously, I haven't even paid for the first repair yet (AMEX card) and have to bring it in again. I seriously can't afford this but luckily by the time the next bill comes in DH will have his HUGE yearly commission check by then so we will be good. Just stinks this close to the baby. Oh well ... this will be awesome financially in another 6 weeks or so max.

Going to try and get my hospital bag packed today since last night was the second night I had contractions. I had about 4 nights in a row of contractions before I went into labor with Alexander. He was late though so I DOUBT I'll go early this time but who knows.

The weather was sooo nice here this weekend. Alexander played outside almost all afternoon, we had the windows open and grilled a yummy steak dinner last night. Hopefully today he can get outside and get some fresh air again. He slept from 7:45pm to 6:30AM. That's what I am talking about ....

Have a great day everyone!

 

[justhat]

DMickey - I don't know if this has anything to do with how you are feeling, but I know when I was pregnant with my second, towards the end I started feeling all this guilt about how my daughter's life would change. As much as I always knew I wanted to her have a sibling and how ultimately great it would be for her, I could not stop thinking about how different things would be for her, the time I would need to invest in a newborn (thereby taking it away from her), how I would manage two of them when they both need something at once, etc. The morning that my water broke I looked at her sleeping on a blanket on the floor of my bedroom and just cried.

But the upside is that once my son was here, none of those concerns ever entered my mind again. Everything just fell into place like it should and that was that.

 

[Pollito916]

vettechick - yay for people names!

pixiegoose - Congrats on the baby girl!

DMickey - I'm sure everything will fall into place once Ryan is born. It may be difficult at first, but just think of how many other women have done it before us - you are just as strong as them! I'm glad your DH's test results were good.

Kiki - you are getting so close! Any new developments?

Piecey - sorry to hear you're sick, hope you're feeling better soon! I think most of the approved medications have the same activie ingredients, so it doesn't matter too much which one you take, whichever one works best for you. I'm glad you were able to make a decision on the hospital, and hope it turns out to be what's best for you and the baby!

EmALee - Aren't co-workers subtle? When I was pg with DS, I don't remember how far I was, somewhere like 6-7 months and a woman in the elevator I had never spoken to before, said "wow! you really popped didn't you!" Umm, thanks?

Nette - welcome back! How was your cruise other than getting sick?

ZPT - sorry to hear you've been sick as well, sounds terrible! I so know how you feel with having to make all the decisions because I do the same in our house. Most of the time I like it because I am kind of controlling , but sometimes when it's a really big decision, I just don't want all of the responsibility. I want somebody to share in making the decision and help reinforce that I am making the right one. But most of the time when I ask DH he says, "Whatever you want/decide is fine with me."

justthat - did you do anything to prepare your daughter for the new baby?

To all the other 2nd + time moms, what did/are you doing to prepare your older kid(s) for the new baby? We explained to DS that there is a baby in Mommy's tummy, and showed him a few pics of a pregnant woman from a pamphet, explaining that mommy's tummy is going to get bigger because the baby is growing. We also got him a "big brother" t-shirt and book. He likes to read the book every day!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

39 weeks yesterday.

I drank the castor oil potion 2x and nothing happened. I did have a burp and that's about it...LOL

Went to see the OB today and she scheduled me for an induction for the 15th. I will be 40 weeks on the 14th. Because my fetal assessments and blood sugar levels have been good I get to go to my due date.
She swept my membrane today. DH held my hand and had to peel me off the ceiling. There was blood on the table after and there's still a bit of stuff coming out. Not something I ever want to see while pregnant. DH said that he has never seen me turn so red that fast as when I arched when it hurt so much. I get to do it again tomorrow with my midwife.

Tried the breastpump a while ago and DH and I are supposed to BD as much as possible. Like I really feel like it with everybody poking around in there.

So nothing new with me. No contractions, no nothing.

 

[DMickey28]

Good Luck Kiki - When were your other kids born?

Sara - I think we told Alex once we got to the second trimester but he was a bit younger than your Alex so he didn't quiet get it. We always talked about it around him and never kept anything from him. He has a big brother book and he has helped me every step of the way with the nursery. He goes shopping with me so we have bought everything for Baby Ryan together. He knows Baby Ryan is in Mommy's Tummy BUT ... he also thinks there is a baby ryan in his tummy!!! He kisses him and pats my tummy. He pokes baby Ryan when he is kicking and when he is quite he thinks that Baby Ryan is sleeping sucking his thumb like Alex does. We just talk about it all the time. We have all the baby stuff out and let Alex play with it ... right now he is playing with the floor mat!! Having a blast. The swing, we let him push it but tell him to do it gently and if he doesn't we repremand him. I'd rather him get the idea of how it works now with a doll than with the baby in there and then feel punished because of the baby and not just the swing.

We will see how it goes I guess.

I think I did too much today ... my back is killing me, I am exhausted and I have a headache. Ick. I didn't go to sleep last night until close to 11pm ... way too late for me. The last few days I have felt so good and I think it's because I was going to sleep by 9-10pm and Alex was sleeping decent. He hasn't played outside quite as much today but he has a lot and has been very active inside too. Hopefully we have another night like last night.

I probably just repeated 90% of my post from early today ... Sorry!!

 

[Pollito916]

Kiki - ouch, sorry about all the pain, I don't blame you for not being in the mood to BD!

DMickey - Funny about your Alex thinking there is a baby in his tummy too! My Alex told my mom there is a baby in daddy's tummy, and now he says there is one in his tummy too. He pushes his skinny little belly out as far as he can and says, "See? Look, my tummy is getting big!" Yesterday, he put his hand on my belly and said, "Oh, I think I feel the baby!" Not quite yet, that's just mommy's tummy right now! Sorry you're not feeling well, hope you start to feel better soon!

 

[Piecey]

Man! And why do they strip membranes? I was induced with Lucas at 39 weeks and they never did that to me! He was a waaay planned out induction, too. Though I think I was at 3cm, 90% effaced two days before they induced me. Is that the purpose? To try to get things going?

I took DS to the pedi today for his 9 month. I really hate the checkout lady. I can't decide if I'm hormonal or not but I'm about ready to call around and find another pedi because I HATE the checkout lady that much. I love the pedi, though. Ugh. Hormones!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

re: stripping membranes

Never had it done before. They are trying it to get me contracting so that I can avoid an induction next Monday. It's NASTY and I get to do it all over again tomorrow...yay.

DD#1 was 12 days late
DD#2 was 1 week early

 

[irisbud]

Hi everyone! Just joining in, though I've been lurking for a while

This will be our first baby, due September 1st (one day after Piecey!).

This is my second pregnancy; I had a MC at 6 weeks with the first. I am finally starting to relax with this one now that the first trimester is over!

So far everything with baby has been going great. Our next appt is in about 2.5 weeks; and they will schedule the big ultrasound for two weeks after that. I have been very tierd and pretty nauseous, but I'm hoping it should get better soon!

Anyway, looking forward to getting to know everyone and getting some great advice!

-Amy

 

[kpm76]

Hi everyone! Just joining in, though I've been lurking for a while

This will be our first baby, due September 1st (one day after Piecey!).

This is my second pregnancy; I had a MC at 6 weeks with the first. I am finally starting to relax with this one now that the first trimester is over!

So far everything with baby has been going great. Our next appt is in about 2.5 weeks; and they will schedule the big ultrasound for two weeks after that. I have been very tierd and pretty nauseous, but I'm hoping it should get better soon!

Anyway, looking forward to getting to know everyone and getting some great advice!

-Amy

Welcome! I am so sorry for your loss I had a missed miscarriage in September and it really affected the way I am with this pregnancy. I am so much more cautious. I'm 16 weeks and showing a decent amount (probably because I have a DD) and really just started telling people a few weeks ago. I pulled out the maternity clothes and DH said, "ok, when are you going to tell people you are pregnant....the day you deliver??" LOL. Anyway, congrats and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

BTW, glad to hear you are sick. I was very sick with DD, not sick at all with the pregnancy I lost and very sick again with this one so I do think there might be a correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies

 

[kpm76]

Kiki - ouch, sorry about all the pain, I don't blame you for not being in the mood to BD!

DMickey - Funny about your Alex thinking there is a baby in his tummy too! My Alex told my mom there is a baby in daddy's tummy, and now he says there is one in his tummy too. He pushes his skinny little belly out as far as he can and says, "See? Look, my tummy is getting big!" Yesterday, he put his hand on my belly and said, "Oh, I think I feel the baby!" Not quite yet, that's just mommy's tummy right now! Sorry you're not feeling well, hope you start to feel better soon!

Too funny about Alex! Abby thinks babies live in everyone's bellies now...haha. The funniest thing though is that she says the baby lives in my belly button

 

[irisbud]

Welcome! I am so sorry for your loss I had a missed miscarriage in September and it really affected the way I am with this pregnancy. I am so much more cautious. I'm 16 weeks and showing a decent amount (probably because I have a DD) and really just started telling people a few weeks ago. I pulled out the maternity clothes and DH said, "ok, when are you going to tell people you are pregnant....the day you deliver??" LOL. Anyway, congrats and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

BTW, glad to hear you are sick. I was very sick with DD, not sick at all with the pregnancy I lost and very sick again with this one so I do think there might be a correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies

Thanks for the welcome kpm! I was not sick at all with my miscarriage in late August and my Doctor said the same thing about the sickness, so in a way I am glad to have had it! I am showing some already too (and using maternity pants; I went up two sizes in regular pants but they were still digging into my belly; I've only gained 3 pounds!)

So far we've told some people and I am letting others figure it out for themselves...though many probably think I am just getting fat now (I'm pretty thin to start with!)

 

[DMickey28]

Welcome Amy - I was much more cautious this time around too. With DS I never even worried but this time I had 2 MC before getting PG and was just so worried. My Beta numbers started low, then the first time they found the heartbeat it was really low and then I started bleeding and spotting. Argh ... All is good now though.

KPM - Alex thinks the baby is in my belly button too. He thinks that the poked out belly button IS the baby I think. Funny.

 

[LaurenLC]

Welcome! I am so sorry for your loss I had a missed miscarriage in September and it really affected the way I am with this pregnancy. I am so much more cautious. I'm 16 weeks and showing a decent amount (probably because I have a DD) and really just started telling people a few weeks ago. I pulled out the maternity clothes and DH said, "ok, when are you going to tell people you are pregnant....the day you deliver??" LOL. Anyway, congrats and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

BTW, glad to hear you are sick. I was very sick with DD, not sick at all with the pregnancy I lost and very sick again with this one so I do think there might be a correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies

If this was said with a little tongue and cheek then I apologize, but there is no correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies. I haven't been sick once in my entire pregnancy and comments like the one above have caused me to worry like a crazy woman. I have brought up the fact that I haven't had any sickness at EVERY doctor's appointment I've had, and have been told that there is no correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies at EVERY doctor's appointment.
Again, I apologize if I upset anyone with this, but for me, it's a very touchy subject.

 

[Nette]

Kiki - EEEWWW That sounds awful. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that you won't have to go through that again... wishing you baby dust!

Pollito -- The cruise was really nice once I managed to relax after the first couple of days. The weather in the USVI was AMAZING. Probably too hot for some, but for this TX girl, I was so glad to be out of the 60s... I even swam (well floated) in the ocean even though the water temps were supposed to be a bit cooler than I generally like. The weather on the way back from St Thomas, though was kind of cool and the water was choppy... but still a really nice cruise. I'm toying with writing a trip report when I feel better (and can focus for more than 5 minutes at a time)

Amy -- Welcome!

I gave in an went to see the OB today for the cold. I hate going to the doctor for viral stuff... there really isn't much they can do, but I was so stressed about all the different meds and what I was reading on the internet (I should really stop that) and I haven't been sleeping much. He gave me a z-pack, cuz he figures it's gonna go bacterial infection now that I'm coughing and told me to take mucinex DM for drainage and coughing. He also gave me an Ambien script so if I'm miserable tonight I will take one of those and hopefully get a good night of rest (though how I will stay asleep when I am so thirsty is beyond me). I do feel a bit better. Managed to take a 1 hour nap this afternoon. Skipped work today too... I feel so guilty about calling in sick when I just took 6 days of vacation.

 

[kpm76]

If this was said with a little tongue and cheek then I apologize, but there is no correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies. I haven't been sick once in my entire pregnancy and comments like the one above have caused me to worry like a crazy woman. I have brought up the fact that I haven't had any sickness at EVERY doctor's appointment I've had, and have been told that there is no correlation between sickness and healthy pregnancies at EVERY doctor's appointment.
Again, I apologize if I upset anyone with this, but for me, it's a very touchy subject.

I'm sorry, I certainly did not mean to offend or cause worry for anyone. For me, I knew there was something not right with my second pregnancy because I had absolutely no symptoms, while I was sick as a dog for 4 months with my DD. With this pregnancy, I was even more sick than I was with my first, so for me and for others, I do think there can be a correlation and I apologize for not being more specific. That being said, my mom had 4 very healthy pregnancies and was not the least bit sick, even for one day. Everyone responds to pregnancy differently. My OB also says that you don't have to be sick to have a viable pregnancy and of course that is true.....I just knew my body better the second time and my intuition told me it was not the way my body responds to pregnancy.......

Sorry again to upset you

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I'm sorry, I certainly did not mean to offend or cause worry for anyone. For me, I knew there was something not right with my second pregnancy because I had absolutely no symptoms, while I was sick as a dog for 4 months with my DD. With this pregnancy, I was even more sick than I was with my first, so for me and for others, I do think there can be a correlation and I apologize for not being more specific. That being said, my mom had 4 very healthy pregnancies and was not the least bit sick, even for one day. Everyone responds to pregnancy differently. My OB also says that you don't have to be sick to have a viable pregnancy and of course that is true.....I just knew my body better the second time and my intuition told me it was not the way my body responds to pregnancy.......

Sorry again to upset you

That's precisely what happened to me, too. Well I'm a tad less sick, but I just puked about 10 mins ago, so I'm definitely not MS-less. With my missed m/c, I had no symptoms whatsoever.

 

[kpm76]

That's precisely what happened to me, too. Well I'm a tad less sick, but I just puked about 10 mins ago, so I'm definitely not MS-less. With my missed m/c, I had no symptoms whatsoever.

Sorry you just got sick I finally started feeling human again at about 15.5 weeks. I still gets waves of nausea and feeling "off" but I can actually function now, unlike a few weeks ago. Missed m/c are awful. Miscarriages in general are awful but I had an u/s at 6 weeks and there was a h/b then 3.5 weeks later, showed up at my OB appt, she couldn't find a h/b with the doppler, sent me for an u/s and that confirmed that the baby stopped growing the day after my 6 week u/s. Hope you feel better soon!!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Sorry you just got sick I finally started feeling human again at about 15.5 weeks. I still gets waves of nausea and feeling "off" but I can actually function now, unlike a few weeks ago. Missed m/c are awful. Miscarriages in general are awful but I had an u/s at 6 weeks and there was a h/b then 3.5 weeks later, showed up at my OB appt, she couldn't find a h/b with the doppler, sent me for an u/s and that confirmed that the baby stopped growing the day after my 6 week u/s. Hope you feel better soon!!

Thanks!

Ohh ouch. I found out through 3 blood tests and a few phone calls from my former OB. What an insensitive ****. Thank goodness I had weekly ultrasounds with this pregnacy, that made it a LOT easier. I always panicked a few days before, but I'm finally kinda relaxing now. I had a few panic moments, but I'm feeling some flutters every so often. Thank god for flutters!

I'm feeling somewhat human, but man, when the pukies kick in... watch out and clear a path to the bathroom. Or give me a bag. I puked until about 6 months with DD, so anything less than that is wonderful.