Thanks for the input. I've had a hard time finding information about realistic expectations about breastfeeding after reduction. I know there are resources out there, but they appear to push *very* hard for it. I have 12 weeks off with the baby and I don't want to feel stressed or anxious about it, or be in a lot of pain. I want to enjoy my time as much as possible and I want my husband to be able to do feedings as well. I am not interested in supplementing with the tube systems or pumping, etc. Another factor is that I never really felt crazy about the idea of breastfeeding in the first place which was part of the reason I was okay with a reduction even knowing that potential inability. I'd be willing to try for a short period of time because I know any bit of colostrom/breastmilk is better than nothing, but I haven't really been able to find out much information about personal experiences from people that weren't absolutely die-hard about doing it to begin with. I also am not sure if it's harder and more painful to dry up milk if you breastfeed for a short time versus not at all, and that is a factor in my decision also. Basically if the breastfeeding is not a struggle and doesn't make it any harder/more painful to dry up milk when I want to stop, I'd do it for a little bit - I know that doesn't sound terribly committed to the idea, which is why I've been hesitant to even try because I know it will be pushed so hard by the nurses, etc if I do try, whereas if I just say "I'm not doing it" I wouldn't feel pressured. I fully support breastfeeding mothers but I know that what's most important is that babies are receiving adequate nutrients and babies/moms aren't struggling and frustrated, and I do get upset when there are implications that you aren't a good mother if you don't breastfeed.
I had my appointment today and things went pretty well - blood pressure is lower now that I'm on meds twice daily. Non-stress test went well also. I had a nice surprise when my doctor said we'll have an ultrasound on Tuesday! They want to get an idea of size and amniotic fluid levels, etc. I asked him to guestimate size just based on the tummy palpations and he said probably 5.5 pounds, which sounds reasonable to me given how far along I am and family history of baby weights at birth (generally 6.5 lb range in my mom/aunt's cases, and also that was my husband's weight at birth). I'm still taking it easy with bedrest which is okay with me - but it's getting hotter here and I'm feeling more stuffy/congested with the nice days outside and I'm just getting really uncomfortable in general. I'm ready for it to be over!
It has been an awful few days but she is finally feeling better and eating a little today. Is there anything more revolting than cleaning up after a toddler who is sick while you are pregnant????? Calgon, take me away 
My DD is in a "deliverable position" though. 
Ugh, I'm still super uncomfortable though and feeling that back pain so maybe it'll still be soon. I go back in 5 days because my OB won't be there in 7. Plus according to him my due date is next Saturday. Maybe I'll get lucky and he'll just schedule an induction soon! 
)... I can't imagine what it would be like to not be able to have the "release" after the milk comes in.
