Moms to Be Part 3

[staley7580]

Ugh... Im so sad Im not pregnant anymore! Crazy, huh?? I was so freaking miserable, and wanted it over.. now I just want more babies in my belly!!

 

[Piecey]

Ugh... Im so sad Im not pregnant anymore! Crazy, huh?? I was so freaking miserable, and wanted it over.. now I just want more babies in my belly!!

I wouldn't mind being pregnant again but I'm not sure I want to experience when the baby comes out of my belly EVER again.

I'm getting Mirena next month because DH refuses to snip snip because he hopes I'll change my mind.

 

[staley7580]

I wouldn't mind being pregnant again but I'm not sure I want to experience when the baby comes out of my belly EVER again.

I'm getting Mirena next month because DH refuses to snip snip because he hopes I'll change my mind.

Im fighting with getting Mirena, or just having dh get a vas. I dont THINK we are going to have more kids.. But.. I dont know.. maybe just one more. Or another set of twinnies would be amazing! After all.. I have an eight passenger van.

 

[MelessaG]

Im fighting with getting Mirena, or just having dh get a vas. I dont THINK we are going to have more kids.. But.. I dont know.. maybe just one more. Or another set of twinnies would be amazing! After all.. I have an eight passenger van.

Even though we already have more than our fair share of kids (and that whole AMA label I've got going for me at the OB's office now), this 'bonus' baby has me questioning whether I really want to do something permanent or not. Maybe #6 would be the brother my son so wants...(And yes, I know the age difference would be huge.) I blame my hormones, feeling the baby kick, and cute ultrasounds for my current indecision.

 

[Piecey]

Even though we already have more than our fair share of kids (and that whole AMA label I've got going for me at the OB's office now), this 'bonus' baby has me questioning whether I really want to do something permanent or not. Maybe #6 would be the brother my son so wants...(And yes, I know the age difference would be huge.) I blame my hormones, feeling the baby kick, and cute ultrasounds for my current indecision.

Im fighting with getting Mirena, or just having dh get a vas. I dont THINK we are going to have more kids.. But.. I dont know.. maybe just one more. Or another set of twinnies would be amazing! After all.. I have an eight passenger van.

I don't think I'm normal at all...
My pregnancy was so easy, and I felt so little movement, that I can't EVER really remember thinking "Wow, this is so amazing"... I was the only one at my childbirth class that didn't mention "Movement" as the best part of the pregnancy.

I seriously can't imagine having another baby. Maybe that is my baby blues talking? I wanted a big family before but not at all now. I can't imagine going through the last two weeks again...I just feel very odd. I do not feel like myself and I'm sure that is a big part of it.

He refuses to do the vas, he thinks my mind will change. He won't listen when I tell him I want to remember that I feel this crappy, because I need to be prepared that it would happen again. He doesn't listen.
So I'm getting Mirena.

 

[Maggimus]

Hello preggo friends!

Today I had a dr's apt. I have 12 wks left... and ive gained 10lbs since my pap last year. I am very worried about gaining too much (AND stretch marks)-- so im hoping im on an okay track. DH and I are still hoping to take a vacation and the doc things it will be okay as long as ive not started contracting (fingers crossed). I have to go to the lab and have my glucose test along with the rhogam shot. Wish me luck on those two!

Anyhoo my best friend (the one I told you guys about that didnt "know" she was pregnant until she was 30weeks ish) had her baby. 9lbs 7ounces.... can you believe that? I dont know how people didnt think she was pregnant before the 30some-odd weeks with a baby in her like that! HOLY COW! I was holding her at the hospital and literally... my arm was cramping and I had to pass to her to someone else. Also my belly started hurting... like it was too much weight or something (and im used to doing a lot more with a lot more weight, my dogs weigh about 15lbs). LOL I started to wonder how well id be able to hold my little one..lol.

Hope all is well with everyone! Just checkin in!

 

[DannysMom]

I don't think I'm normal at all...
My pregnancy was so easy, and I felt so little movement, that I can't EVER really remember thinking "Wow, this is so amazing"... I was the only one at my childbirth class that didn't mention "Movement" as the best part of the pregnancy.

I seriously can't imagine having another baby. Maybe that is my baby blues talking? I wanted a big family before but not at all now. I can't imagine going through the last two weeks again...I just feel very odd. I do not feel like myself and I'm sure that is a big part of it.

He refuses to do the vas, he thinks my mind will change. He won't listen when I tell him I want to remember that I feel this crappy, because I need to be prepared that it would happen again. He doesn't listen.
So I'm getting Mirena.

Honestly, right now when everything is fresh in your mind & you are uber-hormonal is not the right time to make any permanent decisions. You are still young. It took me 5 years to recover from the trauma of my son's birth before I seriously thought, 'yeah I could do it all again, if I had to.' Bu for the first 4 years after my son's birth, we were pretty fanatical about birth control -- we were that freaked out about poentially concieving again.

Ultimately though, my son is such an awesome kid that it was the thought of having another, kind of like him that pushed us over the edge. That and I didn't really want him to be an only child. And he was pretty adament that he didn't want to be the only kid in the family.

So, IME, you may come around, it might take years.... but never say never. Once your baby becomes an actual person, with thoughts and opinions, and you can have actual conversations with them..... you sort of "get" in a new way just how short pregnancy & then babyhood really are, even when the hormones & sleep deprivation & the general feelings of being overwhelmed because this tiny demanding little being is entirely dependant on *you* -- you have a new perspective -- and a better understanding of what you can do if you need to.

'Course, I could be entirely full of crap & one child is the perfect family size for you -- I *really* have no way to know. But I think my point is, neither do you, not yet, not really. Give yourself plenty of time so that you know that you are happy with your final decision & it wasn't made in haste, during a time that was hard.....

I'm not trying to lecture you or change your mind. I just urge you to give yourself plenty of time to make the right decisions for you & your family.

 

[Disney Ron]

I'm not trying to lecture you or change your mind. I just urge you to give yourself plenty of time to make the right decisions for you & your family.

Good advice Valerie. Hope oyu are feeling well and not going to stir crazy.

I just wanted to post, so you all know I am still here. No changes to report.
I am 39 weeks today, but who is counting.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

Hi,
I hope no one minds me stopping by. I see that Staley is feeling the same way I am. I'm so happy to have DS here but I miss feeling the kicks and squirms already. Maybe #3... but a few years down the line.

 

[Adi12982]

Hi,
I hope no one minds me stopping by. I see that Staley is feeling the same way I am. I'm so happy to have DS here but I miss feeling the kicks and squirms already. Maybe #3... but a few years down the line.

Seriously, who would mind??

 

[Piecey]

I think the "Newest Moms" thread is collecting dust because all of us migrate back over here.

My brother is flying in tomorrow to meet his nephew... that should be interesting..

 

[DannysMom]

So I reached a new depth of reflux hell. Everything, I mean everything gives me terrible heartburn. My stomache is so compressed -- and I'm spending my time lying around (so I don't contract too badly) that after I eat anything I feel awful.

I go for my progesterone shot tomorrow. I've got to ask if there is anything else I can take besides mylanta & tums -- cause that's seriously not touching it. I need to eat so my babies can continue to grow for a good long while yet ........

 

[Adi12982]

Honestly, right now when everything is fresh in your mind & you are uber-hormonal is not the right time to make any permanent decisions. You are still young. It took me 5 years to recover from the trauma of my son's birth before I seriously thought, 'yeah I could do it all again, if I had to.' Bu for the first 4 years after my son's birth, we were pretty fanatical about birth control -- we were that freaked out about poentially concieving again.

I couldn't agree more. I think the mirena is a great option. I've always thought I'd be afarid of doing something permanent that I would later regret. Even if you decide to just stick with the one I think it is a good idea, because you have the option and can control it if you do ever change you mind!

 

[MelessaG]

I don't think I'm normal at all...
My pregnancy was so easy, and I felt so little movement, that I can't EVER really remember thinking "Wow, this is so amazing"... I was the only one at my childbirth class that didn't mention "Movement" as the best part of the pregnancy.

I seriously can't imagine having another baby. Maybe that is my baby blues talking? I wanted a big family before but not at all now. I can't imagine going through the last two weeks again...I just feel very odd. I do not feel like myself and I'm sure that is a big part of it.

He refuses to do the vas, he thinks my mind will change. He won't listen when I tell him I want to remember that I feel this crappy, because I need to be prepared that it would happen again. He doesn't listen.
So I'm getting Mirena.

You are absolutely normal! And when it comes to family size, that varies from family to family and person to person. I agree with Valerie that it's too soon to decide, and I guess my point would be that you just never know. There is a 5 year gap between my youngest and this baby because I was DONE. And then somehow, I found myself pregnant again at Thanksgiving of last year. (We were using birth control faithfully, and according to my cycle-which I chart even when using b/c-I shouldn't have been ovulating when I was.) I was so DONE with pregnancy and babies that my husband was terrified of how I would react. I was a little anxious given my age, the surprise of it all, and the fact that I was crash dieting at the time I got pregnant (you worry about the silliest things affecting the baby); but I was surprisingly happy about the baby. As soon as my 11-week u/s told me that baby was likely to be a healthy one, I was thrilled and relieved and I haven't looked back.

Though I could live without the heartburn about now...

 

[GatorMickey]

I was also put on Pitocin to induce at 41 weeks with my first. It really wasn't bad at all. Once the Dr. broke my water, though, the contractions came much faster and I opted for the epidural -it was wonderful I went in with an open mind but not really wanting the epidural, but it all depends on your pain tolerance. Mine is not so good so I took it. I ended up with a c-section anyway though. Not as expected, but same wonderful result

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Honestly, right now when everything is fresh in your mind & you are uber-hormonal is not the right time to make any permanent decisions. You are still young. It took me 5 years to recover from the trauma of my son's birth before I seriously thought, 'yeah I could do it all again, if I had to.' Bu for the first 4 years after my son's birth, we were pretty fanatical about birth control -- we were that freaked out about poentially concieving again.

Ultimately though, my son is such an awesome kid that it was the thought of having another, kind of like him that pushed us over the edge. That and I didn't really want him to be an only child. And he was pretty adament that he didn't want to be the only kid in the family.

So, IME, you may come around, it might take years.... but never say never. Once your baby becomes an actual person, with thoughts and opinions, and you can have actual conversations with them..... you sort of "get" in a new way just how short pregnancy & then babyhood really are, even when the hormones & sleep deprivation & the general feelings of being overwhelmed because this tiny demanding little being is entirely dependant on *you* -- you have a new perspective -- and a better understanding of what you can do if you need to.

'Course, I could be entirely full of crap & one child is the perfect family size for you -- I *really* have no way to know. But I think my point is, neither do you, not yet, not really. Give yourself plenty of time so that you know that you are happy with your final decision & it wasn't made in haste, during a time that was hard.....

I'm not trying to lecture you or change your mind. I just urge you to give yourself plenty of time to make the right decisions for you & your family.

I think that's really great advice Valerie! And I agree. I definitely don't see myself having another little one anytime in the near future (especially considering my lack of a partner) but I wouldn't want to do anything permanent in case I do meet someone later on down the line and decide to try for another one. I figure I'm young enough that it could happen.

 

[Piecey]

I still remember thinking my first gallbladder attack was a terrible case of heartburn!

My doctor prescribed Pepcid when I called that day. It didn't help me (probably because it wasn't heartburn, haha) but apparently that is pregnancy safe! Maybe it will help you?

I wasn't talking about him going and getting the vas NOW.. just.. I don't know. I know I need to get back to normal in my head before anything more serious than Mirena happens.. I tried to arrange all the photos from the hospital and back home and looking at the ones DH took while I was in labor and then jumping to the ones in the OR made me cry my eyes out. That is NOT normal, that much I know

 

[trmcguire]

Sarah-

I used this Lansinoh pump after my DS was born.

http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Doub...ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1245185393&sr=8-1

I exclusively pumped for him for 10 weeks because he had latching issues due to being tongue tied. It worked great for me. I don't reccomend getting a used pump (or at least an open system, which it what the medela is, even with new tubing for this reason:

"Most purchase pumps, for example Medela’s Pump In Styles, DoubleEase, and MiniElectric, are “open systems.” This means that the pump motor is “open” to contact with the mother’s milk particles. In a Pump In Style, for example, the breastshield (the part held against the breast) is open to the tubing that attaches to the back of the shield, which is also open to the diaphragm on the pump motor that creates the suction and release. This means that an invisible mist of milk particles can travel from the shield into the tubing and back onto the pump diaphragm. The diaphragm cannot be removed or sterilized, so it cannot be cleaned well enough between mothers to insure safety. When there are milk particles on the pump diaphragm, even with a brand new set of bottles, tubing and breastshields, with every suction and release another mother’s milk particles will be blown into your milk. Even if milk particles are not visible, they can still be there. (One sure sign is mold growing in the tubing, which sometimes happens with normal use.)"

http://www.llli.org/llleaderweb/LV/LVJunJul04p54.html

The Lansinoh pump however is a closed system and therefor it is safe to get a used one if you replace the tubing and shields.

Babies R Us let me stack coupons when I was buying things for my son, it was great!

Does anyone have any recommendations for a double stroller? I need it to accommodate an infant seat and my then 14 month old. I think I would prefer a side by side, but I would also consider a tandem.

I got my blood results back, and everything looks good! I went from 2503 at 4w4d to 4779 at 4w 6d. The numbers seem high to what I've read, but I don't really have anything to compare them to. Did anybody else get their hCG levels?

 

[Adi12982]

I got my blood results back, and everything looks good! I went from 2503 at 4w4d to 4779 at 4w 6d. The numbers seem high to what I've read, but I don't really have anything to compare them to. Did anybody else get their hCG levels?

I got my HGC when I was 6w, so not really helpful, huh? If you want to know I can easily look up what it was then.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

I can say that I was on the bad end of pitocin. I was in labor for quite a while the first time before they offered it to me to speed things up. I didn't have an epidural at that point, so they did the slowest drip possible. The contractions went from bad to terrible so fast. I did an hour and then got an epidural. I didn't want it to be that way again this time, so we did the epidural first and I didn't have to do pitocin at all (phew!). The nurse suggested thinking about it before the doctor checked me, just in case I was stuck at 5 still. After about 2 hours of epidural, he was ready to be born.