Moms, I need serious help!

[beautybelle]

She said she was going to try to treat me without meds. I called today to cancel my appt with her. I may go back to my ob/gyn.

 

[becka]

She said she was going to try to treat me without meds. I called today to cancel my appt with her. I may go back to my ob/gyn.

Please call you ob/gyn! Trust me they see this all they time and they know how to help you. Every day you delay getting help is one more day when you are not enjoying your beautiful daughter to your fullest.

I have nothing against counseling, in fact, I think I needed the counseling in addition to the meds to make me feel better so don't just discount it entirely. You do need to make sure that you are dealing with a counselor who knows a lot about PPD. In fact my OB/GYN is who recommended the counselor I saw. Ask your OB/GYN for a reference when you make your call.

 

[tw1nsmom]

She said she was going to try to treat me without meds. I called today to cancel my appt with her. I may go back to my ob/gyn.

Please call your ob/gyn today! They will fit you in. This is not something you can talk yourself through (although talk therapy along with medication can help). As others have said this is chemical. The shift in hormones can throw you into chemical depression. This is NOT your fault, or something you can fix alone. Please call!

 

[tiff211]

I suffered from it after my last baby was born, I was moody, just couldn't function. I did take care of the baby but had no desire to do anything or interact with anyone. My OB/GYN asked me a few questions to see if I would hurt someone or myself and then told me that the chemical imbalance would work itself out within 3 months after the baby was born. Baby was about 2 1/2 months at the time about 3 weeks later I did feel better, like someone has plugged me back in. I would defintiely call your Ob/gyn because it's not a mental thing, it's hormonal. Hang in there....."and this to shall pass!"

 

[minkydog]

I had PPD with two of my children. The first time i was like you--i just didn't know what hit me, so I tried to "pull myself up by my bootstraps." I sunk so deeply into depression that I tried to kill myself(I would never have hurt my baby!) The next time it happened I recognized it before it got out of hand. Even going on meds, it took some time to get back in control, but at least i didn't try to hurt myself(or scare my DH, my kids, my mom, my friends )

PPD is a real disorder. It's a chemical imbalance and it can't be hoped away. Your OB will not be surprised--a small percentage of the women who give birth go on to have PPD. It's not rare, but a lot of women don't talk about it because they are embarrassed and horrified over their feelings.

I know it seems like life will never get better. Believe me, how I know this feeling It's your chemical imbalance talking(with a little help from Satan) You can feel better and I believe that God does not want for us to suffer in this manner. It's not normal to feel this way and you have a choice: Do nothing and continue being sad, hopeless & depressed or do something to relieve it. It seems to me your current method is not helping.

 

[llij]

I just wanted to give you a hug and say that you are not alone! Like others have said, call your OB/GYN now and get some medication to help you with this. I had PPD with my last two children and my OB was a godsend and prescribed me medication which helped tremendously.

Hang in there! We are here if you need anything!

 

[MomBoyd]

PLEASE see your OB/GYN as soon as possible. I know you must feel terrible. I know I did and I tried to just "get over it" on my own after my DD's birth. I tried to deal with everything on my own and thought I was doing OK on my own until I quickly started to spiral out of control. I don't want to scare you but I started having some pretty vivid thoughts about hurting myself (but thankfully NEVER my kids). I would be driving down the interstate and think that all I wanted to do was to just drive my car right off the road.

PPD is a very scary thing but thankfully it is treatable. There are medications that can work. I would imagine your doctor could prescribe you something and between the meds and the counseling hopefully that will make a big difference for you. I know for me it made all the difference in the world. I was afraid I would have to be on something long term but within 4 months I was feeling so much better and I have never looked back. My only regret is that I missed so much during those first few months with my DD.

Three points:

1 -She is so right! The same thing (starting to spiral out of control) very quickly happened to me. Don't put off getting medical treatment for this MEDICAL CONDITION for even one more day.

2 - The book Behind the Smile: My Journey Out of Postpartum Depression
by Marie Osmond was both helpful and inspirational. Get it from your local library or order it online.

3 - If the first medication does not help DON't GIVE UP! Different types of anti depressants work for different people. If none of them seem to help please PM me. I was there too.

Feel free to PM me any time.

 

[beautybelle]

This is slowly killing me. I know my husband gets tired of hearing me whine, and my son too. And my baby well I take care of her needs but to be honest thats about all I can manage. I dont have any help other than my hubby with the kids so Im all they have and I know that if I dont do for them then nobody else will, so I function through this for them. But I know that im not puting out 100%. Im going to tell you something that I havent told my couciler because Im afraid of the outcome. But one person on here said something that hit home. There are times that I get a pressure so built up in me that its all I can do to control it, I just feel like if I "just do it" "just do it" "just do it" it will be over very quickly, like a little shot, you get it and in a second its over. I think about my kids during those times and a part of me says how much they need me and another part says your husband will remarry and find someone who doesnt have all your issues and can fully take care of them. My counciler says Im being self centered, maybe I am, maybe im not, I dont know. I dont mean to be, I dont feel like I am. Im good to people or I try to be. I just cant help myself no matter how bad I want to.

 

[luvwinnie]

She said she was going to try to treat me without meds. I called today to cancel my appt with her. I may go back to my ob/gyn.

GO SEE YOUR OB/GYN IMMEDIATELY, please!

 

[Christine]

This is slowly killing me. I know my husband gets tired of hearing me whine, and my son too. And my baby well I take care of her needs but to be honest thats about all I can manage. I dont have any help other than my hubby with the kids so Im all they have and I know that if I dont do for them then nobody else will, so I function through this for them. But I know that im not puting out 100%. Im going to tell you something that I havent told my couciler because Im afraid of the outcome. But one person on here said something that hit home. There are times that I get a pressure so built up in me that its all I can do to control it, I just feel like if I "just do it" "just do it" "just do it" it will be over very quickly, like a little shot, you get it and in a second its over. I think about my kids during those times and a part of me says how much they need me and another part says your husband will remarry and find someone who doesnt have all your issues and can fully take care of them. My counciler says Im being self centered, maybe I am, maybe im not, I dont know. I dont mean to be, I dont feel like I am. Im good to people or I try to be. I just cant help myself no matter how bad I want to.

Quite honestly, your counselor sounds like a bonehead and seems to be doing you more harm than good. I think your counselor is laying more guilt on you than you already have.

Just call your OB/GYN. They are prepared to prescribe the medication for this.

 

[bananiem]

Your counselor should have their license revoked.
CALL YOUR OB/GYN NOW!!! I had ppd after my first baby. Please call. Your ob/gyn deals with this all the time and will be able to help you.

 

[Chicago Girl]

Please, contact your doctor today, the longer you wait, it may get worst.

 

[minkydog]

This is slowly killing me. I know my husband gets tired of hearing me whine, and my son too. And my baby well I take care of her needs but to be honest thats about all I can manage. I dont have any help other than my hubby with the kids so Im all they have and I know that if I dont do for them then nobody else will, so I function through this for them. But I know that im not puting out 100%. Im going to tell you something that I havent told my couciler because Im afraid of the outcome. But one person on here said something that hit home. There are times that I get a pressure so built up in me that its all I can do to control it, I just feel like if I "just do it" "just do it" "just do it" it will be over very quickly, like a little shot, you get it and in a second its over. I think about my kids during those times and a part of me says how much they need me and another part says your husband will remarry and find someone who doesnt have all your issues and can fully take care of them. My counciler says Im being self centered, maybe I am, maybe im not, I dont know. I dont mean to be, I dont feel like I am. Im good to people or I try to be. I just cant help myself no matter how bad I want to.

Pardon me, but your counselor is an idiot Of course you can't help yourself--you have a treatable illness and so far it seems that your counselor is clueless and downright dangerous. Please, please--you don't have to live this way. There's help out there.
Call your OB TODAY. Say the following:

"This is an emergency.Do not put me on hold. I have a new baby and I'm very depressed. I thinkI might try to hurt myself. I need to be seen immediately." Call your husband and have him drive you to the office. Have him take care of the baby or drop him off with a trusted friend.
This is a matter of life and death.

 

[shortbun]

There's lots of love for you here. This is an organic problem that manifests itself mentally. You need meds to correct the problem. Any real social worker should know that. I doubt your counselor can prescribe meds. Leave her. Call your OB right now. Just pick up the phone and do it, you can. You are a loving person and you need help. It's ok to ask for help. I'm so glad you've come to us. There are so many with experience here. They all got the help they needed and they are glad they did. You will be too. Call now love.

 

[mickeyboat]

There's help out there.
Call your OB TODAY. Say the following:

"This is an emergency.Do not put me on hold. I have a new baby and I'm very depressed. I thinkI might try to hurt myself. I need to be seen immediately."

Please, please call right now. Just the fact that you posted this today shows that you really want to get help. Print this post and bring it with you to the phone. Call your OB and get an appointment today, ASAP.

If you have a friend who can take you to the doctor, call her. If you need to bring your baby with you to the doctor's office, do it. This is not something to mess around with, or something that you can fix on your own.

Lots of for you. Keep us informed, and let us know if there is something we can do to help.

Denae

 

[Tracey1974]

I had it around the time DS was 6 months, I don't know that it was severe but it was enough for other people to notice it and the way I had changed. I thought it was just because it was the dreary winter months and I was going back to work.

I spoke to my Ob/Gyn as well as my son's pediatrician and they helped alot. Definitely speak to someone other than your counselor. It also helps that your DH is supportive but make sure you get another professional opinion. If you need meds then get them and see if they work for you. Hope things work out for you!

 

[daisy_77]

First of all,
I know what you are going through. I had PPD after my daughter was born, too. I was in denial though. DH called my OB and he made an appointment for me to go see him. I was prescribed Zoloft. I helped a lot. If I were you I would make an appointment to see your doctor and see what will work best for you. I know it is scary, you will feel a world of difference. Praying alone in a peaceful area helped me get through some of the hard times, too. I wish you luck and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[becka]

I hope you are already on the phone with your OB. If not, PLEASE CALL THEM NOW!!! Believe me you have to do this. This is not your fault. This is not something you can or should be expected to handle by yourself. This is not about you not being good enough or strong enought or perfect enough. Your kids need and deserve their mother and you need and deserve to get better.

I know how hard it is to make that first call but things will get better. I felt a tiny bit better almost immediately because I was finally getting help that I knew deep down I desperately needed.

 

[Conkozan]

If you (or hubby or kids) were diagnosed as having diabetes, you would correct that chemical imbalance with insulin-wouldn't you?

This is also a chemical imbalance that needs a simple med to set you straight. No Shame, No Stigma. A simple chemical imbalance in your brain rather than in your pancreas.

Call you OB-tell him/her what you have said here. They will get the imbalance straightened out. This is medical, not spiritual.

 

[XYSRUS]

Please call your doctor immediately. Plus have someone else watch the baby for you. Your husband, your neighbor, your friend...anyone. Keep your baby safe and get yourself to a professional MD. You can help yourself get through this.