She does have a child if this is who I think it is.OP, you don't have kids, right?
She does have a child if this is who I think it is.
Thank you everybody for your support!
I am just now getting done with everything that has been going on today. It has been a day filled with drama. To answer some of the questions posed... no we do not have children. I guess that is a good thing in this situation.
In regards to the diabetes: he has been diabetic for a long time, at least 17 years that I know of. He will not control the diet. We have been round and round on that since this became a huge huge issue back about a year and a half ago. I took charge and followed the doctors orders about the carbs. I was the carb nazi and he was getting better, but he was very resentful and fighting me every step of the way.... then he started going off and binging. This caused his condition to deteriorate further with dire consequences. He never would follow the diet after that. He ended up in this skilled nursing for a stint, I came in one day, there he sat with a blizzard from Dairy Queen in his hand. In his room he almost had a Coca Cola Classic bottle in his room. The nurses told me he was eating cupcakes and had blood sugar running 425-ish. They said they legally have no control over patients when they take it upon themselves to have contraband. They cannot take it away from them. In the rehab, they kept the blood sugar under control. I was right there on his release, they said follow a strict diabetic and cardiac diet! On the way home, (mere minutes after this speech) he had me go through the White Castle drive through and get him burgers and a smoothie. Down the road once we got back into town, he had me go through the Dairy Queen drive through and get him an ice cream cone. Later that night he was like I want a stromboli, I finally had to say something about the diet...he was like go get me a stromboli or I am just going to order one to be delivered. I was like whatever, and went and got it for him. The diet cannot be controlled, he will fight you every step of the way and cause such a scene if you resist. I already gave up and just let him do, resistance is futile.
In regards to the mental state, yes he has had a diagnosis as depression and bi-polar. He takes anti-psychotic, anti-anxiety, and antidepressant medications. He went through an outpatient therapy treatment like 3X a week for 6 weeks about a year ago. As far as what he learned in therapy was a few catch-phrases to throw around but resumed his old behavior very quickly.
In regards to my own mental state, some friends an co-workers (before I quit working) made me promise to go get checked out. Yes I was also diagnosed with depression. I never went to any follow-ups though (I cancelled all that) and I never got any meds. I just self-medicate with wine. Yes I know that is a bad idea.
As far as getting stuff done, his insurance company never returned my call. I talked to the skilled nursing facility that he was in before and they will take him back. However, this would be a thing where we would have to get him on Medicaid. The home said they can help with this. However, I think we would be better off having an attorney arrange this for us. I have spoken with one before and he said he could get it arranged to where I would receive his disability funds (all but like $30) and Medicaid would cover the facility costs. I would also be able to work and earn up to a certain amount. This seems like a good solution. This is a situation where I am going to have to get him on board.
Physically yes, he did do a little better today which is good. However, I spent all day chasing down prescriptions, running his errands, cleaning the bathroom 3X and doing 3 loads of laundry... (1 regular load, and 2 "emergency" loads).
I know not much can be done over a holiday weekend, so I will have time to ponder my next move I guess.
Thank you everybody for your support!
I am just now getting done with everything that has been going on today. It has been a day filled with drama. To answer some of the questions posed... no we do not have children. I guess that is a good thing in this situation.
In regards to the diabetes: he has been diabetic for a long time, at least 17 years that I know of. He will not control the diet. We have been round and round on that since this became a huge huge issue back about a year and a half ago. I took charge and followed the doctors orders about the carbs. I was the carb nazi and he was getting better, but he was very resentful and fighting me every step of the way.... then he started going off and binging. This caused his condition to deteriorate further with dire consequences. He never would follow the diet after that. He ended up in this skilled nursing for a stint, I came in one day, there he sat with a blizzard from Dairy Queen in his hand. In his room he almost had a Coca Cola Classic bottle in his room. The nurses told me he was eating cupcakes and had blood sugar running 425-ish. They said they legally have no control over patients when they take it upon themselves to have contraband. They cannot take it away from them. In the rehab, they kept the blood sugar under control. I was right there on his release, they said follow a strict diabetic and cardiac diet! On the way home, (mere minutes after this speech) he had me go through the White Castle drive through and get him burgers and a smoothie. Down the road once we got back into town, he had me go through the Dairy Queen drive through and get him an ice cream cone. Later that night he was like I want a stromboli, I finally had to say something about the diet...he was like go get me a stromboli or I am just going to order one to be delivered. I was like whatever, and went and got it for him. The diet cannot be controlled, he will fight you every step of the way and cause such a scene if you resist. I already gave up and just let him do, resistance is futile.
In regards to the mental state, yes he has had a diagnosis as depression and bi-polar. He takes anti-psychotic, anti-anxiety, and antidepressant medications. He went through an outpatient therapy treatment like 3X a week for 6 weeks about a year ago. As far as what he learned in therapy was a few catch-phrases to throw around but resumed his old behavior very quickly.
In regards to my own mental state, some friends an co-workers (before I quit working) made me promise to go get checked out. Yes I was also diagnosed with depression. I never went to any follow-ups though (I cancelled all that) and I never got any meds. I just self-medicate with wine. Yes I know that is a bad idea.
As far as getting stuff done, his insurance company never returned my call. I talked to the skilled nursing facility that he was in before and they will take him back. However, this would be a thing where we would have to get him on Medicaid. The home said they can help with this. However, I think we would be better off having an attorney arrange this for us. I have spoken with one before and he said he could get it arranged to where I would receive his disability funds (all but like $30) and Medicaid would cover the facility costs. I would also be able to work and earn up to a certain amount. This seems like a good solution. This is a situation where I am going to have to get him on board.
Physically yes, he did do a little better today which is good. However, I spent all day chasing down prescriptions, running his errands, cleaning the bathroom 3X and doing 3 loads of laundry... (1 regular load, and 2 "emergency" loads).
I know not much can be done over a holiday weekend, so I will have time to ponder my next move I guess.
This really stuck out when I read it. My advise is that you need to take care of YOU properly before you can take care of HIM properly. Your life is so difficult right now and it seems to me that the enabling is the path of least resistance. I *totally* understand that so I'm not going to bash on you for that. But you know in your heart that it's not the best choice for either one of you ... it's just the easiest choice. Especially with untreated depression. IIRC from earlier threads, your husband is very demanding and abusive. You are going to need more than wine to stand up to HIM and stand up for YOURSELF. You need medical professionals just as he does.In regards to my own mental state, some friends an co-workers (before I quit working) made me promise to go get checked out. Yes I was also diagnosed with depression. I never went to any follow-ups though (I cancelled all that) and I never got any meds. I just self-medicate with wine. Yes I know that is a bad idea.
You should really think about talking to a therapist and get going again with the MD if pills have been recommended. It seems that you really need someone to talk to and help you sort this out, other than here. There is no shame in that. Really, until you do, your doing nothing but spinning your wheels. It's easy when you have a few good days to put all that on the back burner, but look at the larger picture, these issues will not go away. I hope this all works out for you, it can and will.Thank you everybody for your support!
I am just now getting done with everything that has been going on today. It has been a day filled with drama. To answer some of the questions posed... no we do not have children. I guess that is a good thing in this situation.
In regards to the diabetes: he has been diabetic for a long time, at least 17 years that I know of. He will not control the diet. We have been round and round on that since this became a huge huge issue back about a year and a half ago. I took charge and followed the doctors orders about the carbs. I was the carb nazi and he was getting better, but he was very resentful and fighting me every step of the way.... then he started going off and binging. This caused his condition to deteriorate further with dire consequences. He never would follow the diet after that. He ended up in this skilled nursing for a stint, I came in one day, there he sat with a blizzard from Dairy Queen in his hand. In his room he almost had a Coca Cola Classic bottle in his room. The nurses told me he was eating cupcakes and had blood sugar running 425-ish. They said they legally have no control over patients when they take it upon themselves to have contraband. They cannot take it away from them. In the rehab, they kept the blood sugar under control. I was right there on his release, they said follow a strict diabetic and cardiac diet! On the way home, (mere minutes after this speech) he had me go through the White Castle drive through and get him burgers and a smoothie. Down the road once we got back into town, he had me go through the Dairy Queen drive through and get him an ice cream cone. Later that night he was like I want a stromboli, I finally had to say something about the diet...he was like go get me a stromboli or I am just going to order one to be delivered. I was like whatever, and went and got it for him. The diet cannot be controlled, he will fight you every step of the way and cause such a scene if you resist. I already gave up and just let him do, resistance is futile.
In regards to the mental state, yes he has had a diagnosis as depression and bi-polar. He takes anti-psychotic, anti-anxiety, and antidepressant medications. He went through an outpatient therapy treatment like 3X a week for 6 weeks about a year ago. As far as what he learned in therapy was a few catch-phrases to throw around but resumed his old behavior very quickly.
In regards to my own mental state, some friends an co-workers (before I quit working) made me promise to go get checked out. Yes I was also diagnosed with depression. I never went to any follow-ups though (I cancelled all that) and I never got any meds. I just self-medicate with wine. Yes I know that is a bad idea.
As far as getting stuff done, his insurance company never returned my call. I talked to the skilled nursing facility that he was in before and they will take him back. However, this would be a thing where we would have to get him on Medicaid. The home said they can help with this. However, I think we would be better off having an attorney arrange this for us. I have spoken with one before and he said he could get it arranged to where I would receive his disability funds (all but like $30) and Medicaid would cover the facility costs. I would also be able to work and earn up to a certain amount. This seems like a good solution. This is a situation where I am going to have to get him on board.
Physically yes, he did do a little better today which is good. However, I spent all day chasing down prescriptions, running his errands, cleaning the bathroom 3X and doing 3 loads of laundry... (1 regular load, and 2 "emergency" loads).
I know not much can be done over a holiday weekend, so I will have time to ponder my next move I guess.