Was it really as bad as New Year's Eve !!!!
Never been, and never will, be there on NYE, but roughly 6 thousand guests were let in at one time just before 8pm. If you were exiting at that time, you were going against the flow, so I guess it was crowded. Also, some of the exits on the right side were eliminated and used as entrances for the event, so it made for a different, more crowded situation when exiting, especially after Wishes, but it all worked out ok.
We are going next Friday night and the email confirmation said 6 for early entry but when I called they said 8
I don't think it will be any different than last night's event, so 8pm is correct. It should be the same as the event map is the same.
If it were me, I would get the event wristband ahead of time, and if everyone in your group has park admission, enter through the day guest Touch-points, thereby avoiding the huge crowd waiting to get in. If you don't obtain a wristband beforehand, and you don't arrive any earlier than around 7, either get it from the "Moonlight Magic" CM standing there with an Ipad right after you enter the park or get it at Stitch or at the Tortuga Tavern anytime before 10pm.
If you don't have park admission, I strongly suggest that you don't arrive early as you'll just be standing in that huge crowd until 8 anyway. I'd arrive around 8:30. By that time the initial crowd has entered, and because the event benefits don't kick in until 10, you're a day guest, so why compete with them when you'll have exclusive use of the attractions at 10pm. I'm guessing that the 2nd event will be busier, but it will still be a great event.