Hi Deb,
I do the same...one day at a time. Some days are ok and others can be really hard. After seeing my aunt yesterday I was barely able to make it through the rest of the afternoon at work. When I got to DH work and knew that I did not have to keep a "stiff upper lip" the water works started.
Mom and I had the same doctor, who called me when she was notified. She told me that if I wanted she could perscribe something, but her best advice was "Just cry"
I was on vacation from work to day, but kept busy doing some power cleaning. So today was an ok day.
I do have two siblings. big brother and little brother. I have the task of handling her finances. They were both helpful when we had to make the arraingments and clean out her apartment. Now we are planning on what we want at her Life Celebration we will hold in October. Her birthday is Oct 10th and we wanted to have a celebration which would not be as somber and more of her siblings and their families would be able to attend. We are planning a BBQ at a local park. Mom loved BBQ. I want to do a butterfly release. My older brother and his family are making a photo display of her life.
It will feel good to celebrate her life....it's beautiful what you are all doing.

You will be in my thoughts tomorrow when you take Ray to the moseleum. I know it will be hard.