Holly,
Been there, done that, times 2. As a single father of two young men with Autism and mild/moderate and moderate/severe retardation, I can tell you that "this too shall pass." You are doing the right thing by focusing on what is best for your son. Most appointments I have are for the boys and they come in pairs, (never could get the two schools to even have the same vactation periods!) You and I can sit down sometime onboard and I can give you an attentive ear that has 20 years of thoughts and wisdom about special ed and making resources available. For now, continue to do as you are doing and hang in there! Hugs are always given freely to those who want and need them!