Married Disney lovers

[ChocoKat]

I guess I am part of this group too!
DH (35) and I (28) haven been married for 8 whole years and still no kids. We tried at the beginning, but it didn't work out. Now we just enjoy having each other and the freedom of being DINKS . We go to Disney World as often as we can and we travel all over the country and Europe as well when the budget allows it.

Most of our friends have at least 2 kids already, so we go with them to Disney World, and even though it is incredibly cute, I don't think I could enjoy myself the same way I do now if we had kids in tow.

We can have flash trips on a whim, go to all 4 parks in one day, change plans, etc and we really enjoy it.

We get asked the whole "When are you having kids?" question very often and it is true, it never stops, but I just tell them "We probably never will" and that's that. Could be true, it was really bad when we tried, but who knows, we could get lucky and have a kid at some point. For now we are not even worrying about it and having a blast!!!

 

[moiraesfate]

We decided before we got married, we didn't want to have children either. A few people have asked us but we aren't really hounded and when we tell them no, they respect our decision and tell us it was a good idea to figure it out before we got married. We got married when we were both 34 and maybe if we had gotten married younger, we may have had kids by now but it's just not our thing. We both like kids but we like the fact that they eventually go home. I have a niece and my DH has 2 so it's not like we are robbing our parents of grandkids. We have a dog and that's enough for us and it's so easy to pack her up and take her to my mother's when we go on vacation. We both sowed our wild oats while we were single but want to enjoy life together and travel. It's so much easier to pick up and go when we want, go out to dinner, etc. Almost every single one of our married friends has kids/babies and a few got pregnant only months after being married. If that's your thing, great but I see the problems they have with baby sitters, day care, money, etc. Like alot of people have posted here and on another thread..call me selfish, but..

Wow, I couldn't agree with you more.

Its just getting aggravating that everyone keeps pointing out how old I am and that I need to have kids soon. Trying to explain that we don't think we have kids is like pulling teeth.

It just seems like such a disruption to my life, not an addition. I've never planned to have children in my entire life. Though I do love my nephew a great deal, he goes home and I can do whatever the heck I want after he's gone.

As my sister said to me once... "Its one thing to be auntie because you can spoil them and have fun, its another thing to have them 24/7".

However, our Disney vacation isn't just going to be us. It looks like it will be my sister, nephew, sister's boyfriend, hubby's parents, sister, and nieces. It will be a heck of alot of fun and it will give them time to get to know each other too, since our families haven't met before (hubby and I met over the internet and got married 7 years later with me immigrating to the US from Canada).

I'm so excited.

 

[ORD2KOA]

Like alot of people have posted here and on another thread..call me selfish, but..

For some reason, everybody wants to judge everyone else's life. While I always thought overpopulation of the world was a problem, I never judged someone who needed to procreate. If that's what makes them happy, so be it, ya know?

I can tell you from personal experience that life can be full and wonderful without children. Only the small-minded question the motives of those of us who are childless by choice, and their words are especially hurtful to those who are childless not by choice.

 

[ChocoKat]

For some reason, everybody wants to judge everyone else's life. While I always thought overpopulation of the world was a problem, I never judged someone who needed to procreate. If that's what makes them happy, so be it, ya know?

I can tell you from personal experience that life can be full and wonderful without children. Only the small-minded question the motives of those of us who are childless by choice, and their words are especially hurtful to those who are childless not by choice.

THANK YOU!
That is just how I feel.
I have a co-worker whose goal in life is to have 6 kids. That's all she ever talks about, and you know, it is fine, and I am happy for her and hope she gets all healthy happy babies all of the 6 times.

But I don't appreciate when people want to judge me without even knowing my situation, because I don't have any kiddoes. What if I just don't feel like it? So sue me! I send money to Doctors Without Borders, Unicef, etc and I'll probably adopt if I truly can't have kids, so a boy or a girl in need of a family can have a loving home.

Until then, just keep your nose out of my business... geez!

 

[oeshpdog2]

THANK YOU!
That is just how I feel.
I have a co-worker whose goal in life is to have 6 kids. That's all she ever talks about, and you know, it is fine, and I am happy for her and hope she gets all healthy happy babies all of the 6 times.

But I don't appreciate when people want to judge me without even knowing my situation, because I don't have any kiddoes. What if I just don't feel like it? So sue me! I send money to Doctors Without Borders, Unicef, etc and I'll probably adopt if I truly can't have kids, so a boy or a girl in need of a family can have a loving home.

Until then, just keep your nose out of my business... geez!

We are with you. There have been times where we want to stop when asked "why we don't have kids" and say..."Well you know...since the cancer and tumor, we were told we would not be able to have children even though we thought we probably wanted to have our own child, but thanks for asking and bringing all of that up."

But...we don't. We are much more diplomatic. We just never thought there would be those who are now critical of us because we adore Walt Disney World and low and behold we don't have any little ones.

 

[ChocoKat]

Oh don't get me started about going to Disney World.
Whenever I go people say: "But you have no kids! That is so weird!"
Yeah it is weird to want to have fun once you leave college and get a real job and get married. I must be completely bananas to want to do cool stuff while I am still young and not wait until I retire.

Also apparently I am insane because I enjoy the company of my husband so much, that after 8 years we still make a point of having lunch together since our offices are close by. But these are the same people that complain non-stop about their kids, and how they NEED alone time at least twice a week away from their significant other because they truly can't stand them for that long.

Sometimes I think some people are just jealous because we get to be big kids and enjoy our adulthood .

But I am proud to say I love Disney World and I have a blast each and every single time!

 

[ORD2KOA]

Oh don't get me started about going to Disney World.
Whenever I go people say: "But you have no kids! That is so weird!"
Yeah it is weird to want to have fun once you leave college and get a real job and get married. I must be completely bananas to want to do cool stuff while I am still young and not wait until I retire.

Also apparently I am insane because I enjoy the company of my husband so much, that after 8 years we still make a point of having lunch together since our offices are close by. But these are the same people that complain non-stop about their kids, and how they NEED alone time at least twice a week away from their significant other because they truly can't stand them for that long.

Sometimes I think some people are just jealous because we get to be big kids and enjoy our adulthood .

But I am proud to say I love Disney World and I have a blast each and every single time!

AMEN!!!!! (Married 36 years -- I can count on one hand the number of marriages in our circle that lasted as long as ours has.)

Nancy

 

[disneychick0412]

Can I join your little group here???
I'm 28 and so is DH. We have not entirely ruled out the possibility of
kids, but know that we are not ready right now. The way other people act, you would think we were 45. I can't count the number of times people have said, "How old are you now? You don't want to wait too much longer?"

It's just nobody's business. Although I do feel guilty that I have not produced a grandchild for my parents yet. (They don't make me feel that way, just my own guilt.)

And I agree, Disney without kids seems like it is so much easier, than
lugging around a bunch of stuff and making those bathroom stops every 5 minutes and spending all your time in Fantasyland.

 

[ChocoKat]

Can I join your little group here???
I'm 28 and so is DH. We have not entirely ruled out the possibility of
kids, but know that we are not ready right now. The way other people act, you would think we were 45. I can't count the number of times people have said, "How old are you now? You don't want to wait too much longer?"

It's just nobody's business. Although I do feel guilty that I have not produced a grandchild for my parents yet. (They don't make me feel that way, just my own guilt.)

And I agree, Disney without kids seems like it is so much easier, than
lugging around a bunch of stuff and making those bathroom stops every 5 minutes and spending all your time in Fantasyland.

I know!! I am 28 too, isn't it hilarious?
"Isn't it about time you two have kids?" "You know, you don't want to wait until it is too late" blah blah blah...

Sometimes people are just plain ole weird.

 

[disneychick0412]

I know!! I am 28 too, isn't it hilarious?
"Isn't it about time you two have kids?" "You know, you don't want to wait until it is too late" blah blah blah...

Sometimes people are just plain ole weird.

I am so excited to have found someone who understands!!
Finally, I just had to step back and say "Wait a minute! I'm still young!"

My parents and DH's parents do not bother us about it. DH's parents already have 4 grandkids, so it is not some new thing to them. And my parents know that it is our decision, although I know they would be very,very, very excited! My 19 year old sister is bugging me about it, as do some of the people I work with.

 

[Disney Dreams]

(sneaks in the side door) Can I join?

DH and I are in our late 30s.

We have been married 10 years next month and have had APs for the last 5 years. I ADORE all things Disney.

"It's so funny you 2 have APs since you have no kids!"
"You go to DL alone? Without kids? Just adults?"
"Uh... what do you do at DL without kids?"

For our 10 year wedding anniversary we were going to go on a trip to Paris (we got engaged at the Eiffel Tower), but with the dollar not doing so great, DH suggested, "Hey, how about we go to WDW!?"

We haven't been in 12 years, are dying to see the AK and are splurging on first-class accommodations, etc to spoil ourselves for our anniversary.

"But you don't have kids..."
"You are going where for your anniversary??"
"What an odd trip choice with no kids."
"Don't you want to do that when you 2 have kids? Btw, when...?" (Tell them what they win for finishing THAT question, Bob!)

We chose to wait 8 (well, 5 became 6 became....) years to have kids and then have been dealing with some challenges in having kids the last two. At the moment, it is a VERY sensitive topic for me that usually leads to tears and our upcoming anniversary trip to WDW (yes, just us DINKS) is the shining light that keeps me smiling these days.

We are staying at the AKL with a room looking right our on the Savannah (we may never leave!) for the first half of our stay and waterview at the Yacht Club for the second half (got married on the water, honeymoon was a cruise, I love water, etc...).

All of our friends who have been start with, "Well, we took the kids to see....." Would LOVE to hear / share adult fun stuff to do at WDW. (After I get my picture taken with all the characters, that is!!! Yes, the truth is I just a big kid (at heart anyway)!

Thanks for this thread,
Dreams

P.S. Aahhhh! Does that counter down there read less than 2 weeks?!?! There must be a million things to do to get ready, no?

 

[ChocoKat]

(sneaks in the side door) Can I join?

DH and I are in our late 30s.

We have been married 10 years next month and have had APs for the last 5 years. I ADORE all things Disney.

"It's so funny you 2 have APs since you have no kids!"
"You go to DL alone? Without kids? Just adults?"
"Uh... what do you do at DL without kids?"

For our 10 year wedding anniversary we were going to go on a trip to Paris (we got engaged at the Eiffel Tower), but with the dollar not doing so great, DH suggested, "Hey, how about we go to WDW!?"

We haven't been in 12 years, are dying to see the AK and are splurging on first-class accommodations, etc to spoil ourselves for our anniversary.

"But you don't have kids..."
"You are going where for your anniversary??"
"What an odd trip choice with no kids."
"Don't you want to do that when you 2 have kids? Btw, when...?" (Tell them what they win for finishing THAT question, Bob!)

We chose to wait 8 (well, 5 became 6 became....) years to have kids and then have been dealing with some challenges in having kids the last two. At the moment, it is a VERY sensitive topic for me that usually leads to tears and our upcoming anniversary trip to WDW (yes, just us DINKS) is the shining light that keeps me smiling these days.

We are staying at the AKL with a room looking right our on the Savannah (we may never leave!) for the first half of our stay and waterview at the Yacht Club for the second half (got married on the water, honeymoon was a cruise, I love water, etc...).

All of our friends who have been start with, "Well, we took the kids to see....." Would LOVE to hear / share adult fun stuff to do at WDW. (After I get my picture taken with all the characters, that is!!! Yes, the truth is I just a big kid (at heart anyway)!

Thanks for this thread,
Dreams

P.S. Aahhhh! Does that counter down there read less than 2 weeks?!?! There must be a million things to do to get ready, no?

OMG! You are gonna LOVE IT!!!
DH and I stayed at the AKL for our 7th anniversary, Savannah view . It was one of the most magical trips we have taken. We didn't have a honeymoon when we got married, (we were sooo broke! ), so we went all out for our anniversary once we managed to get all our ducks in a row.

Boy was it fun! We even had an amazing amount of magic thrown our way at every single turn. Oh I so recommend California Grille for dinner if you can swing it, so romantic and such great food! Jiko is not to be missed either, Boma is so much fun as well!!

There is nothing like hanging out on your veranda watching the animals after a day in the parks, having a drink at the pool bar. Go stroll around Epcot at night by Italy and France, so romantic!

The Yacht club is awesome! Stayed there last year on the concierge level. The walk to Epcot is minimal and so sweet at night!!! Nothing like a stroll holding hands after Illuminations.

We normally run around like big kids, riding stuff, playing, do some shopping, drinking, relaxing etc. We take our time or we zip through parks depending on our energy levels, we skip rides if lines are too long or just use fast passes and do shows while we wait. We take tons of beautiful pictures too.

You'd think we are all 7 years old sometimes though, getting all excited to see the characters and have our picture taken. At first I was very worried of getting in line when there were kids around, since I just didn't want to get chastised for being the "bad adult" holding one space in line in front of a child.

But then I figured, well I paid the price for admission, I waited properly and patiently in line, so... why not?! The characters seem to get a kick out of it too and they really interact with me a bunch.

We now have an annual trip with friends for the Food and Wine Fest, adults only, of course. We run amok the parks for a whole weekend and it is so much fun! Makes me question the sanity and general vitality of the people I know that won't do Disney because "It's for kids only"

 

[disneychick0412]

(sneaks in the side door) Can I join?

DH and I are in our late 30s.

We have been married 10 years next month and have had APs for the last 5 years. I ADORE all things Disney.

"It's so funny you 2 have APs since you have no kids!"
"You go to DL alone? Without kids? Just adults?"
"Uh... what do you do at DL without kids?"

For our 10 year wedding anniversary we were going to go on a trip to Paris (we got engaged at the Eiffel Tower), but with the dollar not doing so great, DH suggested, "Hey, how about we go to WDW!?"

We haven't been in 12 years, are dying to see the AK and are splurging on first-class accommodations, etc to spoil ourselves for our anniversary.

"But you don't have kids..."
"You are going where for your anniversary??"
"What an odd trip choice with no kids."
"Don't you want to do that when you 2 have kids? Btw, when...?" (Tell them what they win for finishing THAT question, Bob!)

We chose to wait 8 (well, 5 became 6 became....) years to have kids and then have been dealing with some challenges in having kids the last two. At the moment, it is a VERY sensitive topic for me that usually leads to tears and our upcoming anniversary trip to WDW (yes, just us DINKS) is the shining light that keeps me smiling these days.

We are staying at the AKL with a room looking right our on the Savannah (we may never leave!) for the first half of our stay and waterview at the Yacht Club for the second half (got married on the water, honeymoon was a cruise, I love water, etc...).

All of our friends who have been start with, "Well, we took the kids to see....." Would LOVE to hear / share adult fun stuff to do at WDW. (After I get my picture taken with all the characters, that is!!! Yes, the truth is I just a big kid (at heart anyway)!

Thanks for this thread,
Dreams

P.S. Aahhhh! Does that counter down there read less than 2 weeks?!?! There must be a million things to do to get ready, no?

I just wanted to do that, since you are going through a tough time. When people ask the "kid question" they need to realize that it is not that simple for some people and they might be upsetting the person by asking.

I know people think we are strange for doing Disney without kids, but we love it and that is all that matters. Being an adult is stressful and hard, but while at Disney, I love throwing all that aside and just having fun!!

I hope you have a great time on your trip and hopefully you will come back to this thread and let us know how it went! We have never stayed Deluxe as it is not in our budget right now, but I would love to stay at the Poly someday!!

 

[oeshpdog2]

These posts are very encouraging to me and my wife. I posted earlier in the thread and it is been comforting to know so many go through what we go through. My wife is a cancer survivor and a brain tumor survivor and kids are not an option. Disney has become our retreat away from "life" and some just have no idea what kind of feelings come to the surface when they ask the kind of questions they do.

Thanks for all of your posts.

 

[disneychick0412]

These posts are very encouraging to me and my wife. I posted earlier in the thread and it is been comforting to know so many go through what we go through. My wife is a cancer survivor and a brain tumor survivor and kids are not an option. Disney has become our retreat away from "life" and some just have no idea what kind of feelings come to the surface when they ask the kind of questions they do.

Thanks for all of your posts.

Bless you both! And shame on the nosy busybodies who ask questions that they shouldn't!!

 

[bluechic03]

DH and I LOOOOOOOOOOVE WDW. Ive always loved it but converted him after we got married and took a short trip before heading to Ft.Myers for his bro's wedding. He had only been once as a kid with his complaining no fun dad! He was like WOW disney is soooooooooo fun as an adult when you get to do whatever you want! Since then he's been hooked as much as I am (well maybe not AS much, I mean I'm the one on the DIS 24/7 ) Our 4 yr wedding anniversary is Wed and I cant believe it will be 4 yrs already! We also get the constant ?'s about kids now too and especially get the You're going to Disney AGAIN???? from the family....don't you guys want take kids next time??? um NO! I'm selfish jk we do want kids too and I promised DH we'd try after this April trip! maybe even at the Disney trip! sorry TMI!

 

[disneychick0412]

DH and I LOOOOOOOOOOVE WDW. Ive always loved it but converted him after we got married and took a short trip before heading to Ft.Myers for his bro's wedding. He had only been once as a kid with his complaining no fun dad! He was like WOW disney is soooooooooo fun as an adult when you get to do whatever you want! Since then he's been hooked as much as I am (well maybe not AS much, I mean I'm the one on the DIS 24/7 ) Our 4 yr wedding anniversary is Wed and I cant believe it will be 4 yrs already! We also get the constant ?'s about kids now too and especially get the You're going to Disney AGAIN???? from the family....don't you guys want take kids next time??? um NO! I'm selfish jk we do want kids too and I promised DH we'd try after this April trip! maybe even at the Disney trip! sorry TMI!

I'm excited about finding others like us too!!

Don't worry about the TMI. I have had a person from work say that I
need to come home pregnant! IMO, that is just too much up-in-our-business!!

We will be married 5 years in June.....I completely understand.

 

[ChocoKat]

These posts are very encouraging to me and my wife. I posted earlier in the thread and it is been comforting to know so many go through what we go through. My wife is a cancer survivor and a brain tumor survivor and kids are not an option. Disney has become our retreat away from "life" and some just have no idea what kind of feelings come to the surface when they ask the kind of questions they do.

Thanks for all of your posts.

for you and your wife. I so know where you guys are coming from. DH and I tried to have kids before, the result was a very traumatic incident with me nearly dead and needing 6 whole months of post-operation recovery.
After that, more surgeries, more hospitals. We tried again, and I ended up once more in the emergency OR. After all that we decided to leave it alone, enjoy each other, our families, our friends, our lives and be happy that I was still alive and healthy.

We have talked about trying once more, but neither my family or his want to place me in such an imminent danger any more for silly expectations for grandchildren and whatnot . I might build up enough courage and try again one day, but I am thinking maybe we will just invest on adopting a child that needs our love and support.

I try to be very nice and not too touchy feely if somebody that doesn't know me that well asks about the kid issue, but sometimes I really get fed up and come home and cry . I just don't feel like opening up to every single stranger that comes by and asks why I don't have kids yet. It is a very personal matter, so I just say: "I am not planning on any. Being a parent is a lifelong commitment that I am not ready to embark on."

Some people nod and just walk away, others might act sorta mad that I am being "selfish", but I really don't care of hanging around such judgmental folks, so I call it a win/win strategy

 

[Disney Dreams]

OMG! You are gonna LOVE IT!!!

Thanks for the nice post. We are sure we'll have a great time, hoping for it to be one of those dream vacations when we look back on it!

Oh I so recommend California Grille for dinner if you can swing it, so romantic and such great food! Jiko is not to be missed either, Boma is so much fun as well!!

Couldn't get Jiko ADR, but.. hmm, let's see, We have ADRs at Le Cellier, Boma, Ohana Character B-fast, Cinderella's Royal Table , Brown Derby, Crystal Palace Character B-fast, Coral Reef, The Wave (might cancel), Tusker House Character B-fast, Narcossee's (anniversary night!), Chef Mickeys (Character B-fast #4 for those keeping track hehe). And somewhere in there is 1 night of just eating at the Food and Wine Festival booths as we wander aimlessly. (Thoughts? Other than not eating for a week upon return ).

There is nothing like hanging out on your veranda watching the animals after a day in the parks, having a drink at the pool bar. Go stroll around Epcot at night by Italy and France, so romantic!

We decided the other day to splurge and we upgraded ourselves to Club Level at the AKL. I fear we are never going to leave the hotel with the animal viewing and the lounge offerings.

The Yacht club is awesome! Stayed there last year on the concierge level. The walk to Epcot is minimal and so sweet at night!!! Nothing like a stroll holding hands after Illuminations.

Having a bit of a struggle atm with the Yacht Club, sigh, but holding our ground. Stroll after Illuminations sounds perfect! A little confused at this point as to where and when each of the fireworks shows are. Trying to sort out my confusion btw Illuminations, Dreams, Wishes, SpectroMagic, Philharmagic.

We normally run around like big kids... We take tons of beautiful pictures too.

We are definitely 2 big kids. DH doesn't want "a plan" so we will just be wandering aimlessly btw all our ADRs and shows. That's our style. You mentioned pictures... we have spent the last week trying to decide if we should add $500 to our trip expenses with the purchase of a new camera. Still trying to decide. Stay tuned for the verdict on that one.

You'd think we are all 7 years old sometimes though, getting all excited to see the characters and have our picture taken....

Thank you for this. DH has drawn the line that he will NOT be taking any pictures with characters. I on the other hand..... I was feeling a bit unsure if I would look "weird" but your comments have cemented my commitment to just be a big kid and get my picture taken with every one of them!

We now have an annual trip with friends for the Food and Wine Fest...

We had no clue it was F&W festival time when we planned our trip, but are looking forward to it adding to our fun.

I just wanted to do that, since you are going through a tough time.

Thanks for the hug. There are days I can't talk about it without tears coming quicker than I know and yeah, people SO don't understand what their questions do. And ironically, this even includes family. I just feel "incomplete" or "broken" some days. DH tries to keep reminding me that we are still getting answers, not to give up, life will be great no matter what," but there are days I just feel like I am letting him down if we can't have children. Does that make any sense to anyone? Anywho... I digress....

Disney has become our retreat away from "life" and some just have no idea what kind of feelings come to the surface when they ask the kind of questions they do.

I know how you feel.

...I so know where you guys are coming from. DH and I tried to have kids before, the result was a very traumatic...

Aww, my turn to pass along a much needed Some close friends of our just adopted a beautiful little boy after 3 years of trying to become parents. He is beautiful and they are so very happy. Adoption is not right for everyone and requires a lot of research, but it can be wonderful.

Glad I found this section of DIS. Been on the Boards a long time, never knew there were others "like me" here. Nice to find you all!

- Dreams

 

[ChocoKat]

I think your dining choices are wonderful!
I have been wanting to do O'Hana for breakfast for a while. We did Crystal Palace for dinner once to celebrate DH's b-day, we got a decorated table with confetti and streamers, a cupcake and a b-day card signed by Pooh and friends, so cute!!!

You will love Boma, some people are not very thrilled if they are not into trying more exotic food, but it never disappoints us, and the servers we had every time were so sweet and attentive!

Le Cellier is pretty nice too, hmmm cheddar cheese soup! Brown and Derby we just tried for lunch a couple of months ago, I had some vegetarian dish with tofu... you could have slapped me silly it was soooo good!!!

On the Food and Wine fest, take it easy, stroll around enjoying the atmosphere, I would reserve that for a day when you are already at the Yacht Club, that way you can do a whole round trip around the world and then go back to your starting point and walk to your hotel.

Looks like your trip is bound to be magical!!!