Marie's New Years Resolution~in July

[kmp1191]

good monday morning!!
What a weekend!!! I did housework ALL weekend!!! DS room is completely rearranged and looks great! House is clean....right down to the baseboards!! I started rearranging the office (dining room), but had to cut it short, so I'll try to finish it up tonight.
Had to take DH shopping...he's out of town all week and needed some new Dockers and Polo's....that's why I had to stop redoing the office.
Hey, here's a question for ya.....my dining room is 10x10- (i think) and I want to put the laminate hard wood in here (you know, the stuff that snaps together)....is this something I could accomplish this week while DH is out of town? Otherwise, who knows when I'll be able to do it.....DS has soccer practice tonight & Thursday, and I have a friend in town Mon - Wed....just goona go out to dinner on Tuesday....and homework......so, am I biting off more than I can chew....again?

ok...gotta go get ready for work....gonna be a LOOOOONNNNGGGGG week!!

marie

 

[kimwim8]

SHE DID IT!!!

GREAT job, Marie!!! I knew you could do it!!

Gotta tell ya...I tried sweet tea in Florida and OMG was it SWEET (hence the name)!!! I had ordered an unsweetened ice tea for me and sweetened for my kids. I tried theirs and HOLY COW!! No wonder you like the stuff...it gets you hopped up for DAYS!!

Congrats on your exercise plan with DS. I love that you're both involved in it (actually all 3 of ya ).

And, yes, I'd have to admit you have the best DH!! (You probably gave him some sweet tea to get going like that!!). My DH loves when I have yard sales and make money off of our old junk...but he doesn't like to help . Actually he keeps the kids occupied...so I shouldn't say he doesn't help.

Tell your DH that you AND him are coming up north to help get my whole house organized and running smoother!! You guys are awesome!!

Hey, and where is that email I asked you for?? Don't you want your prize???

 

[CACruisin']

Just catching up on journals -- You have been BUSY (as usual )

CONGRATS on the Sweet Tea Challenge!!

and Happy Belated Birthday to your DD!

You and your DH are awesome with the garage sale and then getting your whole house clean & organized. Wanna come to CA and get my house put back together?

How are the chores going? For us, it lasts about a week. But with our goof schedules this year (three different schools means three different calendars), I am going to need them to pick there stuff.

 

[kmp1191]

Kim - you don't want me coming up there...according to DH, whenever I go on a cleaning/organizing spree, he can't find anything for weeks!! I tell him BECAUSE I PUT IT WHERE IT BELONGS!!!
Hey, thanks for MAKING me do the sweet tea challenge....I'm doing pretty good since it's finished. Some days I'll have 1 glass.....some days none! I don't go over the 1 glass a day now...and it's really only when I eat out. I've been bad these past two days though.....I've been on a coke binge!! (coca-cola!!) I had one yesterday, and one the day before. I know I shouldn't be drinking them, but I'm weak. I haven't weighed in about 3 weeks either.....I know I've gained....but I"m not worried about it. Honestly. DS and I are going to do our running tomorrow....(company in town tonight, dh out of town, toe still sore, but MUCH better)...and we are going to really start hitting it hard. He had soccer practice last night, and he was struggling....but I was SO proud....he never gave up!! I told him I don't care if he isn't the fastest runner, or if he comes in last every time....he's still a winner as long as he finishes!! He really seemed ok after that. There was another kid on the team...(brat) that REFUSED to run!!! Just flat out stood there while the other kids were doing what the coach told them what to do. His mom was really ticked. I told my son that what (brat) did was disrespectful to the coach and to his teammates. He said the kid is a jerk anyway! The coach finally told him that he could either run w/ his teammates, or he could go home and stay there, that this was a TEAM. He finally ran, but was really ticked.

Oh yeah, Amy....I did talk to the Dr. about DS weight....he is behind us 100% on a workout / diet program. He said to call him in a few weeks and let him know how it's going...he said he would recommend a diet regime if I wanted him to. DS is going to be 11 on the 28th and weighs 115lbs. When he was on the ADHD meds, he hardly ate at all, and then when we switched him to Strattera, he slowly started gaining, but then this summer, I took him off of it completely and he really gained. I know he's not the most active kid on the block.....and I know I'm not the best parent in the world either....but we're on top of it, and we will all get healthy together. DS made the comment to me after practice last night that he wants to be a good runner and maybe do a 5K one day!! I said ok....that will be our goal....we'll both work towards that! DH is almost ready for one, but I've been a slacker....

ok...gotta get back to work....not much to do...but gotta look busy anyway!!

marie

PS - Anna - the chores are going really good....surprisingly enough!! DD came to me this morning and said, "mommy, i can't feed the cat...do i still get an allowance?" i asked her why she couldn't feed the cat and she said "cuz there's no more food!" oops....
they are both doing really good about their stuff....just into week 3...so far so good!!

 

[lovinaz]

That is great that DS is giving it his all in soccer. That is a tough sport with lots of running. And kudos to you for talking to his Dr and getting the OK for what you are doing. A healthy family is a happy family and you are setting both kids up with really good habits that hopefully will last their lifetimes! I think it's great that he is interested in running. Who knows, he could go on to be a major track star or something!

How nice to be motivated to get things done. I have been in a real lazy funk lately, I need to snap out of it!

 

[kmp1191]

morning guys...hope ya'll are having a good day.
Yesterday was a bad day....not food wise....life wise. I'm not gonna get into all the details, but it felt like another monday.
the topper of the day was when my mom called last night. she's been having some tests run....general stuff is what she told me....anyway, she had a colonoscopy done yesterday and they found a tumor. they said it would be about 5 days before they would have the results....but either way, it was a large tumor (not a pollup) and would have to be removed surgically. I hate this. I hate being so far away. I hate the waiting and worring. I feel like I did when she called and told me she had breast cancer about 3 years ago. She tells me not to worry, and I say ok....yeah, right. This morning sis#1 calls and wants to talk about it. I snapped at her. Told her I hadn't even been in the shower yet, had to leave in 15 minutes and I didn't feel like talking about it! Yeah...i called her back and apologized later. I guess I'm upset....and mad. I mean....here my mom is....just turned 60 on Saturday...has survived breast cancer, but continues to smoke. I don't get it. I feel like she is being selfish for not taking better care of herself. I know people get sick....I know cancer happens in healthy people....I'm just worried.....I hate this.

ok....gotta concentrate on work now. yeah.... right.....

thanks for listening.
marie

 

[kimwim8]

Hugs to you and your family, Marie. I'll keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

Have you told your mom how much her smoking upsets you? I know some people will continue to do what they want to do...but maybe if she heard it from you?

Take care, girlie. Hang in there.

 

[kmp1191]

Yeah....she knows....we've ALL told her...we've ALL begged her to stop...especially after the breast cancer.... she says it's her life. She's right...it is her life, but it still affects us. I used to go around behind her putting out her cigarette. I'd stub them out, or run them under water....really ticked her off. Oh...our kids have even said something to her. My dd was 5 and came right out and asked her...."Mim...why do you smoke...don't you know it stinks and it will kill you??!" Didn't phase mom in the least.

thanks for the prayers....really needing them now.

marie

 

[lovinaz]

I'm sorry to hear about your mom's health issues. I don't know why people do things they know are harmful. My stepmom's mom has been undergoing chemo for lung cancer for the past 14 months and she STILL smokes. I hope everything is OK with the test results and that the surgery goes off without a hitch.

Try to keep yourself busy and think positive. And yay for calling your sister back and apologizing. Remember that she is going through the same thing, it's her mom too!

 

[kmp1191]

morning guys.
been awake for a while now. don't really think i slept.
mom has rectal cancer. she has to have an ultrasound and scope done today, and then we will know what stage it's at. either way it will have to be removed and she'll have to have radiation. we've got a long road ahead of us. she will be in the hospital a week, and about 6 weeks recovery. i will be flying up several times over the next few months to help out. i already talked to my boss, and she said no problem.
i'm thinking positive. she beat breast cancer, she will beat this.
i'm scared. i'm mad. i'm confused. i'm worried as hell. i guess i don't get it. the doctor said it's been there for a while....how long is a while?? how come they didn't find it with all the bone & tissue scans she's had? Hell, she had 8 months of chemo...i thought that was supposed to kill the cancer cells? how come they told her she was cancer free? she had her last round of chemo in march 2004.....every one of her test since then has been negative! i asked her last night if she'd been having any problems and didn't tell anyone. she said no. she just wanted to have a clean bill of health before she went back to work full time. go figure. she's doing what you're supposed to do....general maintenance.... i guess the doctor couldn't believe that she hadn't had any problems either...no weight loss, no bleeding, no anemia...NOTHING!!
ya'll don't have to do anything but pray right now....even if it's just short bullet prayers once or twice a day...
i haven't really cried yet....i'm a delayed reaction type. it was 3 days before the breast cancer hit me....5 days when my uncle died, and 4 days when my grandmother died....go figure. i'm sure that with the lack of sleep, it will hit pretty soon...
god...how do i tell the kids?!

ok....gonna go read up on this...i'll let you know more when i do.
thanks in advance guys....

marie

 

[kimwim8]

Oh, Marie. I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through right now. Please know that you are in my prayers.

If there's anything else I can do, please just ask. And definitely contact me when you want to vent, chat, cry, scream....anything.

 

[kmp1191]

thanks kim....trust me....i will!

 

[CACruisin']

I am so sorry for what you are going through. You definitely have P & PD flying your way from CA for your mom! It sounds like she is a real fighter and she will beat this too. Take care!

 

[lovinaz]

Wow, what a shock. Be sure to give yourself time to digest this information and grieve in whatever way you need to. That is wonderful that you will be able to fly up to be with her. Sometimes there is no reason, awful things happen to great people. You will get through this, we are all here to help you out in any way we can. Hang in there!

 

[kmp1191]

Hey guys....THANKS SO MUCH!!!
Good news!!!
The cancer is still encapsulated...it has not spread!! It is considered stage 1!!
The Dr. said that he feels they found it pretty early.
So far, they have decided to do the LEAST INVASIVE procedure...
They will do 4 weeks of radiation, then 2 weeks off, then do the surgery. Hopefully, that will reduce the tumor enough so they won't have to go through the abdomen..and they can do it....the other way....and laproscopically. Considering what this is....this is the best possible scenario (sp?).
I'm pretty relieved about this...as is the rest of the family! She still has a long road ahead of her....but it's a much brighter road than originally thought.

I'll talk to her tonight and let her decide when she wants me to come up.

Thanks again guys...I really needed you and you came through for me!!
I love ya'll!!
marie


oh...ps - they put some kind of blocker thing on the server at work, so I can't DIS at work anymore. I guess some pervo downstairs was going to some XXX places.....EWWWWWWWW!!!

ps-s - had a meeting with the teacher at school this morning. DS will be going back on the ADHD meds. I'm not going to put him back on Strattera...I want something that will work a little better. She said he has NO focus at all, isn't turning any work in, and is in another world most of the time, and is easily distracted. I also told her that I wanted him to bring EVERY book home EVERY night...he's not going to be watching TV, or playing video games, and he LOVES to read....so he can read his Science book, or his Social Studies book. Yep, mean mommie strikes again!!

ok....gotta get homework done, then soccer practice.
again....thanks guys! I'll keep you updated on mom, & ds as we go along....

marie

 

[kimwim8]

YEAH MARIE!!!

If she's gotta have cancer, that's the way to do it! Sounds like some prayers were answered already.

No DISing at work?? You need a NEW job!!!

And as far as your DS...good move meeting with the teacher. Hopefully you guys can work together to help him out.

Take care! We love you too!

 

[CACruisin']

That is wonderful news from the Dr. Good thing your mom went in for general maintainance and they found this when they did. I will still be sending plenty of your way for continued good results.

Major bummer about no DISing at work!

Glad you had a good meeting with DS's teacher. I hear you on the bring EVERY book home EVERY night thing. DD's may be bright, but organized? Not at all! We have a house rule about no TV/computer games during the week during the school year. It does seem to help. You have gotten your kids to do their chores for 3 weeks , you'll get through this too.

Take Care.

 

[lovinaz]

That is really positive news about your mom! What a relief that they caught it so early. And yay for her, being so proactive!

I hope DS finds a med that will work for him.

Bummer you can't DIS at work anymore! I wouldn't be able to do it at all during the week if that happened to me!

So with all the other stuff going on, how is your eating? Have you lost, gained, stayed the same? Or maybe you don't care anymore?

 

[kmp1191]

Kim ~ I hear ya...if ya gotta have...keep it in one place, zap the $&%! out of it, and get it out of there!! The only thing I didn't know was that she has to have radiation for 4 weeks....right now, they say, everyday for 4 weeks!! ...that has me concerned...but she's the toughest woman I know!!

Anna ~ Yeah....3 weeks!!! they like that allowance. I even forgot to pay them this past weekend and they didn't even notice!!! They do notice that if they put their stuff away, then they don't have to dig it out of the trash!!! OH....dd left one of her shoes (flip-flops) out and the dog DEMOLISHED it!!! we only found the strap!!! She was really ticked!! But she knew it was her own fault!!!
I like the idea of no tv/video games during the school week....gonna have to put that into effect too!!

Amy ~ Well... the weight...it's a gain. I haven't run this week...I've eaten everything in sight....my clothes are all tight! I don't dare step on the scale because that will only piss me off even more!! I told ds that we are running in the morning!! he said ok!

Yeah...no DISing at work has really sucked these last few days! It's not like I'm searching porn!! I can't even play solitare on my computer either...someone wiped that out a few months ago!! I told my boss I was gonna bring a casino/poker/blackjack game and download it!!!
Hopefully I will be getting another job soon....IN ANOTHER STATE!!!

ok....DH got home this afternoon...major stress relief there...I'll actually sleep tonight!!!
I'm gonna go sit w/ him for a few minutes...then I'm going to bed....5 hrs of sleep in 3 days....yeah....i'm getting a little cranky!!
nite all...talk to you tomorrow!!
oh...and thanks again for all the p&pd!! you guys are the best! keep mom in your prayers and I'll update as I know more.

marie

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Marie--im sorry to hear the news about your mom, but sounds like the good news is already coming!
hang in there and come here to vent whenever you need :