And again, I will say that waiting longer than 30 minutes in ANY line to see ANY attraction after paying over $100 bucks to get in is just crazy.
An over crowded park just frustrates people - especially the children, many of whom we witnessed being almost frantically rushed from one attraction to the next so that the parents could feel like they got their moneys worth.
What an odd thing to say for someone who's been going to theme parks for years. I too have been going forever, to Six Flags, Disney, and many others, and it's always been the case that you will pay to get in, then wait to ride the good rides. Space Mountain we'd wait an hour for back when we were kids... Millennium Force at Cedar Point, Goliath at Magic Mountain, you name it, any good ride typically builds to an hour wait.
As a teenager, that never bothered me. We'd hang out and chat... after all you're out with friends at a theme park, so you wait it out. As an adult, I'm more travel savvy, and by doing a bit of research, can avoid most lines. For example we just went the week before you did, and had quite the opposite experience! There are always going to be massive lines at theme parks... the trick is to find ways to not be the ones standing in them.
We got on so much so fast it was like bouncing from ride to ride with no time in between! Rope drop time was amazing and we got on so much, then used our Fast Passes, then other tools and strategies to do more. Basically we didn't just show up, walk up to Space Mountain at noon, see an hour wait, and conclude that Disney World sucks now. We'd show up early and head for Space Mountain first, then hit up Buzz and the Astro Orbiter, then have a FastPass ready to go on the Mine Train, Haunted Mansion, and See Anna & Elsa... So far this is constant attraction after attraction with no waiting. Then we'd have a lunch booked, and then afterwards we'd use our "extra" Fast Passes that we could book whatever of at a Kiosk, while doing Sorcerers quests or doing less busy things.
It's all in how you approach it. You've gone so many times and been on the disboards for so long I don't see why you had no idea crowds would be what they are. I actually thought crowds were moderate. Felt like lower crowds than a couple years ago. Or maybe FastPass+ just made it feel this way, since we spent so much less time waiting in line now.
I thought the food prices in park were on par with other theme parks, for food that was much better. I mean we had a Croc Madame for breakfast, it was a really good French bread, thick piece of ham, fresh egg and fruit... at a theme park. It was $20 a plate, but last time we went to Six Flags you pay $13 and get frozen nuggets and fries. No comparison. Here for $13 you can get fajitas at Pecos Bills, barbeque chicken at the Flametree, and so on.
And our CMs were amazing. We had a great time. Every CM we talked to did everything they could to meet whatever request we were discussing, plus some.
I wasn't looking for dirt, but nothing jumped out at me as dirty.
You can pay more and get express access to the rides, I think it's a VIP tour or something like that. It's not cheap though.
Hopefully you have a better time on your next trip! Look for the VIP Tour on the Disney site. Since it's only the two of you, it could be worth it!