LTT waitress said WHAT????

[phyllis1966]

Most reasonable explanation to me:

"Nick" or "Nic" was her nickname when she was a little girl. She accidentally said "boy"... you know, a verbal slip.

She took the laughing as being "laughed at" not "laughed with". As a "Bigger Woman" she may have been (probably was) the object of ridicule in the past and would be sensitive to, what she perceived to be, people laughing at her expense.

I doubt she was sharing her earlier life as a boy.

This theory does have merit, but I dunno...I kinda think if she merely said "boy" accidentally instead of "girl" she would have laughed with the family after realizing what she had said. Her demeanor following the exchange leads me to believe it wasn't a Freudian slip.

For the record, I'm raising DD to know that we are all different and those differences are part of what makes this life wonderful...DD just says "it's OK to be different" (one of her favorite books when she was younger). I've had lots of great conversations with servers over the years, especially at WDW, but this really was a bit too personal in that setting.

 

[FreddyBeach]

This theory does have merit, but I dunno...I kinda think if she merely said "boy" accidentally instead of "girl" she would have laughed with the family after realizing what she had said. Her demeanor following the exchange leads me to believe it wasn't a Freudian slip.

Her demeanor was an interpretation from someone who then told someone else who then told us.

Details change as a story is retold.

At first the parents laughed but quickly realized she was not kidding.

This could mean that they realized it was not intended as a joke. This also supports my notion that she might have been offended by the laughter.

Do you really think that it's more reasonable to think that the waitress blurted out an EXCEPTIONALLY personal tidbit like this, or that she said "boy" accidentally and took the reaction personally?

We've all had experiences with people giving us too much information, but that is just too much to believe. The simplest answer is usually the right one.

Mike "Mr. Know-it-all" in the Maritimes.

 

[LandBoatRide]

OK, OK enough, lol.

For the record, Theresa is a server at LTT. She is a woman. She has always been a woman. She is married and has children. I know her whole family. Her daughter looks incredibly like her. They are her biological children. She is not a trannie/TG. She is a very nice middle-aged lady who works very hard and supports her family.

I am tempted to ask her if she said this to a table and what she meant (bad humor? misquoted? drank too much disney water???). I probably won't let her know that her sexual organs are being discussed publicly on a forum like this and that she is "bigger".

A moderator needs to edit this post. This is a person we are talking about, not an animatronic. Since when are DIsney cast members celebrities open to such public scrutiny? Sigh.

p.s. I know it's a funny subject, etc etc and do not mean to be preachy or inhibit free speech. Im just glad my sexual organs are not being discussed on the internet. This is a tacky post, especially since the poster did not even hear the exchange.

 

[Erin1700]

For the record...theresa is NOT the name of the server they had, I just asked them again. And the family nor I have anything against the servers life choices, just object to where it was shared and in front of a small boy.

 

[cmonroe]

This is fairly simple:

Erin said that "Theresa" is not the server's name.
However, if it had been , "Theresa's" life change would have remained in private had she/he not said what she said. By blurting this out to, in my opinion, the wrong audience, she/he made this a public discussion.

Those of you who preach tolerance should remember that one can be tolerant of another's life choices and can simultaneously disagree with them.

For either those who agree or disagree, a parent likes to make the choice of when it is best to address something with their children. Sometimes, unfortunately we do not have control over this timing, but one would not expect WDW to be the place where this discussion takes place.

 

[Blaze12]

For either those who agree or disagree, a parent likes to make the choice of when it is best to address something with their children. Sometimes, unfortunately we do not have control over this timing, but one would not expect WDW to be the place where this discussion takes place.

Well said!!! Ultimately, regardless of what truly was intended by the remark, bottom line is this is how it was interpretted, and I am sure the parents were not prepared for questions from their child on the matter. It is their decision as parents to decide when to discuss these types of matters with their children.


That being said, who knows what was ment by the comment. Maybe the woman ment girl but said boy. Lord knows I say things I dont mean all the time because I am thinking of something else at the time. She could have been preoccupied with something else going on at work or her life, who knows. The behavior afterwards seems strange though, but oh well, I guess we will never know. But if it was intended the way the parents said it was, then it was 100% inappropriate in my opinion.

 

[LandBoatRide]

This is fairly simple:

Erin said that "Theresa" is not the server's name.
However, if it had been , "Theresa's" life change would have remained in private had she/he not said what she said. By blurting this out to, in my opinion, the wrong audience, she/he made this a public discussion.

Those of you who preach tolerance should remember that one can be tolerant of another's life choices and can simultaneously disagree with them.

For either those who agree or disagree, a parent likes to make the choice of when it is best to address something with their children. Sometimes, unfortunately we do not have control over this timing, but one would not expect WDW to be the place where this discussion takes place.

LOL, this is even MORE simple: "Theresa" is not a transgendered person. There are no trannies at LTT. Period. If "Theresa's" bad joke was "My name was Pluto too when I was a puppy", would that mean she was indeed born a dog? Or was she just born with bad jokes????

For the record, one more time, there are no transgendered cast members working at LTT.

 

[KimKamMom]

I guess I'm interested in all the "TMI" responses. I teach young children, and am about to be a parent myself. I can see how this might be something you wouldn't want to address with a child in the MK, but these kind of occurances are real and moments when you can have an authentic conversation with the child. Children will learn these things, (I can see why the MK is not where you want to have the conversation, but life can get in the way of other plans KWIM?) Instead of shuddering at the topic answer the question (if the child even asks) with something appropriate for the child's maturity.

I've been teaching young children for 20 years and have been a parent for almost 9 years. This CM (IMO) was out of line. No "young child" is developmentally ready for this information. Use the teachable moment for line-cutters or those folks who are especially respectable. Not something so far out of their world.

 

[angelmav]

LBR, I find it difficult to believe that anyone, yourself included coud say that for certain. Not only that, but with the constant turnover in staff, that ascertion would cover alot of people. Either way, the server could have diffused the situation and did not, thus leaving everyone wondering.

 

[ReneeA]

I guess I'm interested in all the "TMI" responses. I teach young children, and am about to be a parent myself. I can see how this might be something you wouldn't want to address with a child in the MK, but these kind of occurances are real and moments when you can have an authentic conversation with the child. Children will learn these things, (I can see why the MK is not where you want to have the conversation, but life can get in the way of other plans KWIM?) Instead of shuddering at the topic answer the question (if the child even asks) with something appropriate for the child's maturity.

I completely agree. My kids are now 3 & 5 and hear often that they need explained to them. Some are uncomfortable, but I want them to feel like they can come to me without the fear that I will freak out about it.

It may have been an uncomfortable moment, but nothing to get your knickers in a twist over.

 

[Viki]

Most reasonable explanation to me:

"Nick" or "Nic" was her nickname when she was a little girl. She accidentally said "boy"... you know, a verbal slip.

She took the laughing as being "laughed at" not "laughed with". As a "Bigger Woman" she may have been (probably was) the object of ridicule in the past and would be sensitive to, what she perceived to be, people laughing at her expense.

I doubt she was sharing her earlier life as a boy.

Mike in the Maritimes.

Good point and either way, it hardly seems worth caring.

I can remember back in the 1970s, with the Stonewall riots flashing on the TV, asking my parents what THAT was about. They got all weird (kids pick that up). If they had just said, gay people exist and they're fighting for their rights, that would just about have been the end of the discussion for me - I was young

I do know some kids worry they might switch genders (though it's hard tom imagine that being an issue by the time a kids 10), but that's easily handled by saying it's something you would have to really want and spend years doing. That's about it, no morality, no big discussion, just the facts.

And when someone tells me they're transgendered my mind does not flash to medical procedures what's that about?

 

[pilferk]

While I will be the first to admit that such a topic is not what I would expect from a server in a family restaurant, I also have to say that some of you appear to be very pompous and arrogant! "I don't want to have personal conversations with my server" indeed!

*SNAP! SNAP!* Bring me my drink! Bring me my refill! Smile at my darlings! Make sure you acknowledge whatever "special" event I am celebrating but don't DARE tell me anything about yourself or make polite conversation! *SNAP* Bring me my bill so I don't miss Illuminations or Wishes! *SNAP*

On the contrary: Polite conversation is fine. Social pleasantries are fine. What the server said was a bit more in depth than that.

 

[Susan555]

I've been teaching young children for 20 years and have been a parent for almost 9 years. This CM (IMO) was out of line. No "young child" is developmentally ready for this information. Use the teachable moment for line-cutters or those folks who are especially respectable. Not something so far out of their world.

I just found this thread on the first page, and I had to comment on this one. I have nothing to say regarding the server because I wasn't there and don't know what happened - BUT - I disagree with your statement that "no young child is developmentally ready for such information." My kids are 6 and 7 and have known about the whole gay/bi/straight thing for several years, and they also know about transvestites and transgendered people - it hasn't seemed to bother them or cause any emotional turmoil at all. Quite the contrary. It actually came about when there were some transvestites on Deal or No Deal and my daughter said that those women looked like men. She had lots of questions, and my son wandered in to enter the conversation. I took that as a good opportunity to explain the transvetites and transgenered people, how they're different, and how some transgendered people go through surgeries and medical treatments to transition to the other gender. They thought about it for a minute, then we went on watching tv. NO BIG DEAL. Why must parents make so much out of things and assume children can't handle "sensitive information"? It's only sensationalistic to US - to them, it's just another thing they're learning about.

 

[SnackyStacky]

And when someone tells me they're transgendered my mind does not flash to medical procedures what's that about?

I see your point, and I can see how some people wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

But the fact remains that we don't all think in the same terms and along the same lines. It's as simple as that.

This is a family board, so I won't get into what thought popped into my mind - but suffice it to say if I can't talk about it here. As such, I wouldn't want to talk about it at the dinner table either. It's not anything bad - but it is in fact something medical.

Doesn't make weird. It just means I think differently than you do.

 

[Pumbaa_]

This thread really has turned away from a discussion of WDW restaurants to another issue that would more appropriately discussed on the CB.

Please feel free to post on the CB and continue discussing it there