Looking For Control Freaks & Worry Warts too (Part 2)

[soontobewed07]

Well girls it has been a crazy couple of days here. I am so stressed out I could pull my hair out.

My Cousin (20) went into pre term labor yesterday. She is only 30 weeks along and they cannot get the contractions to stops they could only get them to be less intense. They have given her steroid shots and will stop the medication tomorrow to see if things stop or stay the same, but if they don’t they are going to let her labor and give birth to her 3lb baby. I was crying all morning until I finally got to see her yesterday. To top it all off my aunt (her mother) was having a kidney stone removed surgically. So we had to tell her all of that when she woke up from surgery. My heart is just breaking we are so close and have been thru this entire pregnancy I just want her and the baby to be okay. Thanks for listening.

O.K now onto Dis matters.

Cammie- Your Baby Lauren is living my life (almost) my parents divorced when I was 3 and we call my dad a 4 hour dad. He is only there when it is convenient to him. I didn’t realize this until I was about 14 years old. I finally had enough and confronted him and my step mother. I refused to go over on the weekends anymore and basically since have let him make contact. My mother was always honest with me and always told me that our relationship was just that OURS! She taught me that I needed to discuss these things with him, but she would be there to listen. To this day I still am not close to him even though they now have my sister (who I adore). I let him make the moves I realize he will never change but it takes learning that on your own. I hope this story helps.



Kara- Try robitussin DM it helps clear out that gunk in your chest. Sleep Sleep Sleep.
Renee- I think we were separated at birth. We think so much alike I wish you lived up here.




Laura- As for a trip what about Italy? Nov. is low season there and you can get a really good deal on a package for about 1600/person. DH and I went there (he grew up there) and it was amazing we were engaged there too. It is nothing but relaxing and beautiful.
Here is the hotel we stayed in http://www.aventinohotels.com/sa/inglese/hotel.htm
Our room http://www.aventinohotels.com/sa/inglese/galleria.htm
http://www.alitaliavacations.com/ST...alia&utm_medium=airlines&utm_campaign=website

 

[soontobewed07]

No Jenny Craig here either. I just haven't had time. Also the Doc thinks I will be fighting a loosing battle. I have to go see the endocrinologist first and see if there is something they can do to help.

 

[Camster0307]

Jillian - I'll keep your cousin and her baby in my prayers. I hope everything turns out o.k. That is so scary.

And thanks for telling your story - it does help. It seems like you grew up with the right attitude.

 

[karajeboo]

Jillian - oh, my thoughts and prayers are with your cousin. How scary to be going through that! I really hope all works out. Just remember that with all the technology around today, I'm sure things will work out!

I like your advice to Cammie, "She taught me that I needed to discuss these things with him, but she would be there to listen. "

And that place in Rome - holy guacamole! Beautiful! You got engaged there? Awww, how awesome!

 

[MAGICFOR2]

Wow, I just wanted to do a quick check in, but you gals are really dealing with some stuff.

Jillian, my prayers are with your cousin and aunt and the little baby. That is so hard to deal with.

Wow! What a hotel!

Kara, I hope you keep getting your rest and feel better. Those shirt designs are adorable!

Lindsay is the DIL who lives with us. Although we are really close and she treats us fine, she is the one who I described yelling at my son Mark about the kids. I guess I could be more protective of him, but it is THEIR relationship, and they will have to work it out. I have spoken to both of them about some things, and I'm saying lots of prayers. I am really terrified of who she will become if they move away to Texas. I see her being really negative to little Myles, too - and they wonder why he is acting out. We do put our 2 cents in there sometimes. This is the family in my TR.

The DIL who wouldn't let us see our little Mason is Dana. They don't live with us, but have moved back to town. We had a heart to heart, and worked out some misunderstandings. I watch little Mason two afternoons a week, and she stays and has dinner with us after work on those days. She is really trying now. We have each talked with our son Ryan, and he of course thinks most of the problems are because of things Lindsay has said. I told him I had been judging by actions, and that I told Lindsay we wouldn't be gossiping about Dana - period. My life was so simple when I had just my two little boys.

Pam, glad you checked in - I'll go back over your trip

Cammie, sounds like you have given Lauren alot of healthy tools, and the time is coming when she will start realizing things for herself and create her own relationship with her dad. It is too bad that it hurts so much.

I loved TSM too! What a blast!

Renee, what about a cruise? I think its the best thing we ever did. The service was excellent, and it was so relaxing. We are going to Puerta Vallarta in Sept with Ryan and Dana - I've heard alot of good things - We chose the Pacific side because it's hurricane season and there seem to be more in the gulf of Mexico than the other side. We're staying at Dreams Puerta Vallarta. All inclusive with airfare was the same price as just the cruise we were going to take.
http://www.expedia.com/pub/agent.dll/qscr=dspv/htid=8276

Okay, I'll be back - thanks for the warning, right?

 

[karajeboo]

Tammie - ok, now I know who is who! And btw, your son and DIL are both beautiful!

The screen enclosure looks awesome! But becaue one end isn't closed in yet, the bugs are flying in and hanging out in the top. There are 3 huge butterflies up there and I don't know how to get them out! Ally is mesmerized by the doggie door for Bucky. She's already crawling in/out to "teach" him.

I think I'm going to bed now - Jeff will be home soon and he'll be mad that I didn't take out any meat for dinner. He loves to cook as long as I defrost the meat during the day. I'm thinking meatloaf tonight - good comfort food! And he makes a mean meatloaf!

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

Well girls it has been a crazy couple of days here. I am so stressed out I could pull my hair out.

My Cousin (20) went into pre term labor yesterday. She is only 30 weeks along and they cannot get the contractions to stops they could only get them to be less intense. They have given her steroid shots and will stop the medication tomorrow to see if things stop or stay the same, but if they don’t they are going to let her labor and give birth to her 3lb baby. I was crying all morning until I finally got to see her yesterday. To top it all off my aunt (her mother) was having a kidney stone removed surgically. So we had to tell her all of that when she woke up from surgery. My heart is just breaking we are so close and have been thru this entire pregnancy I just want her and the baby to be okay. Thanks for listening.

O.K now onto Dis matters.




Renee- I think we were separated at birth. We think so much alike I wish you lived up here.

Jillian - I'm sure this is a really scary moment for your and your family. I will definately keep her/you in my prayers. Now, I did have two friends who went through the same thing. One at 28 weeks, (twins) and one at 30 weeks. In both cases - moms & babies came out okay. 3 weeks in ICU for one, 4 weeks for the other - babies fine except jaundice and other expected complications (like learning to suck, etc), but very healthy to this day. SO... hopefully it won't come to anything, but those steroid shots they give do work wonders. And from my friends experience, they generally don't give them to you unless they feel delivery is going to happen - so just to put that in your mind.

Medical tech. has changed so much from year to year. One of the above was 4 years ago and the other was almost 2. I think your cousin will have a lot of issues. It will probably be very upsetting for her to go home with no baby - maybe - so an extra ear (which I'm sure you will be there for her anyway) will probably be good. Also anything you can do to help out. I know it really stressed my friends with all the back and forth.

Cammie might have better suggestions (and I'd actually be interested to know too) on how to helpful in such a time. I wish I lived closer too. You sure sound like you could use a big old hug today. So sorry you are having all this going on, but I will definately keep you in our prayers.

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

Oh Renee! Don't beat yourself up - you're not alone! [/img]

Thanks so much for making me feel better and your suggestions. I know it - everything that you say, but for some reason I just have a problem applying it. I have the best intentions each day that I will do better tomorrow. I think maybe I am overwhelming myself by trying to think in terms of a week. Maybe I should start out planning for 2 days - anyway, that is what I came up with today. I should plan tonight for 2 days. We're 5 minutes from the store, so it isn't that big of a deal. After all - it is right by all the drive thrus - and I always seem to make it there just fine. And down here in the "South" Meat & Threes are really popular (I had to explain this to my Ohio SIL, so it is basically you pick a meat, 3 sides, and bread - homecooked food, Fried Chicken, Fish, Meatloaf, that sort of thing) I can get all 3 of us dinner from there for $10. That is part of my problem. I need to stop that, but I then argue to myself I can't cook it that cheap - so I smiled when you wrote that Cammie. But I need to stop it. I need to do it myself here, because I"m sure that quality isn't the same. OKAY tomorrow - I'm going to report in that I made a plan tonight ... I promise!

Wow, you suck!

Totally kidding!

Sorry, but I had to laugh at your rant about the drive thru people knowing your voice! That's classic!

It's just too darn hot!

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Yeah, I knew the drive thru thing wouldn't slip buy you! I actually thought about that evil smiley you had a while back when I typed it. I knew you would bite! But seriously, thanks for the encouragement and you are right, part of the issue is the heat and all the bugs But mostly the heat. Like you said, I just need to find my motivation. That is my biggest hurdle. That and I like to make excuses for myself....

Did Ally get her foam finger? I hope you get to feeling better. It is not good that you are now feeling worse. Are you sure you don't need a trip to see a DR?

Everyone, thanks again guys for all the support. I don't know what I'd do with you somedays!:hugs:

 

[pbharris4]

Jillian..sorry to hear of what your cousin and aunt are going through. I hope and pray everything will go fine and hopefully the labor will stop.

My DSis said Toy Story Mania was awesome too. We got to DHS at 5:30pm and it was still raining. We had a ADR at Sci Fi at 6pm. By 7 7:30 they said all the FP were gone for the day. We'll catch it next year. SSR is ok and I've stayed there 3 or 4 times, but it's not a fave. The buses are fine if you ask me. The rooms are new and nice. I just don't like AP and the long haul there and the lack of tall trees. If I go to the MK I like VWL and if I go to Epcot/DHS I like BWV or BCV. OKW I like for the kick back and relaxing.

I think it may be cheaper for me to go back to WDW and use points then to go to the beach for 3 days. A decent beach hotel is at least $279 in VA Beach or Nags Head (and there's only 1 or 2 in Nags Head). I need to give it some serious thought. I'll have to post some pics later.

 

[Camster0307]

Tammie - There's so much more drama when girls are involved. Personally, I think you sound like a "dream" MIL! Those girls are lucky to have married into your family!

Renee - Take it one day at a time, baby!

Pam - ITA on the WDW again. Having the DVC is what allows me to even consider going away again w/Lauren. This last trip at WL: 5 nights was 70 pts. The two nights I have booked in Feb at BWV - 28 pts. Once I book the first three, I'm sure I'll still be under 70; the key is to not have a Fri or Sat. nite stay.

 

[soontobewed07]

Thank You for all of your prayers and well wishes . For Now labor has stopped they are going to keep her to make sure that it is safe for her to go home on bed rest. I am thinking of having her here as she is living with her mother until her husband (in the Army) gets his new assignment. At least Mike and I have medical training and there is just 3 of us compared to 8 of them.She is holding strong and is now trying to reach the 32 week milestone.



Renee- I am glad to hear you found a stroller that you love. I would go out and buy it but I cannot have a 4th stroller. We have one for my mother, our quattro and our maclaren.

We were engaged in Italy at Mike's parents house here is the view from where he proposed.

It was amazing even though it was dark and dreary that day!

 

[CRdisMom]

Ok, so grab a chair and let's discuss this ex issue:

Do you know how many times I have tried to "advise" him since he left five years ago? At first, I was constantly telling him what to do to give the girls what they needed. He would follow through for a couple of weeks, then resort back to his own selfish ways. It frustrated me so much, but I kept on him because I figured if I could spare the girls the pain and disappointment I needed to stay on top of him.

I was still in therapy when I first separated and I would talk to my therapist about this. You know what she said? I'm no longer responsible for his emotional relationship with his children. HE needed to take the responsibility on his own. She said it's one of the biggest problems men have when they divorce; they never realize how much they counted on their wives to keep them emotionally-connected to their children; and when they divorce, most of them are left floundering.

So, if I have this talk with butt-head, w/out telling DDs; and tell him to spend alone time with them - it's really all just fake. DD NEEDS him to WANT to spend time alone with them; I shouldn't have to tell him. And, it may make them feel better if it's just the three of them on this trip; but the truth will continue to present itself in the daily things they do when he never initiates alone time with them on his own. I can't change who he is or what he's become. It's sad but shouldn't the girls come to accept this about him?

It is this issue that stops me from having a discussion with him, once again! So what do you think now? Thanks for listening; you can now discuss and get back to me!

Cammie first you are a terrific mom. Many of my friends who's parents divorced stuck their head in the sand and went on their merry way. I think it is awesome that you have Lauren talking to someone. I do believe we all need a third party sometime (hello -disboards!). I wish I could offer some sage advice but an ear is all I have. Keep up the good work!

The vacation thing is driving me nuts. I really want to do WDW again. I just don't think I can sell him on. A cruise is something that i never have given much thought to. I stayed up late one night when I was about 9 yrs old and watched the Possidien adventure. I now am terrified to get on ship. I know it is completely unfounded after all how many fires and shinkings actually happen. Then again I also watched the movie "inferno" ( I think that is what it was called it was again a diaster movie from the 70's) It took my parents a few years before you could convince me I wasn't going to die in a hotel fire. Don't even get me started on Airport '77. Needless to say I don't watch horror flicks. I'll figure something out.

I was reading all of the posts about luggage tags and as I started reading Tessa's. I thought of Shrinky Dinks immediately. Does anyone know if we can get them Stateside? beth would love them.

Tim's been home the last few days. Work was slow because all of his clients have had vacation-thus no computer time for me.

Jillian - I am saying an extra prayer for your cousins baby. God performs miracles in many ways. My heart is with her.

I'm pooped. I donated blood today. First time in 3 yrs. My iron has been too low. I forgot how run down you get. Off to bed. Pam I will have to read your TR a little later. Bye!

 

[tttessa]

Hiya all,

Jilian, hope your cousin is doing ok ..... Nothing you can do really other than wait and see....

As to the shrink plastic - it does work really well.... As it goes thicker it really is like having a coin on there.... they were not brittle (which I thought they might be) and survived being on my backpack through all the parks and the flight home.... so I guess they are robust enough.... just a bit scratched by the time we got home.

Sounds like Toy Story Mania is worth heading back over there for.....

We have had substantial rain again, flooding in places, but thankfully the sun is starting to shine - hopefully we will not end up like last year (3 weeks with NO running water!!).

We are also starting the end of year madness at school - discos, sports day, report cards etc etc.. then DD5 birthday too.... so running out of time, may not log on for a couple of weeks....

Tessa

 

[karajeboo]

Renee - I love Meat & 3s!!!!! But Cammie is right about cooking at home being cheaper. Jeff bough a couple of steaks, a bag of potatoes, and some broccoli, and we had nice steak dinners, all for less than $12! When I make my baked ziti, it costs about $5 for the things I have to buy (ground beef, ziti, cheese), everything else I have on hand. And we can eat off it for 3 days! OK, I have a challenge for you - figure out what you spend in an average week on food eating out. Then add in what you spend on average at the store. Try to start eating at home and figure out the cost difference. Take that money, physically take it out of the bank, and put it in an envelope/coffee can/whatever, and watch the savings grow! Even if you notice $10/week (but I have a feeling it will be quite a bit higher!) that's still over $500/yr! Don't tell Carlos, and then by the time Disney rolls around next year, you will have quite a little savings put away - maybe to upgrade resorts???

I'm going to start that pantry challenge again. I had so much fun with it and my pantry dwindled down to nothing! Then we went nuts shopping when our friends were here. So it filled up again pretty fast. Once I get to feeling better. Actually feeling really well now, just coughing still, so not sleeping much.

Jillian - you are so awesome to think of having your cousin stay with you! That's a very selfless offer and I think your family is lucky to have you. Y'all seem like great peeps - I can hardly wait to meet you in November! Ask Cammie, she'll tell you what I look like!

And beautiful pic of your engagement view! All I can say is, WOW!

Tessa - Say it ain't so! You'd better pop in over the next couple of weeks!

Laura - I used to love all the disaster movies!!!! But I must confes that I also have a fear of going on a cruise. I'm not afraid of getting seasick, but I'm actually afraid of sinking. Anytime I feel a boat move, I'm convinced that it won't be able to right itself and it will tip over. I know, silly, but that's me. I also have a lot of trouble flying.

Cammie - ok, another DVC question. When we go to Disney for a week, we stay at POP, when we go for a weekend, we go moderate, and then for special ocassions we go deluxe. And since we do a lot of weekends, I'm just not sure that DVC would be a good option for us. I'm still so torn. Not that it would be happening anytime soon - our money is all on the back porch right now!

OK, off to shower and get ready for the day!

 

[Camster0307]

Good morning!

Jillian - Glad to hear your cousin is doing better. You are a doll for offering to have her stay with you; does sound like it would be less stressful for her. Keeping my fingers crossed for these next two weeks.

Laura - I think I've seen Shrinky Dinks sold at crafts store - like a Michael's or A.C Moore.

And count me as another one not too keen on cruising. I agree - it looks wonderful; but being surrounded by large bodies of water freaks me out. I've done a cruise only once but I remember our one day at sea, standing on the deck, looking out at the horizon and seeing nothing but water! No land in sight! It was very unsettling for me!

Tessa - not logging in for weeks?!?!? Say it ain't so! You still need to come over and post a pic of that HSM cake! Good luck with the party.

Kara - So are you saying that you would want to use DVC for your weekend stays only and now don't think it's worth it because weekends are more pts.?
Because I look at this way, I think there's a minimum pt. purchase, isn't there? I'm guessing it's around 150-200 pts. With that many pts., you could probably get 3-4 weekend stays - depending on time of year and resort. But you see, as a local, where I really think you can use DVC to your advantage is hopping down there mid-week; whether it be during the summer months or vacation weeks during the school year. My 5 night stay at the WL, during what the DVC considers "Magic" season (the 2nd highest travel time) cost me only 70 pts! You could take a bunch of those mini-vacations throughout the year - maybe only staying 3-4 nights - but getting to stay deluxe for all of them. I read about members on the DVC boards who do it exactly this way and get in so many visits w/ minimal pts. being used.

Ok - my DVC commercial is over now. We're heading over to a friend's today to swim. Thankfully, the humidity around here is supposed to lighten up today so a pool day should be glorious! Later!

 

[Camster0307]

NO POSTS TODAY?

Ok, where the heck is everybody?

Just got back from the pool; meeting some friends for dinner later. Hope everyone has had a fun, busy day!

 

[CRdisMom]

I've been at the DR all day-at least it seamed like it. Beth came back from the lake with a fever of 103.8. I hadn't worried too much about it until 48 hrs passed, which was last night.. The fever was showing no signs of breaking so I made an apt for this AM. They looked her over, and guess what no fever. I had given her tyneol at 2 am so it was still in her system at 10 am. They did the quick strep test and it came back negative. But during that time she started to develop a rash, the doc wasn't too concerned about it. She said to call back if the fever came back. Now we've been home for some time and the fever is coming back. It's up to 101.5. Tim is on his way back to the clinic to do blood work. I am so paranoid about West Nile and Lymes diease. Our cabin is in a "hot" county for those things. I'll let you know what I find out. I hate to think she caught something like that.

 

[karajeboo]

I've been peeking in every so often, but actually really busy at work! I can't believe how business has picked up! And this new phone system is sending me more calls during the day - how do they expect me to DIS that way?

I'm a HUGE fan of Mucinex!!! This cough just loosened right up and I feel so much better! Until I walked in the kitchen and saw last night's mess! Jeff has the nerve to tell Ally to clean up after herself but he couldn't even take a sponge to the counter top - there is grease everywhere!!! And he won't rinse dishes before putting them in the dishwasher so guess what? I open the dishwasher of "clean" dishes and there's all kinds of crap on the dishes. Oh, and there's water in the bottom of the dishwasher. Probably a clog from all the food that he simply refuses to rinse off! I'm so pissed right now I could scream.

So when I pick Ally up, she is going straight to her room to clean it up. And Jeff is going to get his a$$ chewed tonight when he gets home. Needless to say, I left the kitchen a mess. I will NOT clean it! Oh, who's kidding who, we all know I'll end up cleaning it! NO I WON'T!!!!! In fact, once he gets home I'm going to leave to go the library and run some errands. I will resist the temptation....

 

[CRdisMom]

hi kara!

 

[karajeboo]

Hey, Laura! I hope Beth gets to feeling better soon! Poor baby! I know west nile is always a concern, but just remember that it's very rare....

Guess what I just did? Yup! I cleaned the kitchen!!!! I'm so pathetic! I just can't stand it when it gets so gross! I mean there were pots piled in the sink, the stuff that came out of the dishwasher had caked on food, the stove and counter top were disgusting! I had to clean it so I could start dinner.

Ally requested spaghetti with meatballs. Well, I got rid of two partial boxes of pasta, one jar of spaghetti sauce, and we had meatballs in the freezer AND a partial bag of frozen garlic bread! Voila! Nothing to buy (Renee! ), and I got rid of stuff in the pantry.

I need to pretend to still be sick too, so Jeff will sleep upstairs again. I swear, it sounds horrible but I hate to sleep with someone! When I sleep, I like my space. I don't want to snuggle, I don't want to hear someone breathing on my neck. I want to sleep. I joke and say that I could have lived back in the olden days when they had separate bedrooms and a wink and an invitation would bring the two together for awhile. That's me. Stay on your own side! In fact, we're looking to buy a new bed - king size! Plus, Jeff snores really bad and once I hear it, I can't get it out of my head. I sleep with ear plugs and sometimes also a pillow over my head! I know, I'm terrible!

And I conned Jeff into stopping off at Walgreens to pick up a birthday card for my 90 year old uncle. That saves me from having to go out tonight! But so help me, I'm still gonna lay down the law about cleaning up. And I will NOT clean up after dinner tonight. Seriously. I won't.