Long long lloooonnng thread - relationship advice needed

[annegal]

So I'm unpacking my groceries this morning and find 'text me...' and his cell phone number on the back of my receipt.

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So this hot local "celebrity"....is he the cashier or the bag-boy at the grocery store?

 

[lovemygoofy]

Sorry didn't mean to come across immature! I just genuinely don't feel at the moment that I want to finish with my BF.

That doesn't mean i'm right to feel like that or that it wouldn't be better to move on, that's just honestly how I feel right now.

I'm not going to tell you to break up or stay with your BF but do have a question. You have mentioned more than once you are waiting for your BF so you can move out. Can you afford to do it now on your own or possibly have a friend to split the cost?

Part of what MM is getting at is that you are just hanging around and waiting on someone to catch up to where you are. (I think) Don't just sit around and wait, get on with your life. Find your own place to live and still date your BF if you want just stop sitting around wondering if there is something better out there.
I will also say that my husband will not do anything without knowing he has enough money in the bank first and that included us getting engaged and moving in together. He wanted to be able to have the ring in hand, which he saved up to pay for and he wanted to have enough money to get the apt and everything turned on, which he also saved for. That could be the case of the BF but I just didn't sit around waiting and wandering.

 

[salmoneous]

First of all, I wish you all the best - and hope things workout however you want them to. Beyond that, I wouldn't begin to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. Only you can find those answers. But I can throw out two general observations about guys. These are generalities and there's a chance your guys are different. But about 95% of the time:

1) 24-year old guys who are happy living at home playing Playstation all day don't just wake up one morning with a dose of ambition. It's not like the BF is going to all of a sudden start acting like an adult. He is an adult. What you see is what you get. You love the guy - but do you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy - specifically *this* guy - the one he is now - not the one you hope he turns into?

2) When the best-looking guy in town slips you his phone number, he's after a booty call, not a lasting relationship. Not that there is necessarily anything wrong with that, just understand what you are getting into.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That is probably easier said than done though right?

Ah..yes. Now you understand.

 

[Wishing on a star]

1) 24-year old guys who are happy living at home playing Playstation all day don't just wake up one morning with a dose of ambition. It's not like the BF is going to all of a sudden start acting like an adult. He is an adult. What you see is what you get. You love the guy - but do you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy - specifically *this* guy - the one he is now - not the one you hope he turns into?

2) When the best-looking guy in town slips you his phone number, he's after a booty call, not a lasting relationship. Not that there is necessarily anything wrong with that, just understand what you are getting into.

Wow!!!!!

ITA!!!!

Most insightful post that I have seen on the DIS here in a LONG time!!!!

 

[allison443]

So this hot local "celebrity"....is he the cashier or the bag-boy at the grocery store?

I was thinking the same thing! And I assume he's in his 20's since the OP is.