Livid with a teacher! Update livid with myself!

[Rora]

I'd be upset too! I hope everything is just a misunderstanding. PLEASE keep us updated.

 

[beavismom]

I wonder how said "uncle" knew who your daughter's teacher is and how the heck he got her email.

Actually, it would make perfect sense because while a school might have multiple teachers for a subject, they usually only have one PE teacher per grade level and sometimes per school. My DD's school has a faculty list on the website which tells exactly what the teacher teaches so it would be easy to figure out.

If it happened as reported this is very creepy and needs to be taken very seriously. I was stalked in high school by a recruiter for the military and he was able to get my whole schedule and would try and find me on campus all the time. I finally had to report him when he started watching my house too.

 

[a1tinkfans]

OP -

*IF*...
the facts are as you understand them and as your DD related them to you, I think the police should be called.

Yes, I *DO*...not to necessarily get the teacher in trouble but to investigate this creepy person who seems to be trolling for information about your DD.

If your DD has any e-mail/Facebook/MySpace accounts,
if she has a cell-phone, she should not be doing any communicating(no texts/phone calls/IMs) through any of them until you find out what's going on. If anyone needs to contact her for school they can phone you or use your family e-mail account.

I would not de-activate any accounts or delete any pictures published (Is your DD on a school team, has she won any recent awards, has she been in the news) on the Internet *yet*- the police might need to try to contact this...ummmm..."uncle"?

agnes!

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

OP -

*IF*...
the facts are as you understand them and as your DD related them to you, I think the police should be called.

Yes, I *DO*...not to necessarily get the teacher in trouble but to investigate this creepy person who seems to be trolling for information about your DD.

If your DD has any e-mail/Facebook/MySpace accounts,
if she has a cell-phone, she should not be doing any communicating(no texts/phone calls/IMs) through any of them until you find out what's going on. If anyone needs to contact her for school they can phone you or use your family e-mail account.

I would not de-activate any accounts or delete any pictures published (Is your DD on a school team, has she won any recent awards, has she been in the news) on the Internet *yet*- the police might need to try to contact this...ummmm..."uncle"?

agnes!

I completely agree!! Let the police contact the teacher and principal - this is a very frightening invasion of a child's privacy. What an ***!

I was thinking maybe her photo from an event in elementary school was in a local paper somewhere - it's weird that he knew where she went to ES.

I have an 11 year old and I would be completely freaked out and on the phone with my friend who's a police officer right away.

I would NOT let my daughter go to school until I knew exactly who this whacko was who was inquiring about her.

Do it now - don't wait. Rather err on the side of caution.

 

[BelleWDW]

Very Scary-almost sounds like a stalker!

 

[marshallandcartersmo]

I am wondering how he got the teacher's e-mail also...........but come to think of it, if OP's daughter (or even OP) has a Facebook/myspace page and it lists her town, then it is pretty easy to find a school system in a town, find a teacher list by grade, and e-mail a few of them. Scary. I'm so sorry OP.

 

[java]

Thanks all for the support. Still no word from the teacher or the principal. My husband called the non-emergency number at the police station and asked what to do. They said get a copy of the email and bring it in to a detective! And to whoever mentioned asking other teachers Thank You for that suggestion. I didn't even think of that!

I will let you know as this progresses. Thank you all again. I was in serious Mama Bear mode. *still am actually.

 

[luvwinnie]

WHAT???? Wow. The stupidity is shocking....why would her UNCLE need to contact someone at the school first of all....second, there have to be rules against answering anything like this.

 

[N&B'smom]

Keep us posted, OP. Very scary!!

 

[curious3069]

You should be in Mama Bear mode, that is scary beyond belief. I would hope the principal will confirm that what your daughter said happend, did and not give you the run around.

Hopefully they can provide you with a copy of the school's safety/visitor/privacy policies to review. If your daughter doesn't have a facebook/myspace, etc. I'd be really concerned how he got that much info about your daughter. Is she in sports where her name might have been in a local paper??

 

[clh2]

It apparently didn't seem odd to Mrs. S that a pupil's uncle asked her a question that would most likely have been answered by someone within the family circle.

I wonder how said "uncle" knew who your daughter's teacher is and how the heck he got her email.

This is just creepy, creepy, creepy.

The uncle was most likely went on the school website, where many teachers have their e-mails listed so parents can contact them, and one of the "specials" would be a great place to start, because in most schools...1-gym teacher would have all the students. Same with the only art teacher, or the only music teacher. That would be far easier than contacting 4 of the 5th grade teachers...I hope that makes sense!

The good news - if this really did happen, the school district should be able to "recover the e-mail" as well as the response.

I would also be concerned about my DD's safety - because I am a worry-wart. But - to the OP - us parents were given a "gut" to give us gut-level reactions. Something isn't right with this.

 

[java]

Sorry I forgot to mention she doesn't have Facebook or myspace. That's an ongoing battle.

 

[RitaZ.]

OP, is there anyone in your life that could present a threat to your DD?

The situation is creepy and very odd. I would show up at school first thing tomorrow morning to speak with the principal.

 

[momrek06]

WOW!

Please keep us posted, OP. I so hope this is some huge misunderstanding.

 

[Bluestars]

Sorry I forgot to mention she doesn't have Facebook or myspace. That's an ongoing battle.

I would be looking at all possibilities. Maybe one of her friends has a team picture or some other picture with your daughter in it. On facebook, a lot of the kids will name all of the other kids in a picture, right beneath the picture.

I hope you are able to get some answers from the school.

 

[EeyoreEma]

That's very scary. I hope that you are able to find out what's going on.

 

[englishteacha]

Good luck, OP. I hope you figure out what is going on.

As a side note, our school district has our email addresses posted on various webpages. It is quite easy to find one of us. All email communication is archived, though, and I believe that's a law, so the email should be able to be recovered even if the teacher deleted it.

 

[diznygirl]

The email mentioned the elementary school? How long has she been in this school? Has she been "watched" since elementary school and the "uncle" is trying to figure out where she is now? Or is it someone who knows her name but not her age, and is fishing for info? Could the elementary school have received an inquiry about her?


A lot of weird stuff going on here, and more questions than answers. And this teacher is dumbdumbdumbdumb for answering that email!!!!!

 

[disneydreamingdebby]

Is it possible your daughter has a facebook or myspace that you aren't aware of - maybe she created it at a friend's house? At her age, I did many things behind my parents' back. Please consider it as a possibility even if your daughter is wonderful and it might be out of character.

I hate to be an alarmist, but I don't think I could let my daughters out of my sight until the whole situation has been resolved. I am not even sure I would be comfortable with them at school even if I took them in and picked them up.

I hope that it was simply a misunderstanding.

 

[mumom95]

I know this sounds crazy, and I don't exactly know how the law works, but in Ohio the school districts are allowed to give out personal info about students unless the parents sign a paper saying not too. Problem is, at least in our district, if you sign that paper, it also means your kids picture can't be printed in the local paper or even the yearbook. I know this because I'm the yearbook coordinator and I was told I have to get approval for any pictures that go into the yearbook because certain kids aren't allowed to be in it. And when I asked why a parent would ever sign the paper that doesn't let their kid be in the yearbook, they said because if you don't sign the paper then the school has the permission to give out the students name, address, phone number etc. The school district did say that they vary rarely ever do it, but they do have the legal right to.