Letting go.......easier than I thought

[perdidobay]

Well, we took dd18 to college Saturday and after all the months of dreading the day, it ended up being easy. One thing that helped is that once we got there, DD went from crying and sad to excited and happy! It helps that she's old friends with her roommate (she's terribly shy). She has been emailing and IM'ing me since Sunday so I actually "talk" to her more than when she was home!
The last few months she's spent at work or with friends, I never saw her alot except for our trip to Wa state. I thought I would get sad and cry on the way home but never did. It helped when I got home too, that her room looks like it always does....a big mess LOL. I'm leaving it that way!
Also the fact that dd26 is having major problems right now and is back at home with us for a while, keeps me busy.
I hope everyone else who has a son or daughter going off to college for the first time has a good experience too!

MJ

 

[Kallison]

Glad it was not as traumatic as you feared. I have 8 years until oldest DS goes off to college. Don't even want to think about it! Of course by then I may be ready to ship off teenager #1.

 

[glo]

Hugs.....I can't even imagine doing that right now. I have some friends who are and I do not know how they are coping. I still have 7 more years for my oldest and 11 more years until my two youngest go...I think I can wait

 

[BuzzMe]

I went through exactly the same emotions last year! I was a wreck all summer anticipating my daughter leaving for her first year at college. I thought I would be a mess when it came time to say goodbye, but she was having such a great time with her roomate that I actually left with a smile. We spent alot of time "talking" on the computer also. She had a terrific year and can't wait to get back to school! I'll miss her terribly but am thrilled that she has adjusted so well. I hope things settle down at home for you. It must be a relief to know that your daughter is happy.

 

[perdidobay]

Thanks guys.........it is a relief, and also knowing that she is doing all her own laundry and cleaning now, I KNOW she appreciates me more!

 

[slimplaw]

Glad it went smoothly for you. My DD and DS both leave tomorrow for school. They will only be 35 miles from here and we'll see them Sat. when we take some things to them. Unfortunately, they have to move themselves tomorrow.

 

[Micca]

We talk to our DD at college all the time(im, phone). She's only 2.5 hours away, but we talk almost every day. Our other DD is a WDW CM with a major BF, but we hear from her about once a week.

 

[krazyboutWDW]

Perdidobay - we also moved DD up to college on Sat. You are right in that it went better than I thought it would. I was so exhausted from lugging things up and down 4 flights of stairs in her dorm that I think I was too tired to cry. She was also going to her first rush party and was very excited.

I have to admit that I have shed a few tears since Saturday. It's hard letting go of your only "little girl". LOL (She'd kill me if she heard me talk that way).

 

[perdidobay]

LOL krazyboutWDW
I'm glad to hear things went well for you too. We were lucky in that there were tons of volunteers to help take stuff up to the dorm rooms, they even unloaded the car for us! DD is all the way across the state (a 61/2 hour drive) so I won't see her too often. I have to watch what I say here about her, LOL, AngieBelle is just one floor away in the same residence hall and may tell on me!

 

[Poohbear123]

Well, I cried on the way home, after dropping her off. Than I cried 2 years later when she came back home, after not doing so good.

 

[krazyboutWDW]

Volunteers!!! How nice. We had volunteers too - moms and dads (LOL). DD is not that far away so I will see her pretty often I guess. That is if she can squeeze us into her social schedule. As the year progresses we need to compare notes.

 

[jjskribs]

I have two days left before we have to bring my "baby" to school. His college is 7 hours away so he won't be home for weekends! I have been a wreck all summer and have been in tears on more than one occasion. I hope it goes as well for me as it did for you. I don't want to cry in front of my son and make him upset but I don't know how I will handle that final goodbye. When my oldest son left for school he was 1 hour away and we were both ready to be away from each other.Hope I don't cry all the way home

 

[NancyIL]

I'm glad the letting go went well. We'll get to experience that in 2 days - when I take DD to college in Texas.

 

[DopeyRN]

I will be facing it next year. (my oldest stayed home for school). I do not want to think about it. For now I will enjoy his senior year. Ring mass is Thursday night!!

 

[cotye]

Thanks for sharing that story. Sounds like a bittersweet day.

 

[tc]

My oldest dd (Sarah) left for her final year of college. I remember the first year, I didn't cry either. She was ready to go to college, and, as much as I loved her, I was ready for her to leave. Since then, we have become so close. IMing and telephone almost every day. This year, I cried. It's the last time she'll be going, and next year, who knows where she'll be. Married and moving? She is definately not planning on moving home. It's like she's all of the sudden grown up. Weird!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Give this link a look, the top bullet point. An annual bittersweet show, always good.

{{Hugs}} to all.

http://wgnradio.com/shows/kathy_judy/audio/index.htm

Dan

 

[perdidobay]

Hey Dan, I know from previous letting go shows that you posted a link too, that I will need to have a box of tissues handy, if only for that song
thanks
MJ

 

[bsnyder]

Moving day was last Saturday for us, as well.

DS#1 is my first to leave the nest, to a college 3 hours away from home. I thought I would cry, but I didn't. I was so relieved once I met his roommate and realized he'd lucked out and gotten someone that he was very compatible with, that I just felt giddy after that!

I have been a little down the last few days, back here at home. He hasn't called, even once. I'm trying not to be the hovering mom, and want to wait for him to call me, but so hard!!

Oh, and DD, who is 8, started 3rd grade today. We were at the chapel for the opening of school and one of her friend's parents said, "Allison, didn't one of your brothers just leave for college?" and she said "Yes, the nice one left!". I was ROTF, because it's SO true!