I feel so sorry that you had such a difficult night at the BWV. I just mentioned on another thread w/ TimC that we too heard LOUD booming one night in Jan/Feb 04 around 11 or 12 which woke us up out of a dead sleep. I thought the hotel was getting bombed. I ran to the balcony, saw nothing, then looked out my other window toward MGM and saw the most beautiful fireworks I have ever seen. Luckily, they only lasted several minutes, although I was glad to have had such a great view for them. My DH on the other hand was not interested and fell back asleep once he found out we were not under attack. And I, too, have small children, almost 3 yrs old and 5 months at the time. Traveling on a plane w/ little ones takes a lot of expertise, prior planning, and good sleep and I can't imagine having to check out after a night like you had w/ little ones. It must have been horribly stressful. Luckily, mine slept thru the fireworks, but I'm sure they would have awakened to the party you experienced.
I am glad the BW manager gave you your points back. Speaking from experience (I worked and managed in the food industry for about 10 yrs), I'll bet I know why the manager avoided you. When a manager is in a situation where he/she knows there is nothing that can be done to solve the problem or make a customer happy, one tends to "hide" out of guilt, frustration, fear, etc. I certainly feel you had the right to be upset so I am NOT knocking you as I am sure you were not attacking him, but looking to him to solve this issue. I just know a type of fear kicks in when you are dealing w/ a customer who you want to help, but don't know how or can't. He was afraid and knew you wouldn't like his answer so he avoided you instead. Don't take it personally though. He was probably just out of his realm. It took me many years to be able to work customer service and listen to complaints and to not just try to buy someone off w/ a free meal or discount. I've gotten yelled at soooo many times for things not my fault, told I was not the top manager because I was a woman and they wanted to deal w/ the top person who must be a man, etc etc. Eventually, you buck up and are able to come face to face w/ the complaints and deal w/ them head on. So I pity that manager a bit. He probably had a tough night as well as I am sure you were not the only one who called him that night about the noise.
I wonder if he would have called some lead person over at MGM that night (surely someone was in charge over there) and ask him/her to get the DJ's to turn down the bass that night? Probably wouldn't have worked, but I would have tried that if I had a stream of calls coming in. I would have walked over there and turned down the bass myself. Although the BW did not cause the situation to occur, I do feel the BW is responsible for your good night's sleep. I would have told them the complaints are streaming in like mad and MY guests are getting very upset and what is it that can be done to solve this problem? Maybe, just maybe, he could have had the decibel level turned down just enough for the guests to get some sleep and for the party crowd to not notice. And maybe they were drunk enough by that time, they wouldn't have noticed the change.
If that didn't work, then you could bet I'd be at that first bigwig meeting and I'd be the biggest squeaky wheel there. I'd threaten to have the complaints forwarded to whoever was in charge seeing as I apparently had no control over it..... Sometimes that gets the top dogs moving. But I at least would have let the guest know that I understood her complaint, I was on her side, and I was doing everything possible in my power to change the situation. I would let them know, that although I may not be able to get the powers that be to fix it that night, I sure as heck would be following up on it so it doesn't happen again. And I think that's all the OP was hoping to hear. Just some sort of "the buck stops here" mentality, rather than here's a free night, now go away. I think that was wonderful that they gave those points back to you, and it was a start, but a little compassion and fortitude goes a long way and might have made the rough night a little bit easier to swallow. Just MHO.