Language trends you dislike

[DLgal]

Yes!! Please just say no to vocal fry & upspeak!

Also…

“Leaning into” something that’s not something onto which someone can actually, physically lean -

“I’m leaning into the process of finding my joy.”

Gag.

Along w/ “leaning into” comes “ being gentle with myself” -

“I’m being gentle with myself & avoiding anything that causes me stress so that I can continue to lean into my joy-finding journey.“

Again, gag.

And, yes!! I agree w/ ”influencers” & especially w/ “influencers” being “obsessed” w/ whatever their latest finds are -

”Friends, I’m just so obsessed with this new bag! Literally obsessed!”

(And, to all the influencers & wannabe influencers out there, no, the people who follow you on your social media aren’t your “friends” - even though they want to think they are & you want them to think they are.)

And not a fan of being “triggered” by something, especially when that something is relatively benign in the grand scheme of things.

”OMG! I was so triggered by the smell of chalk dust! It reminded me of being in school & having to turn in my homework.”

“Triggered” is followed closely by “safe space“ -

“I just can’t with tests & deadlines. We need a safe space where we can de-stress & lean into relaxation & happy thoughts.”

Of course, if the safe space is filled w/ kittens & puppies, then please bring me ALL the safe spaces!

All of this, but you forgot "trauma/traumatic/trauma response" and "toxic", especially when NOT actually referencing anything that anyone with half a brain and even a cursory understanding of psychology would consider so.

 

[prestoncaldwell]

All of them.

 

[cedricandsophie]

That the fxxx word is part of normal routine conversation for a lot of people. Especially younger folks. When we go to a sports game like baseball and young guys and women start using it every other word sometimes they don’t even get what’s wrong when I or my husband turn around and say…please watch your language.

And using dude as in…dude! Or. Hey dude… or did you see that dude?

 

[NotUrsula]

YES!!!!

I don't know when that started taking off but I keep hearing it more and more. Drives me nuts! Just answer the question!!

And I have heard people ask ridiculous questions and the responder will say, "That is a great question. " No, it wasn't. It is not a great question when you ask something obvious such as, "so is your heart beating right now?" DUH! I would be in cardiac arrest or dead if it wasn't so it isn't a great question.

This is one of those things that is actually recommended by business communications trainers; the sort of folks my company pays huge fees to in order to teach us all to communicate for 16 hours, after which we all retreat back into our imaginary cones of silence.

They generally give one of two reasons to use it: 1) it's a time stall, to give the respondent a bit of time to come up with an answer that doesn't make him/her sound like a deer caught in headlights, or, 2) as a standard response to every question asked by a lower-level employee or a client, as a way to make them feel heard. My personal opinion is that the first option occasionally makes sense, but the second is just insulting.

 

[fly girl]

This is one of those things that is actually recommended by business communications trainers; the sort of folks my company pays huge fees to in order to teach us all to communicate for 16 hours, after which we all retreat back into our imaginary cones of silence.

They generally give one of two reasons to use it: 1) it's a time stall, to give the respondent a bit of time to come up with an answer that doesn't make him/her sound like a deer caught in headlights, or, 2) as a standard response to every question asked by a lower-level employee or a client, as a way to make them feel heard. My personal opinion is that the first option occasionally makes sense, but the second is just insulting.

I can understand from a business perspective with an educated pause. But agree on the latter being insulting.


The crazy thing is I am hearing this tactic used everywhere:

Sports interview during the olympics.

Interviewer: Congratulations! How does it feel winning the gold?

Olympian: Thank you. Great question, it felt fantastic ...

I mean really. Is that really a great question? No. It is a obvious question. How do you think they feel? They just worked their butt off for years getting to this moment and achieved their goal at the highest level.



At Walgreens:

Me: Can I use this Good Rx coupon for Allegra D?

Pharmacy Tech: Great question. No you cannot. They can only be used if it was prescribed by a physician.

I really wasn't bothered by her saying "great question," but it made me wonder why this is being overused. Just tell me no. It seems silly to me. YMMV

 

[DLgal]

I can understand from a business perspective with an educated pause. But agree on the latter being insulting.


The crazy thing is I am hearing this tactic used everywhere:

Sports interview during the olympics.

Interviewer: Congratulations! How does it feel winning the gold?

Olympian: Thank you. Great question, it felt fantastic ...

I mean really. Is that really a great question? No. It is a obvious question. How do you think they feel? They just worked their butt off for years getting to this moment and achieved their goal at the highest level.



At Walgreens:

Me: Can I use this Good Rx coupon for Allegra D?

Pharmacy Tech: Great question. No you cannot. They can only be used if it was prescribed by a physician.

I really wasn't bothered by her saying "great question," but it made me wonder why this is being overused. Just tell me no. It seems silly to me. YMMV

That's just people misusing the phrase. I always thought "great/good question" was supposed to precede "I don't know the answer to that, so let me find out."

In other words, it's a great question because it wasn't anticipated or prepared for, but it deserves an answer.

 

[fly girl]

That's just people misusing the phrase. I always thought "great/good question" was supposed to precede "I don't know the answer to that, so let me find out."

In other words, it's a great question because it wasn't anticipated or prepared for, but it deserves an answer.

And that’s exactly why it annoys me! It absolutely is not a great question. It’s a simple question, but that phrase has become the norm.

Listen for it. It’s used all the time and when you get annoyed, you can thank me. Ha ha ha. You’re welcome!

 

[jiminyC_fan]

adult baby talk like sammies
vacay
crude and vulgar language
using the name Karen as an insult, childish

 

[penn19]

What do you mean? I ain't never heard no two negatives in one sentence...


As it's the 2nd reference now, I've read and watched a video (quickly), I still can't figure out what that is, LOL.

I feel Kim Kardashian perfected it

 

[rowan1813]

I think just the lack of enunciation that is becoming more and more commonplace is my biggest pet peeve. I teach high school and I can hardly understand what they are saying because they just don't enunciate.

 

[disykat]

Not pronouncing the t in the middle of words. For example Mou-an instead of Moun-tain, with just sort of a glottal stop instead of a t. That used to be considered a speech impediment we tried to fix, now I hear it all the time.

More recently I've started to hear lots of young people saying "I and my mom went to the store" instead of "My mom and I went to the store." What's that all about? It sounds so weird to me.

 

[Moliphino]

Not pronouncing the t in the middle of words. For example Mou-an instead of Moun-tain, with just sort of a glottal stop instead of a t. That used to be considered a speech impediment we tried to fix, now I hear it all the time.

That's super common in certain regions and I'm definitely guilty of it. Pronouncing the middle Ts seems so forced, though.

 

[NotUrsula]

Not pronouncing the t in the middle of words. For example Mou-an instead of Moun-tain, with just sort of a glottal stop instead of a t. That used to be considered a speech impediment we tried to fix, now I hear it all the time.

More recently I've started to hear lots of young people saying "I and my mom went to the store" instead of "My mom and I went to the store." What's that all about? It sounds so weird to me.

They call this T-glottalization, and believe it or not, some people deliberately practice doing it, because there is a sort of association with the cool kids. Like I said, drives my DH insane; because he has a T in the middle of his name, and all of a sudden, a name that was very easy to pronounce is getting butchered all over the place.

 

[disykat]

Yes. It's definitely something people are doing purposely. You know people are capable of saying t. For example I've never heard people say "El-un John." They always manage to say "Elton."

 

[Neapolitan Ice Cream]

Lots for me. I was brought up in school on Shakespeare, so my English is "Classical English".

For example, "Colour" instead of "Colour"; "Gaol" instead of "Jail". Both sound ever so slightly different, a bit softer. And the name "Xavier" isn't pronounced "Eggs-aevier", it's pronounced "Tzaevier", where the "X" is a softer "Z".

 

[J-Dog]

I will say that I hate any stupid, ultra-trendy word that kids and "influencers" love, but then sound ridiculous 6 months later.

Examples:

"En fleek"
"GOAT"
"YOLO"
"Hangry"
"Hack" (when used as a skill, i.e. (9 hacks to better clean your oven")
"Epic fail"

And the most recent, super annoying phrase: "Throwing shade"

 

[EMom]

"Aks" has been a perfectly valid pronunciation of "ask" since the 1600s.

https://www.latimes.com/opinion/la-...mcwhorter-black-speech-ax-20140119-story.html

But most of us can read now, so we grasp that the order of the letters has significance.

 

[Moliphino]

Yes. It's definitely something people are doing purposely. You know people are capable of saying t. For example I've never heard people say "El-un John." They always manage to say "Elton."

For words like kitten, it's impossible for me to say the T without sounding super forced and awkward.

 

[NotUrsula]

For words like kitten, it's impossible for me to say the T without sounding super forced and awkward.

I really want to understand this.

I could see that being the case if the question was sharply enunciating the T, as in kiT-Ten. Most Americans don't do that, but sort of blunt the T to almost a D, more like KIDden. That seems normal, but dropping the middle consonant altogether seems really off to me, because you kind of have to deliberately swallow it and add another consonant sound to get over the gap. I mostly hear people do that with a hard H sound, so you get KIH-hen. To my ears that sounds much more forced, like a small cough over every middle T.

Most British people will say that Americans mis-pronounce the name of Harry Potter, by which they mean that it sounds as if we all say Harry Podder. Saying Harry PAA-her would be getting hold of another broomstick entirely.

 

[sasywtch]

I thought I was going crazy or my adhd was kicking in when all of a sudden everyone on tv was saying buuuuuuuunnnnn with a heavy un on the end for button or as an above reference, kiuuuuunnnnn for kitten. On a personal note, always hated the term, we're pregnant. I have no problem with we're having a baby but something just irritates me that, no...the husband is not pregnant. It must be a personal hang up with me??? but being pregnant is a lot of hard work.