Ladies ~ have you ever suspected that DH might be playing away from home

[wils]

Don't know what to say I'd want to know eitherway.

You seem to already have lots of good advice so I hope it goes well and you know where we are

 

[wicket2005]

Oh dear! I really feel for you. If it was me I would ask him about it, otherwise it would just fester away. I hope everything is okay for you. I will be thinking of you tonight.

 

[alisonbestford]

I'd have to ask too and get anything that there might be out in the open

Good luck for tonight

 

[florida sun]

Good luck Claire, I do hope all works out ok for you, but I think if it was me I would need to know for sure, thinking about you

 

[Booknut]

I don't really have anything to add to the wonderful advice you've been given but I wanted to send you and wish you luck for tonight.

 

[AlanUK]

No advice, but I did want to say that there could still be a perfectly innocent reason for this, for example a prank played by someone at your husbands workplace, the prankster may even have got the wrong jacket

I hope it all works out for you

 

[mark&sue]

Check all mobile phone records including sent and incoming phone calls and text messages. Check the actual bill too as phone calls and messages can be deleted. Check the credit card bills for anything that does not seem to fit.

They will always deny anything that they do not want to tell you. oh and look into their eyes and make sure they do not look away.

Good luck and I am thinking of you.


Susan

 

[arieliwish]

from me too, be strong and stay calm and rational (that always irritates the hell out of my DH!), there may well be an explanation for all these 'signs'.

Thinking of you tonight,

Lynn

 

[alisonbestford]

No advice, but I did want to say that there could still be a perfectly innocent reason for this, for example a prank played by someone at your husbands workplace, the prankster may even have got the wrong jacket

That's a good thought Alan

Fingers crossed that this is what happened

 

[Richard Bruvofetc]

By the way (and not meaning to panic you about your son as well!) at my school, I'd say around 80% of the pupils were sexually active at 14 so it's not out of the question that a father/son talk was being planned.

Remember 95% of the 80% only boast they are sexually active, but back to your issue, it would be a good idea, as has been said, to have the children out of the house when you raise the subject. Hopefully everything will turn out to be innocent.

Also, does your husband read these boards? You may have already opened the way for discussions.

 

[Laurafoster]

Good luck for tonight, i would have to confront him too as i would need to know either way. Hopefully your worrying about nothing and it is all a silly misunderstanding!

 

[SammieG]

good luck for tonight. I think you are doing the right thing by talking to him.

Remember that many men dont take hints... you have to be quite specific with them before they even undertand what we are talking about!

I would get the condoms and say to him.. " I found these in your jacket.. whats the deal?" and see what he says...

and then dont necessarily believe him. If you dont think he's telling the truth he probably isnt.
The trouble with people, even people we have been married to for many years, is that when pushed into a corner.. they lie...

Hope it goes well for you.. keep us posted..

Sammie xxx

 

[AlanUK]

Blimey, whatever happened to trust in a relationship

 

[ely3857]

I am so sorry this issue has been raised for you but am glad you are going to talk to him. After 20 years it seems bizzare he would do something like this but at the moment it does look bad.

Good Luck



Jodie

 

[Cyrano]

Blimey, whatever happened to trust in a relationship

Totally agree

 

[Boo Boo Too]

Blimey, whatever happened to trust in a relationship

I don't know, different people have very different relationships...

Some people live out of each other's pockets, others need a lot of independence from each other.

Some people can't abide their other half cheating. Others have more "open relationships" or just "turn a blind eye" for some reason or another (I couldn't imagine it - but a lot of people do... ).

Some people are good at communicating, some are not.

Some people are optimistic, others are completely paranoid.

If I was the OP, I would be suspicious, but not pesimistic. There may very well be a very innocent explanation or she may have caught something that may be just a possibility on the horizon (not ideal, but not as bad as something that has started already). If it is the latter, it may well be something that can be sorted out: sometimes people are tempted to cheat because of misunderstandings in their own relationship and not because they are attracted to someone else. Those misunderstandings could be sorted out.

Fingers crossed for the OP that there is an innocent explanation OR it is something that can be sorted out.

Boo

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Just to let you know I'm thinking of you and hope you get to talk things through tonight.

 

[angel659]

Hi

I am sorry you are feeling this way and I really do not know what to say. I would like to send you some

 

[jns]

just sending you some

hope you and hubby will work everything out

 

[SammieG]

Blimey, whatever happened to trust in a relationship

Im sure that snookhams does trust her husband and has done in the last 20 years.

However, even the people we trust sometimes betray us.

I really really hope that for Snookhams this isnt the case.

Sammie xxx
((((((((((((((hugs to you snookhams))))))))))))))))))