Keeping maiden name when marrying

[Pigeon]

. but it's time for fox news. .

Why doesn't that surprise me? I also enjoyed the post where you quoted yourself and thanked yourself. You must be quite enamoured of your own opinions.

My husband is secure enough in his masculinity that my name has nothing to do with our marriage. And we are quite married, thankyouverymuch. And most of the wives of his male colleagues have kept their names, as have his married female colleagues. It's a total non-issue in his workplace and in mine. Not that what co-workers think about my personal life matters in the least.

 

[Ember]

thanks

Did you really just quote yourself and then thank yourself for doing so?

 

[disneychrista]

Did you really just quote yourself and then thank yourself for doing so?

Well if one can't agree with them selves then who can they agree with?

 

[Ember]

Well if one can't agree with them selves then who can they agree with?

Okay, fair point. Of course, in real life it would play out like this: "So I think woman have to change their names or not get married, end of story. I also think that my thought there was really particularly clever and undeniably correct. In conclusion, I am right and also, I think I'm right."

I don't know... It seems a bit over kill if you ask me...

Of course, what to I know. I'm only a woman.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

To the bolded - so you would be ok with changing your last name to hers then right? You know, as a form of solidarity & committing yourself as a part of a family.

If my wife had a strong desire to keep her name, I probably would have argued for hyphenation instead, because I am last generation of my family with my last name. Unless my great grandfather had brothers I am not aware of. If she was vehement about it, I suppose I would have, since a loving relationship is more important than a name.

However, I don't have to deal with this question in anything but hypotheticals, since I've been married 15 years.

 

[Pigeon]

Okay, fair point. Of course, in real life it would play out like this: "So I think woman have to change their names or not get married, end of story. I also think that my thought there was really particularly clever and undeniably correct. In conclusion, I am right and also, I think I'm right."

I don't know... It seems a bit over kill if you ask me...

Of course, what to I know. I'm only a woman.

You forgot to thank yourself after acknowledging that you are right and that you think you are right. Silly girl!

 

[Pigeon]

You forgot to thank yourself after acknowledging that you are right and that you think you are right. Silly girl!

Also, if someone doesn't respond to you in less than one minute, you must assume everyone agrees with you because of the silence.

 

[Ember]

You forgot to thank yourself after acknowledging that you are right and that you think you are right. Silly girl!

Sorry, I'm still new at this. I will do better next time.

Also, if someone doesn't respond to you in less than one minute, you must assume everyone agrees with you because of the silence.

Can we make this a new DIS rule, do you think? If no one replies in one minute or less, the discussion is over and the last poster is assumed to be correct, regardless of what is being discussed.

 

[DawnM]

I have my name hyphenated. I wasn't about to completely give up my maiden name.

In your situation, I would not.

Dawn

 

[Pigeon]

Sorry, I'm still new at this. I will do better next time.



Can we make this a new DIS rule, do you think? If no one replies in one minute or less, the discussion is over and the last poster is assumed to be correct, regardless of what is being discussed.

Only if the poster is male. We women are never right unless we are deferring to men.

 

[Laura]

It's a personal decision. Easy to change later if you decide you want to take his name after all, right?

I hyphenated, my sister took her husband's last name and my brother's wife opted to keep her maiden name. I'm quite positive we're all satisified with our choices for our own reasons.

 

[shortbun]

this was a fun thread tonight. but it's time for fox news. have a great night.

And you SAY your intent is not to inflame. Your fox news comment is proof otherwise. Therefore, if it walks, sounds and looks like a duck...
nice YAGE.

Wait, would you be willing to allow people of same gender to marry IF they agree to take each other's names? It seems THAT important to you.

 

[RitaZ.]

It's a personal decision. Easy to change later if you decide you want to take his name after all, right?

I hyphenated, my sister took her husband's last name and my brother's wife opted to keep her maiden name. I'm quite positive we're all satisified with our choices for our own reasons.

That's what I did.

In our 22+ years of marriage, DH has never been threatened by my decision. I could not have married a man who expected me to take his name because "that's just how it's done."

DH's mother was the only person that disapproved of my choice. She even laughed about it. The funny thing is that years later when her daughter remarried and her grand-daughters married, they all hyphenated their names.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

my dw and i have the same last name and it's mine.

Yours, huh? What happened to ours?

I think a pp had it right way back on page one.

neanderthal

 

[Tarheel Tink]

May I just add in here that I don't care one way or the other but for heaven's sake remember to tell the front staff at an animal hospital to look under the other name for Bowser's records before having a snit fit that "I've been coming here for years and you've LOST my records!!!".


We have numerous clients who either live together, kept own names, remarried and sent new spouse in, etc. and apparently very few can ever consider the fact we aren't aware of their situation and our records reflect the name given when the account was made. We have one client who is on her fifth marriage and always sends the new husband in... A computer search on the pet's name of Missy can always narrow it down to a list of 200 or so names we can read to them...

 

[disney11fan]

i love this post. what a great subject to get the blood flowing. have a great day no matter what your last name may be. just think if we all thought the same...what a dull world.

 

[Art 1]

And you SAY your intent is not to inflame. Your fox news comment is proof otherwise. Therefore, if it walks, sounds and looks like a duck...
nice YAGE.

Wait, would you be willing to allow people of same gender to marry IF they agree to take each other's names? It seems THAT important to you.

What is the problem with FOX news? We have watched them for years and they seem to to a nice job. The coverage on the Egypt matter is excellent.

 

[robinb]

May I just add in here that I don't care one way or the other but for heaven's sake remember to tell the front staff at an animal hospital to look under the other name for Bowser's records before having a snit fit that "I've been coming here for years and you've LOST my records!!!".

For the record, all the animals have MY last name .

 

[FireDancer]

When I get married I'd prefer my wife takes my name, more out of tradition than anything. If she wanted to hyphenate it or keep hers though I wouldn't have a problem with it. It's her name and should be her choice.

This would be a "pick you battles" issue for me and one I wouldn't pick to fight.

 

[SookieStackhouse]

I followed the traditional path and changed my last name. It is a hassle, of course I had 3 different last names within a span of a very few years. I had my maiden name, got married, got divorced, changed it back, got married again, changed it again.