Just a rant about ungrateful relatives….

[disneydreamer1980]

A second cousin of mine is getting married this summer. She’s always wanted to honeymoon in Disney so we gifted her some of our DVC points, enough for a week in a GF studio. (We usually rent these out so we’re taking a bit of a hit giving them away). But apparently that wasn’t enough because a week ago she contacted me, saying they can’t really afford park tickets and there’s no point in going without them. Could we get their tickets too?? I said no, but my gullible parents said they’d buy the tickets for them as a wedding present. So fast forward to this morning, I get a text from the bride (group text with her my parents and me) “is it possible to add another 3 days to the reservation? We want to do Universal too, so we need more time. Also if we get the extra days we will need universal tickets. If you guys can’t help with those I’ll ask someone else” I absolutely can’t believe the audacity. Part of me wants to cancel her reservation and rescind our offer. She also has a wedding website where she has a place for people to donate money to her honeymoon. I think she thinks that we’re “rich” (which is laughable) and can easily afford it, and she seems to feel entitled. When I offered the DVC points I thought she’d be so excited but she seemed like she expected it. I’m so angry.

 

[Karin1984]

Talk to her.

 

[TwoMisfits]

Since she asked a direct question, answer it - "No, unfortunately, it's not possible to add any days to the booked reservation. I'm sorry." And then move on.

 

[RedAngie]

Cancel the reservation but don’t tell her.

Nah, just leave it as is. She’ll have to find another way to pay for Universal tickets and lodging.

Bride sound ultra entitled. Who did she sucker into paying her airfare/transportation?

 

[RoseGold]

I'd find the GF cash rate on the website and send her a link to book it herself. Ridiculous.

It looks like your dates are still available at GF! It would be $1,452 direct from Disney. You can book it here: You will probably have to move rooms. The booking can't be changed, but it isn't too late to cancel the booking if it doesn't work for you.

This kind of behavior would absolutely have me thinking about canceling the reservation. You have to decide whether it would be worth that much drama, including your parents who know spent a lot on this too.

 

[DLgal]

You gifted that many DVC points to a SECOND cousin? Wow. You are a very generous person.

At this point, You are well within your rights to rescind the offer, cancel the reservation, and rent out your points. Personally, that is what I would do. I have zero tolerance for ungrateful, entitled people in my life. I cut them out like the cancer that they are.

I'd also relish in sending the RSVP "no" to the wedding. This woman sounds like a spoiled brat, at best.

If you want to take the high road, simply say adding additional days is not possible.

 

[disneydreamer1980]

Cancel the reservation but don’t tell her.

Nah, just leave it as is. She’ll have to find another way to pay for Universal tickets and lodging.

Bride sound ultra entitled. Who did she sucker into paying her airfare/transportation?

Yeah I told my husband I’m waiting for “can you pay for our airfare?”

 

[disneydreamer1980]

You gifted that many DVC points to a SECOND cousin? Wow. You are a very generous person.

At this point, You are well within your rights to rescind the offer, cancel the reservation, and rent out your points. Personally, that is what I would do. I have zero tolerance for ungrateful, entitled people in my life. I cut them out like the cancer that they are.

I'd also relish in sending the RSVP "no" to the wedding. This woman sounds like a spoiled brat, at best.

If you want to take the high road, simply say adding additional days is not possible.

I used to babysit her when I was in college and we’ve always been close. I’ve never known her to be like this, or I never would’ve gifted her the points. Not sure why she’s acting like this

 

[thanxfornoticin]

Sounds like the 'idea' of a Disney honeymoon is taking over the reality of the cost/details of an actual honeymoon! Your offer was incredibly generous. If parents are going to pay for park tickets, that's amazing and then things could still work. Any other additions are on the newlyweds. If they balk at that, you might still have time to rent the points instead, and buy a new toaster oven for the reception....!

 

[DLgal]

I used to babysit her when I was in college and we’ve always been close. I’ve never known her to be like this, or I never would’ve gifted her the points. Not sure why she’s acting like this

That's a shame. Weddings can really bring out the worst in people.

 

[Disneylover99]

Ugh.

Tell her you couldn’t add on 3 nights, so you cancelled the GF and booked her at a motel for 10 nights…… I see the Kissimmee Maingate Inn is renting rooms for $26 per night. I’m sure she’ll love it.

 

[Dan Murphy]

A second cousin is usually not too high in the food chain. Cut the bait.

 

[pweyl36]

I'm surprised
that her mother let her ask you .

 

[lanejudy]

I’ve never known her to be like this, or I never would’ve gifted her the points. Not sure why she’s acting like this

My guess... she doesn't really recognize the value in what you have gifted her. She probably thinks it's a freebie because you "own DVC" (like someone who owns a camp on the lake), not realizing there are annual dues, etc. and that you typically would rent some of those points for a charge to offset your expense. If you are that close, I'd have a private conversation with you and explain the value, and that extending just isn't in the picture unless she pays for it.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

we gifted her some of our DVC points, enough for a week in a GF studio.

When I offered the DVC points I thought she’d be so excited but she seemed like she expected it.

I wonder if she thought she was getting a vacation out of it rather than just lodging? Do you often talk about DVC stays? Gifting or renting it out it to others?

I'm not a big fan of rescinding the offer here to me it unnecessarily creates more havoc and drama. You def. don't need to bend over backwards anymore than you already have and should feel comfortable with using "no" as a complete sentence for further requests.

I agree with a PP about honeymoon costs. Perhaps she did not at all think about the realities of a honeymoon regardless of the destination. I mean if you go somewhere where you need to fly you need to pay for airline tickets, if a place needs tickets for entry (and theme parks are not the only place) you'd need to pay for that. Lodging including a change in the plan needs to be paid for that. Her parents are enabling her but I highly doubt this is the first time that's happened.

“is it possible to add another 3 days to the reservation?

If you read a lot of the DVC threads you do get more of an understanding (and perhaps you do read them given that you are DVC members) that those who do not do timeshares or understand them may not realize all that goes into it. Even members themselves don't know all the ins and outs. Asking the question is harmless, expecting it is different (and it sounds like she expected it).

I think she thinks that we’re “rich” (which is laughable) and can easily afford it,

She may think you have more wealth than you really do but stop think for a minute. You vacation to a pricey destination often enough to purchase a timeshare. A timeshare that costs thousands of dollars in initial buy in and fees each year. To a lot of people you do at least have decent amount of money. Consider your laughable viewpoint in a different light.

She also has a wedding website where she has a place for people to donate money to her honeymoon.

Honeymoon funds are hardly new, you may not like the concept though.

 

[Narcoossee11]

No good deed goes unpunished.....
I would tell her NO on more days but love the idea of reminding her of the cost per night she would pay if SHE had to pay for resort.

 

[jo-jo]

I’m too lazy to do the math, but what is the cash price for a week at GF?
I’d text back since the gift of a week is valued at 4 grand (whatever), we really can’t afford a penny more.

 

[tinkerjo]

I would just explain that the reservation is your gift to them and that you are sorry, but that’s all you can do and that would be happy to give them any tips or tricks to improve their park experience but that is where it ends. They are being incredibly rude and ungrateful. I suspect they feel it isn’t “costing” you anything because they can’t see what goes into it, so you should be able to just give them more. Stick to your guns, your gift was very generous and they should have been nothing but thrilled!!!!

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

would be happy to give them any tips or tricks to improve their park experience

I think that's a great way to smooth things over. I'm not sure if the OP has been to Universal but that would be great to suggest where to stay or what to do. For Disney just giving little tips they've learned over the years too. You don't have to become their trip planner (and the OP should make that def. clear given the couple's questions already) just give some comments to help. If they are as close as they appear to be it help things after the honeymoon is over assuming the OP wishes the same type of relationship as before it. Hopefully the wedding couple sees the OP as still helpful and keeps that in mind just not "I'm giving you an entire honeymoon" helpful.

 

[HeatherC]

I am guessing there is some misunderstanding on her part. Talk to her! Be upfront but kind. She may not realize she is coming across this way. Reaching out now can avoid a lot of family drama and heartache and resentment later. Good luck!