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[Serena]

I tried to get an idea of what he was thinking the last couple days and he didn't appreciate the question. Skipping several hours in between, I follow him to her house when he left instead of talk to me and we do talk. He said he didn't want to confuse me, we're done, go home and he'll sleep in the rv.

Part of me, knows this is the best thing. Most of me just wants my husband back. My head says he hasn't been here in a long time anyway.

He's been nice this last week. He took me to my class reunion banquet last night and he actually danced with me. Today we all went the the reunion picnic.

I asked him if he was being nice, just to be nice, or if he was changing his mind. I asked him what his intentions were. I asked him if he hoped to stay here with us while he cheated on me.
At that moment, I was going to let him, I was going to tell him that I would try and live like that. But, he got angry.
He took the girls to the race he had tickets for, I had one too, but a couple ladies from school have chosen to adopt me as their new friend and invited me to go to a Home A Rama thingy and supper.
I decided that if he was going to see her there that I didn't want to be there. He chose to take her and her son along with my girls and one of his buddy's that used my ticket.

I need some hugs.

 

[NurseKim]

Hugs, Laurie. I don't know what to say but I wish you the best.

 

[iluvorlando]

You got them

((((((HUGS))))))

 

[Kama89]

Oh Laurie! I'm so sorry!! My heart is just breaking for you. Many many heartfelt {{{HUGS}}} to you!

 

[helenabear]

Laurie, I am so sorry BIG {{{HUGS}}} to you!!!

 

[janette]

{{{{HUGS}}}} Laurie

 

[#1 Disney Fan]

I sat here in a stunned sort of silence after I read your post. I just didn't know what to say and my heart just sank for you. Huge huge huge {{{{hugs}}}} Laurie. We're thinking of you. Sending as many {hugs} as you need.

 

[KimRaye]

Laurie, how awful for you.

I think you were right before, when you said that he's waiting for YOU to decide but, having him being nice to you, giving you false hope, was not nice and, not at all productive, imo.

Did you call that lawyer again?

More {{HUGS}}!! And, as you know, PM me anytime. I may not have a popular opinion about this but, you know I want to help and, Not hurt you. {{HUGS}} for your DD's, too.

I'm so sorry.

 

[one_cat]

Serena - I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you are going through right now...

 

[Rajah]

*HUGS*

I'm sorry, Laurie.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))


I don't know what else to say.

 

[Michelle]

{{{{HUGS}}}}

One step at a time, Laurie, you ARE doing the right thing, NO ONE should have to endure what you are enduring.

You already know it won't be easy, but you must keep moving forward, for your own sake. You deserve SO much more than you are getting, just keep that in your mind.

We're here for you.

 

[Serena]

I finally got a call back from that lawyer, actually my dad did. I gave her his number to call. She didn't feel comfortable taking my case because she was a family friend. She gave me another person to call. I called and left a message.

Kim, I'm somehow missing what you are referring to regarding the popular opinion. But believe me, you have helped.

I appreciate all the advice and honesty and support. It's feels so good, I can't explain how much you all have helped.
I just can't deal with any more smoke and mirrors. I desperately need the truth.

Some days are okay, other days I feel like I'm drowning. I am still in shock tonight I guess. I haven't fallen apart yet.

 

[dalepool]

I know nothing of your life but please let me share part of mine with you.

14 years ago I was in a similar place. One daughter 5---her father and I ended up divorcing. I remarried and have been just as happy as I was in my first marriage for the last 11 years.

My point is---

get counciling if possible---both if you can --but you for sure.
Yes, I believe as long as there isn't phycial abuse trying to work through problems is the way to solve your problem it will benifit your children in ways you can't even imagine.

In the long run you need to be happy---life isn't always fair but things always work out---some times just not the way we want.

Please accept a great big HUG, and remember tommorrow should be better if it's not there is always the next tommorow.

PattyN

 

[KimRaye]

Laurie, I just lost a 2,369 character PM to you cuz'... YOUR BOX IS FULL!

After you get some rest, clean it out. All of us want to help! More {{HUGS}}

 

[Mamu]

Serena my heart is breaking for you. {{{HUGS}}} We are all here when you need to talk.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Continued prayers and (((((((hugs)))))))). He probably thought he was making it easier, but I am sure it did NOT! The hardest thing right now will be trying to keep things from getting bitter, for the sake of the girls. He needs to find a NEW place to live!!

 

[mickey65]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[Serena]

He never came home last night. I guess he really wants to make sure I'm not confusing him with someone with a heart.

He did say once that he'll take the rv and park it somewhere else. Now I know why he bought the rv in the first place and why he refused to teach me how to drive it.

I thought my oldest dd was calling her bf last night. It was late, but I figured she needed to talk. She told me later that she called her daddy. And kept calling, waiting for him to pick up the phone. He didn't. I told her she shouldn't have done that, but she's furious and wanted to talk with her dad.

Somehow I have to keep myself together until my h comes home and we talk with Kelsea. I doubt that he'll be able to. He couldn't tell me it was over until I forced him to.

 

[Serena]

BTW, My inbox isn't full anymore.