Is this really bad?

[monkey68]

I'm on one of the dating websites, and I've been talking to this guy for a couple weeks. He wanted to go out last weekend, but I wasn't able to, so we're going out this weekend. The only problem is for the life of me, I can't remember his name And we've been chatting online for a while, that I feel bad asking him what his name is again. I'm hoping he'll call me before the date to confirm, and then he can leave a message saying "Hi, this is soandso", and then I'll know his name. I've been enjoying chatting with him, he seems very smart and interesting, and I do enjoy our conversations. I just can't remember his name

So is that really bad, that I have a date with someone who's name I can't remember? Everything else is great, except for that one little detail

 

[MM27]

That reminds me of that Seinfeld episode when Jerry couldn't remember the girls name and she told him it rhymed with a female body part, "Umm, Mulva?"

 

[Handbag Lady]

Can you have a girlfriend call and in a silly way, say that she's checking up on her friend's date? She can then ask him what his name is and then say something silly like, is that your REAL name, and then just be very friendly and say, okay, you can date my friend, I just needed to make sure I didn't get a weirdo vibe from you.

 

[Disney Doll]

That reminds me of that Seinfeld episode when Jerry couldn't remember the girls name and she told him it rhymed with a female body part, "Umm, Mulva?"

I thought it was Dolores???

 

[DISNEY1975]

Thats so strange. I too am on one of the dating websites, and I've been talking to this girl for a couple weeks. I wanted to go out last weekend, but she wasn't able to, so we're going out this weekend. The only problem is for the life of me, I can't remember her name We've been chatting online for a while, and I feel bad asking her what her name is again. Ive been wanting to call and confirm, but I cant remember her name and I dont want to call and say "Who's this?" I've been enjoying chatting with her, she seems very smart and interesting, and I do enjoy our conversations. I just can't remember her name

JK

 

[MM27]

I thought it was Dolores???

Delores was her real name. Jerry couldn't think of it so he was guessing. He guessed Mulva? Gipple? Loleola? and then when she left he said, "Oh, Delores"

 

[monkey68]

Thats so strange. I too am on one of the dating websites, and I've been talking to this girl for a couple weeks. I wanted to go out last weekend, but she wasn't able to, so we're going out this weekend. The only problem is for the life of me, I can't remember her name We've been chatting online for a while, and I feel bad asking her what her name is again. Ive been wanting to call and confirm, but I cant remember her name and I dont want to call and say "Who's this?" I've been enjoying chatting with her, she seems very smart and interesting, and I do enjoy our conversations. I just can't remember her name

JK

LOL, as a mom of 3, according to your signature, you're definitely not my date My date is (supposed to be) someone a bit closer to my age, with no kids, and of the male variety.

 

[phorsenuf]

LOL, as a mom of 3, according to your signature, you're definitely not my date My date is (supposed to be) someone a bit closer to my age, with no kids, and of the male variety.

So "he" says.

 

[hellokitty86]

Definitely reminds me of the Seinfeld episode! Sorry, I don't have any tricks I can think of! The voicemail idea sounds good....don't answer the phone on purpose.


Don't forget to update us on how the date went!

 

[rainy~daze]

do you have his phone number? you can try to google it, sometimes the name will come up.

 

[happily single]

If you have been e-mailing each you, you should be able to go back and check your past e-mails for his name. Definitely "voice verify" by speaking with him on the phone. When he calls he should say to you "Hi, this is Brady from ....dating" If not, just say "Who's this?"

Problem solved.

 

[Stacerita]

Or you can ask him what his friends call him. And if he gives you a crazy nick name, ask him what he prefers to be called.

 

[DMickey28]

Have you talked on the phone yet? I'd start by initiating that. I met my DH online and we talked via AOLIM for a while before moving to phone calls ... then met in person.

Tell him you'd like to chat on the phone a bit before you get together. Ask him to call you and then not answer, let him leave a message and call him back.

I think it's a good idea to talk on the phone first because you can hide so much without your voice!!

Good Luck. That is totally something that would happen to me!

 

[monkey68]

If you have been e-mailing each you, you should be able to go back and check your past e-mails for his name. Definitely "voice verify" by speaking with him on the phone. When he calls he should say to you "Hi, this is Brady from ....dating" If not, just say "Who's this?"

Problem solved.

We've only talked over messenger, so no name attached to that. His sn doesn't give away any clues to his name. I seem to recall his name being something fairly common though. I think I'll just have to wait for him to call.

Have you talked on the phone yet? I'd start by initiating that. I met my DH online and we talked via AOLIM for a while before moving to phone calls ... then met in person.

Tell him you'd like to chat on the phone a bit before you get together. Ask him to call you and then not answer, let him leave a message and call him back.

I think it's a good idea to talk on the phone first because you can hide so much without your voice!!

Good Luck. That is totally something that would happen to me!

We already agreed to meet this weekend. Usually, I do talk to people on the phone first, but oh well. I just figured I'd go for it. But I would imagine he would call me to confirm, it is the proper thing to do. My other plan is to call him when I know he won't be able to answer (in class or at work) and hope his voice message has his name on it. But I don't like to be the first one to call a guy.

I didn't even think of the Seinfeld episode, but this is totally like that! My life is turning into a sitcom!

 

[blana]

*chuckles* Okay, so 15 years ago, I had to deal with somethign similar. Met a guy at a conference, but I'm STILL not sure if he ever told me his name. He looked me up through my college & started calling. I THINK he gave me his name the first time we talked, but then he'd just start talking after that. My roommie tried to get him to give her his name one time & he just laughed & told her I'd know who it was. Luckily, he was 2 states away & I when I moved out of the dorm, I never heard from him again. I still wonder what "Citadel boy"'s name really was....

 

[dawson5]

We've only talked over messenger, so no name attached to that. His sn doesn't give away any clues to his name. I seem to recall his name being something fairly common though. I think I'll just have to wait for him to call.



We already agreed to meet this weekend. Usually, I do talk to people on the phone first, but oh well. I just figured I'd go for it. But I would imagine he would call me to confirm, it is the proper thing to do. My other plan is to call him when I know he won't be able to answer (in class or at work) and hope his voice message has his name on it. But I don't like to be the first one to call a guy.

I didn't even think of the Seinfeld episode, but this is totally like that! My life is turning into a sitcom!

are you meeting at a restaurant? If so, ask if he has reservations and what name they would be under? good luck. I'm bad with names, so bad that I warn people when I meet them.

 

[amsyw]

I was thinking the phone thing too. Most people have their name on their voice mail. Give it a try. Just leave a message that you wanted to confirm for this weekend etc.


Also, wanted to say "good luck!" DH and I met online. Not through a dating site, but just a "local" chat room. We chatted a couple times, talked on the phone and then met. We hit it off from the 1st moment! We have now been married 9 years!

Back then it was still a bit taboo to meet online... you know all people online are crazies! So we didn't tell too many people. But now its very acceptable and we tell everyone!!

Of course we also got married in Vegas....


Have fun on your date!!!! (Whatever his name is!)

 

[Micca]

As a guy (albeit a long married, older one) I'd just ask. You've never even met, how offended could he be that you forgot his name? Besides, it'll give you something to talk/laugh about. If it works out, years from now you can tell the kids "I couldn't remember your father's name".