For the record I am a guy and in the future can you please remember that.
Since there is really no way to discern what 'gender' folks are here on the board, unless they have a name in their signature, I wouldn't be so offended that someone made a mistake. I'm sure it wasn't intentional. Perhaps you may want to put a 'name' in so that down the road others don't make this mistake.
Now....Disney says...1. refill mugs are good for this stay, this resort only, 2. no pool hopping, 3. no parking at resorts if not 'staying' there for longer than 3 hrs., etc., etc. Until Disney becomes more proactive in 'enforcing' their rules, people will stretch the rules to fit their particular situation. Just because you don't like it doesn't really matter does it??
If, and when, Disney decides that valet parking is only for those staying at a resort, then the rules will change. It really wouldn't be all that hard to enforce if Disney was upset about park goers parking in their valet lots. You would have to show your resort ID or get a 3 hr. pass...when that 3 hrs was up, the car would be towed. It would actually be very easy to enforce in the valet lots.
As I said before, I've been told by many CMs that the valet lots are for anyone who wants to pay the fee...where they go after they turn the keys/car over to valet is their business.
Nothing you can say is going to change that....Disney does not care. It's the same scenario when people were abusing the children's AP discount on rooms....they changed the parameters, now you can't book a room discount with a child's AP! If it bothers Disney, or they feel that guests are being adversely impacted by others using the valet lots, they they will change the 'rule'..only then. It's Disney's resort, they make, and enforce, their rules.
I still maintain that if you ask 5 different CMs something, you may get 4 different answers!!!! They want their guests to be happy, so will let them do just about anything as long as it does't impact other guests. And yes, that goes for the CMs that responded to my questions also.
Just wanted to show that I have gotten completely different respones to the same question you asked. Oh, and by the way...I have asked the question at the CR before, and gotten the answer that the valet lot is for anyone who wishes to pay to park there, not just those eating/shopping at the CR.