Tammy, my sincere condolonces. Concentrating on the "administrative details" is a good way to try and get through this unthinkable time. It's doing something constructive....you should you know your husband would be proud of you stepping up to keep the family going. When you can, you should use that
DVC membership to get away with your family. Maybe a trip to Vero would be even better than the go-go of WDW to take some time for you and your family to heal.